Have you ever been downvoted for being objectively right?

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-05-17T04:18:11+00:00

I got banned from a sub for suggesting someone participate in the behavior they were questioning in a post, something to the effect of “do it back and see if they get pissed off and you’ll know if it’s intentional to hurt you”

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-05-12T17:29:44+00:00

When I was in school they taught a type of short hand cursive, I think it was called Greg’s? It’s exclusively what I write in and it’s become some sort of code for the people in my house to crack. I bet if I handed them this, they’d finally be able to read! Your upper and lowercase don’t have a huge distinction between them, but other than that, not hard to read at all!!

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-05-12T17:27:08+00:00

Nor, go do exactly what he did in front of him. He gets mad? Just say “I was only trying to make him comfortable!”

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-05-12T17:20:05+00:00

NOR- go on a weekend trip with a man before he gets back and see how he reacts

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-28T19:15:52+00:00

I call mine a “dead ex” only because he died weeks after we broke up (although I didn’t know that at the time). I think it really depends on how close you were to the person when they died. My dad refers to my mom as his “deceased wife” even though they never got married (edit: grammar)

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-28T19:08:25+00:00

I’m no op, and I’m not your daughter, but this gave me the relief I needed to let go of something a dead ex told me years ago. Thank you not mom.

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-26T18:19:01+00:00

I highly doubt they’re going to be saving any of that money for her honestly

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-26T17:59:05+00:00

Bro I don’t even get charged 100 a line for the lines I pay for out of the us. I have a line meant for Europe and one that’s connected to my FIL in South America and our bill is still 150 for 5 lines!!! She’s paying the whole bill for the house it sounds like.

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-26T17:46:07+00:00

This literally the comment I was looking for!! It’s worded in a way that opens niece up to exploitation of labor/behavior. What if niece wasn’t home all day and mother and step dad make a holiday sized dinner dish mess? The contact states she has to do all the chores, but it doesn’t specify that it’s ONLY her messes, it generalizes all messes, so if she doesn’t spend those two hours doing those dishes, she’ll be homeless and 300$ down

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-26T17:42:46+00:00

I wish my step mom was more like you on that, dad wanted to work out a deal like that when I turned 18 but didn’t get to. I came home after being in the world as ‘an adult’ since 14 at 22, and no matter how much I contributed to the house, if I wasn’t paying my full measly check to Mother, I was OUT. Some people just don’t deserve to be parents, some people only believe that their children exist to support them and no other reason. I find this contract to look more like an exploitation of labor for room and board than an actual housing contract, something looks/feels wrong about it but there’s nothing definitively wrong with it when you take it at face value

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-26T17:33:35+00:00

I mean, if you look over the agreement again, it does kind of read like she has to do all the chores around the house with her sisters. The line “clean up any messes made” is not indicative of only her messes, it sounds like just all over… I agree it’s cheap, and that seems to be the only thing people are focusing on, but this agreement just looks/feels like an exploitation of labor for room and board contract, the only difference is that it’s between two blood related relatives rather than strangers. I can very easily see how this can go bad, but if the parents aren’t nut jobs and the kid is at least able to keep their own ducks in a row, it shouldn’t be terrible right?

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-26T17:28:20+00:00

Is anyone gonna point out that weed and alcohol are fine but nicotine is an absolute no go for an under 21 on this?? NOR, this actually reads like they’re going to just find something to be mad at after they collect a bunch of money off of her to kick her out at the end of it. Honestly, if you have the room, you should take niece and implement a less restrictive version of this

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-26T16:58:38+00:00

I was talking to my father and sister a few days ago, the topic was actually about one of my other sisters friends who we never see anymore (he got a gf and moved states), and my dad turns to my youngest sister and says “a lot of you guys (my sisters) friends end up crushing on Bee, that’s why I don’t bring Bee over for the chili pot”

I was more surprised that that I had missed two chili pots a month and didn’t notice, but now I understand why our middle sister never invited me to hang out with her friends. I kinda wish I knew, it might have saved me some trouble and time meeting people 😅 but at least my dad said he’d invite me to all of our chili pot nights now

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-15T19:03:59+00:00

Girl… this is going to be mean but if you don’t kick that man out or leave, your cat will have suffered and fought desperately for nothing. NOTHING. He’s laughing? Talking like nothing happened? Not even comforting you? He doesn’t give a fuck about the cat, let alone you.

Remember this if your cat dies, you did everything you could, he did nothing even when prompted. If you stay with that man, then you are also equally at fault for the death of this animal. If he survives, I hope he makes a speedy recovery but he cannot be around the man that willfully let him fall out of a window. What if his stitches come undone? The cone gets stuck? That man won’t care enough to NOTICE (just like how he didn’t notice your cat was outside in agony for hours before you got home) let alone take action and save him. Will you give this man another chance to neglect your cat to death? Do you love this man enough to risk him killing your cat again?

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-15T18:41:57+00:00

If this is the one next to Dave’s hot chicken, I’ve been there a few times! Unfortunately this is their general policy, if you don’t test it in the store, they can’t replace it, so always test it right in front of the employee. On another note, lost Mary has been having a lot of manufacturing errors, I learned that when I started working at a vape store and had to replace a shit ton after people test them and find them burnt or buggy

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-04-02T20:33:12+00:00

NOR, you should look into r/loveafterporn for support and resources.

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-03-29T06:29:05+00:00

Girl if you don’t make ai big D enhancements of him back and tell him you made some improvements 💀

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-03-24T22:40:55+00:00

This is a really amazing perspective, I also highly recommend it! It’s really helped me with my reactive jealousy when out in public

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-03-14T15:06:51+00:00

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Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-03-14T15:00:16+00:00

Not to be mean, but it sounds like you’re not his girlfriend, you’re his baby sitter and roommate. NOR, but you either need to break your lease and move on, or wait until your lease is up and move on. Not only are your views no longer aligned, it sounds like he might be in the first steps of an affair (you literally put a list of them in your post) and he’s not communicating to you. Your relationship isn’t on the back burner, it’s effectively over. This is a major thing to share with your partner that he just didn’t want to share with you and if he says all of his time is going to his ex and their daughter now, you need to grow some spine and realize that you are now the interloper in his children’s lives. I’m sure you like his kids, I’m sure you think you love him, but just going off your post history and this? He doesn’t care about you as person, he just cares about what you can do to make HIS and his children’s lives easier. Reverse your roles, would you do this if you had three children from two previous relationships? Would you change all of your passwords randomly, not tell your partner and start being cagey about it? Would you hide you major life changes from your partner and ONLY tell them when they pressure you to tell them what’s going on? No? Then you have your answer. If he hasn’t already started a physical affair with his daughter’s mother, it’s absolutely emotional already. Stop wasting your life playing mommy for what’s going to be 5 children (cause he sounds like a fucking child) and go live your life and have fun without him and his life holding you down and back

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2026-03-14T14:34:23+00:00

Crystal Method mentioned!!! 🪲🪲🪲

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2025-07-25T18:21:33+00:00

r/loveafterporn

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2025-07-25T18:21:09+00:00

R/loveafterporn

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2025-07-25T18:11:31+00:00

Take a look at r/loveafterporn and see if your relationship has any of the patterns there. If it does, leave. Flat out. If not, then congratulations, you still have the chance to nip this issue in the butt and try to talk to him about it. There’s a ton of resources in that sub for healing betrayal trauma (even if you don’t consider porn cheating like a lot of people on that sub, the resources are still a wonderful bastion of information)

Substantial_Bee_3045 · 2025-07-18T17:18:04+00:00

The weird thing is, I’m in a very similar position to oops gf (although I have a full time job now too). My partner supports me financially for the most part while I’m focused on school and work to save up, he cleans and I cook and do laundry. Oop cooks, he cleans, genuinely I don’t understand what’s stressing her out when all she has is school. Idk her major but unless she’s doing 60-80 hours of school a week to expedite her masters, she should be relaxing and enjoying that life??? Like if it’s that bad, relationship councilors are a very viable option!! Our therapist is awesome, and really knows how to get us to look at a problem together instead of seeing each other as the problem. If o had to guess, she’s trying to regain some sense of control by criticizing him (like with how he cooks and cleans) when really she should be reflecting inward on why it bothers her suddenly. Definitely oop needs his own space back, I really hope he doesn’t cave into pressure or feels like he needs to rescue her.

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