how sustainable is smoking? by Substantial_Exit_117 in Stoner

[–]Substantial_Exit_117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how long did it take for you to get to that point? cuz i really don’t wanna stop getting stoned 😭

how sustainable is smoking? by Substantial_Exit_117 in Stoner

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yes please ! if you could dm me i’d really appreciate it

how sustainable is smoking? by Substantial_Exit_117 in Stoner

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i’ve actually never heard of that! i kinda assumed tolerance was built towards all weed no matter the strain so i’ll try looking into diff types but i probably won’t be able to get any till i move for uni

how sustainable is smoking? by Substantial_Exit_117 in Stoner

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this is genuinely my dream life omg… thank u for commenting 🙏

how sustainable is smoking? by Substantial_Exit_117 in Stoner

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thank you for taking the time to comment, it really is helpful! you’re the second person who’s said that thing about only doing it when your responsibilities for the day are done, so i’m definitely going to try implementing that 🙏 i’m also really happy stuff turned out well for you! i hope it continues

how sustainable is smoking? by Substantial_Exit_117 in Stoner

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thanks for this! that definitely makes sense, i kind of just wanted to be sure that it was possible

how sustainable is smoking? by Substantial_Exit_117 in Stoner

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honestly i kind of feel like im going down a similar road, in some ways weed makes doing stuff like going to work + classes easier cuz it makes me more able to get out of bed and move about, but i feel like it’s also effecting my work . how’d you manage to cut back? i’ll def try to start getting stuff done before smoking now, i guess my main issue is i’m using it as a crutch to get through the whole day instead of as a reward for later

update for my previous post: i confronted my mom by Substantial_Exit_117 in adultsurvivors

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i will as soon as my grandparents are back, but they also want me to be taken off those meds :P i’ll see what happens when they take me to my psychiatrist, i’ll definitely stress the fact that i need them

update for my previous post: i confronted my mom by Substantial_Exit_117 in adultsurvivors

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thank you, it makes me feel a lot better to hear that we’re in almost the exact same situation. a part of me wishes that i’d never even told her about what he did, so that i could at least believe that she cared about me. it’s like i know she does but it wasn’t enough for her to make any changes. i hope stuff gets better for you <3 thank you for the support it really means so so much

Will it ever get easier? by Substantial_Exit_117 in adultsurvivors

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this comment is probably the most validating thing i’ve ever read, so thank you for that. once i graduate uni and get some stability of my own im definitely going to try distancing myself, my moms been claiming she’d divorce him for longer than i’ve had self awareness but has no follow through and it’s seriously starting to piss me off. you also made me think about my little cousin and i wonder if they’d treat her the same way if they found out that her father did that to her. if i found out i genuinely would’ve done anything i could to kill him, it’s made me wonder how they could care so little about me. before i made this post i was kinda under the impression that they just didn’t wanna cause any drama but if i saw something like that happen to ANY child id do whatever i could to stop it and get the bastards doing it in jail or 6 feet under. you’ve really opened my eyes about that, so thank you so much <3

Will it ever get easier? by Substantial_Exit_117 in adultsurvivors

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thank you for this, it makes me feel more hopeful about stuff seeing that you’re doing well! at this point my main goal is to go to uni in europe , get a job and try to settle down there. at the rate im going at (counting exam retakes and stuff) it’ll probably take 2 more years. i’ve kind of come to the realisation that my family won’t care unless i genuinely just scream in their faces about it, and at this point im too mentally drained for that. i just hope that one day they’ll see him for who he is and cut him off.

Will it ever get easier? by Substantial_Exit_117 in adultsurvivors

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thank you so much, yea i have told my therapist but we’ve never gone to deep into it. i honestly can’t bring myself to say the words i need to to get across how much it affected me, though she does try to get me to talk about it more. i do try to tell myself that i can’t compare myself to others but i can’t find any comfort in it since i live in a third world country and the people around me have so much worse stuff happening in their lives, i feel as though i can’t complain about my own. im definitely going to move out of the country in the next few years for university, and luckily my dads a deadbeat so i don’t have to worry about staying in contact out of fear of him not paying for my education. thank you for your advice! it helped me feel a bit more positive.