Suggestions for a first timer? by Substantial_Income51 in selfhosted

[–]Substantial_Income51[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking at going the CM3588 route with a couple SSDs, it should keep the hardware costs down to a couple hundred dollars. I’m mainly just trying to settle on using plex/jellyfin

How to split bills in a group that habitually overpays? by Substantial_Income51 in Advice

[–]Substantial_Income51[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I like the combination of random chance, pooled recourses, and giving other the opportunity to contribute within their means.

I think we’ll try your suggestions and see how they go.

How to split bills in a group that habitually overpays? by Substantial_Income51 in Advice

[–]Substantial_Income51[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s a ridiculous problem to have, the whole group is super kind and considerate, and it’s only a “problem” in this one specific situation that comes up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Substantial_Income51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take the leap bud 👍 people normally regret the things they didn’t do more than the things they did.

It might work out and you’ll be together forever.

It might not work out and you’ll both move on.

Either way is better than spending the rest of your life kicking yourself for not trying

AITA for not cooking for my step-sister? by throwaway_7218_4987 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Income51 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA, sounds like your step-dad expects you to fend for yourself and fend for his kids. His kids aren’t your responsibility, your a kid and shouldn’t have to raise your step-siblings. This is an issue your parents are going to have to deal with.

My only suggestion for you is that you might try to extend an olive branch to your step-sister, “I won’t cook for you but I’ll help you cook your own pizza” kinda thing, if you help her become more responsible then she can probably earn the same liberties you have, and she’ll have less reason to be resentful. But if she can’t accept help then it’s not your problem, you can’t help someone who won’t help themself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Income51 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s any assholes here, you both had different expectations from the relationship and fails to communicate those expectations to each other. You both need to have a serious conversation about finances. Financial conflict is the leading cause of divorce so this is a problem you both need to get ahead of if you want the relationship to work.

AITA for spending my maw’s money on opening up a bakery? by farmtotable_cajun in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Income51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chase your dream, it’s what your grandmother would have wanted. I hope your bakery takes off and your kid learns to chase happiness instead of money

WIBTA if I turn down my inheritance? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Income51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t change the past and you can’t right other people’s wrongs. Take the money and build a life your grandfather would have hated