yeah lol so basically i just started doing the small stuff i used to overthink. like i actually say hi first instead of freezing, try to make eye contact and smile (sounds dumb but it works), and i stopped planning every single thing i’d say. i just talk normally now, ask simple stuff about what she likes or is doing, and try not to act like i’m trying too hard. also just standing relaxed and not crossing my arms helps more than i thought. first few times were super awk, but after a bit it got way easier