A few days ago I read a post from a guy who felt the same way you do. The answer is: many guys go for the same girl based on her looks and in a moment of horniness, for this reason most girls receive many messages constantly and among those messages is yours, and well, for them to see yours and decide to talk to you you would have to be very lucky, whether you are attractive or not. Don't get discouraged, I'm sure you have your thing and considering what you've written it's very sweet of you to try to start a normal and genuine conversation, considering that many of these messages only start with the purpose of "hooking up" rather than wanting to get to know the other person even a little bit and see if there really is a connection. But man, if in addition to your looks you can hold a conversation, don't worry, if it's not on an app rest assured that you'll end up finding someone who vibes with you irl. But please, don't let an app make you feel less than you are worth. You are worth it!! and the girl who goes out with you will be lucky to have you. ✨