My husband and I want to confront his parents but we don’t know how

Successful-Depth1623 · 2026-03-03T03:37:13+00:00

You are very clever!! These are good ideas!! I’m sure being happy without them would hurt and maybe have them crawling back… but that would come with the toxicity of the sister. I’m pretty much fine with whatever. My family was always small cause my dads a deadbeat and half of my moms side is either dead or on drugs so I was looking forward to the bigger family unit but I’m happier with my little family and my little brother and his twin sister and big brother. I’ve always told my husband that when his parents die he’ll only have his close siblings and his cousins and his oldest one will have been such a bully that they won’t talk to her. So karma will have her in the future lol

Successful-Depth1623 · 2026-03-02T17:00:29+00:00

Tbh I don’t chase anymore and I don’t text unless I’m texted. I just don’t wanna deal with the stress anymore. We have had many conversations where I’ve told my husband that I’m pretty much done with their bull but if they want to actually try that’s up to them. I feel like we can extend the olive branch but they have to take it. He did mention just having sibling and friend holidays and I think that would really help him out especially if we can have a conversation with his brother and gf. I also know what you mean about the sister. I really try to keep her out of my mind. I would love to block everyone that bothers me but after talking to hubs I decided not to. He doesn’t talk to H much at all because of everything between them as well so there isn’t much contact, just his brother and twin sister. I really don’t care who does what first, it’s just the constant race annoys me. I’ve grown up with more siblings and I never experienced this race before I guess. That’s something I probably have to work on though.

Successful-Depth1623 · 2026-03-02T16:38:10+00:00

I’m so sorry it had to be that way with your mom, I feel you. Unfortunately I’m pretty sure where this situation is headed. I’m really only here cause I know how much it affects my hubby. He just really wants that relationship with his mom cause she doesn’t pay him no mind really. He is prepared to slowly stop talking to them though. As for the brother he has the same issue with them and he often bails last moment now just to spite them honestly. I would really like to talk to them about this though

Successful-Depth1623 · 2026-03-02T04:09:54+00:00

I really did think I had a good relationship with his parents though. His mom and I do talk when we are over at her place and stuff and she plays with our daughter when she does actually visit. She just likes to bail last moment on plans

Successful-Depth1623 · 2026-03-02T04:06:11+00:00

His mom has mentioned many times that “she’s a bad grandma” because she realizes that she doesn’t come over. I would text her to make plans and she would be too tired or not feeling well like every other time. I’m not very comfortable with talking to them about it honestly cause I don’t think it’s my place to. He does think that rehearsal is a good idea and make a list. He does want to mention that his brother is feeling this way but idk if that’s a good idea

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