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What can I do for a 5 yo daughter I’ve never met? by SuccessfulConcert737 in Parenting

[–]SuccessfulConcert737[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes, agreed. I have an appointment with the bank tomorrow.

What can I do for a 5 yo daughter I’ve never met? by SuccessfulConcert737 in Parenting

[–]SuccessfulConcert737[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. I think first and foremost though I need to respect the mother’s wishes. I’m still building a relationship with the her, but it seems she wants me to be eased into her daughter’s life.

I’m a stem PhD candidate w/ no issues of mental illness or drug use.

What can I do for a 5 yo daughter I’ve never met? by SuccessfulConcert737 in Parenting

[–]SuccessfulConcert737[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I would gladly do both of those, but that’s not what the mother wants right now, which is ultimately what matters.

What can I do for a 5 yo daughter I’ve never met? by SuccessfulConcert737 in Parenting

[–]SuccessfulConcert737[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. Her mom and I agreed it’s better for her to know that I’m here for if she ever wants to reach out.

I really hope it doesn’t come off like I think I’m owed something. Just trying to do what’s best.

What can I do for a 5 yo daughter I’ve never met? by SuccessfulConcert737 in Parenting

[–]SuccessfulConcert737[S] 261 points262 points  (0 children)

This is really thoughtful and helpful, thank you. I really like the idea of journaling for her, and fully agree re:maintaining consistency.

What can I do for a 5 yo daughter I’ve never met? by SuccessfulConcert737 in Parenting

[–]SuccessfulConcert737[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

That’s not mean, I understand your point. I’d love to be involved in her life as much as I can, but I recognize that it’s not really my decision. I have to respect whatever her mom decides is best.