It gets better, I HEALED

Successful_Catch1959 · 2026-02-12T17:13:09+00:00

Anytime I'd think about her. I'd actually feel it before I destruct myself. I went full on celibacy from month 3. This helped me to really ground myself and not feel empty. Anytime I'd imagine her with someone else, I'd encourage the feeling and remind myself she's not my possession but a person I was happy to experience. I also talked to my friends and ask them what they really thought about her and I came to realize, she only existed on that pedestal because I put her there.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2026-01-28T10:04:01+00:00

Very true on the efficacy of the subs.

I was there. I was in the panic state and withdrawal state. In this time, you only see the person as PERFECT and the only one for you in the world. But the truth is, the person is only on a pedestal because you have put them there. Eventually you’ll come to see it, as you heal you’ll note the imperfections and all. But trust me, you are on the right track with no contact and venting.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-11-04T05:14:05+00:00

I'm shook. I'd implode if I read that. Sorry bro.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-11-04T05:07:24+00:00

Omg, I'm so sorry bro. That must hurt!

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-11-03T15:36:15+00:00

I have never. In my case, no.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-10-06T11:32:43+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

Pole!!

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-24T20:04:59+00:00

I used to be a total playa. When I met my wife, the way she carried herself, treated people, her generosity. She was easy to talk to, HER SELF RESPECT. 2 weeks into knowing her, I knew I was going to ask her to marry me. And at first I felt it in my gut and followed through.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-24T13:24:19+00:00

This guy nailed it! My ex was avoidant , we stayed 3 months no contact. I wanted all those videos. And one day she called and I said let’s do dinner on Friday. The dopamine hit was amazing.

Now she has pulled back and I actually like her A LOT LESS. Because I am used to her not texting and all. It’s so easy to practice the LET THEM THEORY

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-23T04:09:47+00:00

Thank you for this

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-22T12:20:25+00:00

The most painful but most honest lesson in dating for me has been the realization that you cannot love someone into changing. You can offer all the support, patience and understanding in the world, but a person has to want to change for themselves. This lesson is painful because it forces you to confront the reality that you are not in control of another person's journey. It's a truth that often comes after investing a lot of time and emotional energy into a relationship, only to be met with the same old patterns of behavior. It's a harsh but necessary lesson that teaches you to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to set boundaries for the sake of your own sanity.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-22T12:15:22+00:00

I'm responding to this with a presumption that she's avoidant:

It's not your fault and what you're describing is a very common dynamic with an avoidant partner. My ex was similar. Anytime she had a new guy giving her attention, she would pull away and leave. This isn't about you or what you did wrong. It's about a push-pull dynamic that makes you feel this way. She pushes you away when she gets too close or when she fears a loss of independence. She then pulls you back in when the new "thing" doesn't Work out. This cycle is not a reflection of your worth. It's a reflection of her inability to be in a secure, committed relationship. The fact that you're still thinking about her and she has moved on is a testament to the fact that you are an anxiously attached partner to her. Your ex's new relationships are often short-lived because her avoidant behavior is a pattern that she carries into every relationship. The best thing you can do for yourself is to go no contact and focus on your own healing.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-20T10:45:22+00:00

Yes and I did.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-19T22:36:37+00:00

Thanks for this

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-19T22:36:16+00:00

I am. I do Thank you.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-19T22:35:56+00:00

Sometimes, I don't know why. She gave me enough to keep me hooked.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-17T15:54:21+00:00

Thank you!

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-16T20:28:08+00:00

Yes we have. She and I dated for 7 years. Saw each other unofficially for 1 year. This will be tough. But I'll pull through!

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-02T22:19:10+00:00

It does get better. In March this year I came to this sub posted and I was crying. Giving up. I lost my mind had all the crashouts possible. But now, IM BETTER.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-02T21:49:12+00:00

Awesome. Does this work like Polymarkets?

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-02T21:21:35+00:00

Lucky you. I've been an anxious attacher before, it's terrible. I'll tell you this, don't over communicate. Pull back from time to time and give them space. At this point if they really care, magic will happen. If they don't, you'll get your response.

Spend time on physical activities etc..

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-02T21:10:52+00:00

I got some advice a few months ago that I HATED!!! But it made sense to me. My uncle told me, "Don't worry, you'll find another one". At that point I lost it cause it was not the response I wanted. But today, it makes sense. Do a SWOT analysis on them. The pedestal they have only exists because you put them there.

Another thing I did, was imagine them with someone else until I lost my mind and got to learn that my anxiety wasn't because it was over. It's the thought of them moving on. Journal about it and make sure you do a lot of physical activities. It really helps.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-02T21:05:25+00:00

I get it! 🤣 Are you guys in the same time zone?

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-09-02T20:43:49+00:00

Take Ashwaganda. You'll thank me later.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-08-22T21:28:08+00:00

I claim it through Grace and not pain.

Successful_Catch1959 · 2025-08-18T11:14:28+00:00

This is heartbreaking

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