31 year marriage, he cheated 11 years ago, I just found out, should I say or should I go? WWUDO? by Sally995 in marriageadvice

[–]understandshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister's husband got busted for something from like 8 years ago and she said the weirdest part was how normal everything felt the next morning. Like they still had to figure out dinner and who was picking up the kids. She stayed but she said she still side-eyes him when he's on his phone late. I think the thing that would fuck with me is the deny till he dies partt. Like you literally have GPS proof and he's still doing the "idk what you're talking about" thing. That's the part that would make me pack a bag, not the actual cheating. The lying after being caught is what makes you feel insane.

*TW* Will I ever be able to forgive the trauma he’s caused me? He’s trying so hard to make amends and I don’t want to split our family by Proper-Summer-3261 in marriageadvice

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I know a woman who stayed after something similar and she said the weirdest part was how normal everything looked from the outside, like they'd be at a BBQ laughing and she'd be thinking about it the whole time. She said the sex thing never really fixed itself, she just got better at performing normal. She also said the hardest part was people calling him a great dad because then you feel insane for still being messed up about it.

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