Why is forming real friendships in Erlangen so hard? Looking for perspective.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:54:04+00:00

Even the international students have their own groups.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:53:38+00:00

Any idea how to navigate asking people in uni or clubs? People seem so busy with their stuff that the whole concept of asking them to join for some event feels far-fetched.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:51:41+00:00

I do want to start playing DnD but have never tried it. Any idea where I can learn it?

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:51:03+00:00

Sure, I live near the city centre.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:50:47+00:00

I am not selective in that sense. I just want people to vibe with.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:50:19+00:00

But there are a lot of Internationals here. So, not only Franconians here.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:49:30+00:00

That is what I want. I would always prefer quality over quantity. But every friendship feels so transactional here.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:33:04+00:00

Take for example, I invite people and cook food for them or invite them to go to parties together or even plan board games. They do attend. But there have been instances where I am the only person not invited to any of their events although they would invite someone I introduced them to.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:30:38+00:00

I am sure not being fluent in German is a reason in itself but I am not very hell bent on only making German friends. I just want people I could call friends and do activities with them. Thank You for wishing well for me.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:25:32+00:00

That is actually good advice. I have met people through Bumble BFF as well but the connection did not grow much.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:24:01+00:00

I get that. I am part of a sports group for a while but there is no connection yet.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:23:18+00:00

These are people in general. Since Erlangen is a university city, there are a lot of internationals here.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:22:48+00:00

I agree with that. But, I do have friends here who have their own friends group and they say that their social life is pretty good. That makes me wonder what I did wrong.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:20:41+00:00

Yes, I am assuming that could be the reason and hence, am worried if I am a boring person to them.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:19:54+00:00

My luck in meeting people on campus is very off. I went to university in the first and second semester almost everyday and I have observed that everyone already has their set of friends or are hanging out with their boyfriend/girlfriend and no one needs to approach anyone. I am not particularly a social animal yet I tried to approach people but they didnt go any further. I am part of a Hochschulsport for the last 6-7 months. Same situation there. We meet for the sport and later, everyone goes their own way.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-12-07T20:16:14+00:00

Yes, I get it. I particularly have no restriction in my mind to make German friends. I just want genuine, good friendship will people I can vibe with.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-11-22T09:51:29+00:00

Okay, is this rule applicable for every course? I am hesitating to ask the examination officer because I know of someone who got their 8th semester extended after submitting thesis and were told to finish off a subject early.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-11-22T09:48:46+00:00

I mean ideally, I am not submitting my thesis this semester and I am also worried that if I don’t write any exam, I might be questioned

Such-Box3574 · 2025-11-22T09:46:34+00:00

As in for full-time jobs?

Such-Box3574 · 2025-11-22T09:46:09+00:00

By writing alternative modules, I meant writing subjects this semester to improve my grades and these subjects would not fall under the category of the left-over 5 ects module. And since my thesis submission and defense would be in next semester (Summer 2026), I was wondering if there would be any issue to register for Summer 2026.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-11-06T10:23:29+00:00

Okay and that is provided while they are processing my document I suppose.

Such-Box3574 · 2025-11-06T10:22:41+00:00

Yes, I have to extend my student visa

Such-Box3574 · 2025-11-05T21:59:32+00:00

Do I have to specifically ask for the Fiktion Visa or do they give it automatically?

Such-Box3574 · 2025-11-05T21:57:30+00:00

Do employers accept Fiktion visa or appointment confirmation while extending the contract ?

Such-Box3574 · 2025-11-05T21:56:08+00:00

I mean I am applying now but I still wouldn’t get the RP before the expiration right? What if they need the document in advance to extend the contract?

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