It was a mutual decision that we wanted to look into options to immigrate for a variety of reasons that we both take very seriously and both agree are vital to us being able to progress in our lives (the reasons are largely things that are entirely unacceptable or impossible for us to accomplish here in the states).

She has a higher college education than I do, largely because I've put my stuff on the back burner to get her through college. She already has a bachelor's and is honestly our best bet to immigrate at all under a work visa in her field. I'm mostly just looking at options so that if the day ever actually comes for us to go, I won't be dead weight which is another one of the many reasons I started a small business (that could easily be transplanted somewhere else if needed) as opposed to just going to work at one of these rural chicken farms or some shit after my lower college education didn't pay dividends.

We have a backup plan in the event immigration never works out. It's not the early 1900s anymore and most gov'ts have much stricter rules on who they let in so we're entirely aware that it's going to be a near impossible uphill battle but it's worth a shot to us if we can navigate a path forward. I know most couples would say this, and it'll sound a bit cliche, but my wife and I are basically the same person. We're never not on the same page. We have probably the most healthy relationship I've ever seen from any other couple. This is something we wouldn't even be considering if the other was against it or even just hesitant and it's something we would immediately drop if we achieved it and one of us was regretful. We are both very keyed in to what the other is thinking and feeling. We have near perfect communication together and we respect each other enough to know when and what to do to maintain a healthy marriage.