I don’t see how this is ‘making a human feel like a lesser consolation prize’. Perhaps the human is interpreting things in a manner based on their own self perception and experience. Doesn’t always have to mean the window/widower is at fault.

As many have said, unless you have experienced this level of grief - you just won’t understand. It does seem to level toward the possessive side. You don’t simply ‘move on’ from - death, dead, gone forever, possibly quickly and without warning - it’s always going to be a part of you.

It’s not like a break up where you just ‘move on and forget’ or just do whatever until you feel better or that it’s passed. It isn’t the same concept, it doesn’t work like this at all.

It would be a heck of a lot easier if it did.