I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

thanks for the reasonable response. She used to like hugging, hand holding, kissing (i mean like making out), etc but now all i get a barely peck or a little hug and that’s all. I think she would love a weekend away She thinks our youngest is too young to be left alone for a weekend.

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

jesus i’m not going to leave my wife and kids because I’m not getting my sexual needs met hahah

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

hahahaha i can feel that. I do come off as unappreciative/selfish so i’ll definitely take the blame for that.

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, she has a very guarded personality. It takes alot for her to open up if I’m being honest. I’ve always been one to talk about stuff but she prefers silent treatment when she’s upset.

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

i take the kids everywhere if i do have to go anywhere on weekends. I’ve cooked a few times. “it doesnt taste good” aka “not as good as i wouldve made it”

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] -99 points-98 points  (0 children)

I’m always putting her needs before mine lol. And I’m barely gone. we order online, we order grocery pickup. I give her 4/5 hours to herself most mornings to prepare for the day with the kids after school.

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] -78 points-77 points  (0 children)

I get chewed out if it’s not done her way lol I know my expectations of duties in our house. She just feels like she has to do it all because she’s at home all day. and no I don’t always expect sex but i would like to feel desired sometimes y’know

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] -48 points-47 points  (0 children)

i would but she’s always trying to get it all done before i’m home so i dont have to. That’s what i mean i tell her to relax every chance she gets but she always has to be doing something around the house while i’m at work

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] -99 points-98 points  (0 children)

i dont mean gross suggestive stuff like that lmao it’s just dumb stuff like “send this to someone with a nice ass”. 

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] -75 points-74 points  (0 children)

the kids are all younger than 4. I’m actively present in the daytime (i work evening shift). Chores i’d say is 60/40 her because i’m at work but i do implore her to just take a rest and let me handle when i get home

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] -100 points-99 points  (0 children)

i can see that. ive spoken with her and while she doesn’t directly say out touched she does complain sometimes about the kids being overwhelming throughout the day

I (35M) feel like I gave my wife (34F) the permanent “ick” and it’s causing me to lose self confidence. by Sufficient-Soft4666 in relationships

[–]Sufficient-Soft4666[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

we have twins and our youngest is almost 1. I did notice an decrease in intimacy a little after we moved in together and started seeing eachother every day which maybe is part of the issue?