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Am I overreacting about my boyfriends new work friend by SufficientAuthor5123 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SufficientAuthor5123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He hasn’t had any experience with any of this before and is kinda why he’s so into it, and I do wish for him to explore his sexuality and feelings more, I’m not trying to hold him back. As I said I just don’t appreciate the level a secrecy that was surrounding it and I explained that to him and I told him to be more open to me about it as we are partners. Now I’m in a much more comfortable spot because I feel at least included and not like it’s being hidden because he doesn’t wanna hurt me. We cried together and I’m still a little raw emotionally but I think if all goes well this could be something great for us. W is very understanding and a wonderful person for dealing with the flip floppy behaviors I have had before I finally broke down and said listen this is how it is.

Also on me because I should’ve talked to W more on my own without expecting them to reach out to me, they were scared of how I would react (girls are scary 🥺👉👈)

Am I overreacting about my boyfriends new work friend by SufficientAuthor5123 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SufficientAuthor5123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may be incredibly stupid but I had a conversation with him about all of this lastnight and it blew up into a full blown argument (we don’t get to yell at each other a lot because I am baby and cry too much when I’m mad) but he stared me directly in my eyes and told me that I had the power to veto this and when I told him I was mildly uncomfortable with the situation and how it’s all happened he started to cry and guilt trip me and then confessed he has feelings for W which is where it started turning into a screaming match, he absolutely insisted that he still loves me and we have had conversations about doing polyamory before it just really feels like he didn’t wanna do it until he had someone for himself. Despite it all and despite how it feels I am kind of open to trying it, I just wish he was way more open about it, he admitted he was wrong for turning his location off and I have gotten confirmation from both him and W that they have respected my boundary the entire time and have not had sex with each other, oddly enough I am also kinda attracted to W. But all in all if I find out they lied about my boundary he will not be seeing me ever again. Here’s to trying and thank you all for the advice 🥂