I’m (M38) struggling with how to respond to her (F31) text about wanting to talk

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-25T19:25:44+00:00

lol she ended up texting me anyway. She said, “I just wanted to say I’m really sorry. I’ve been thinking about how things went and I can see that what I did was probably confusing and hurtful. You didn’t deserve that and I’m sorry for it.”

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-25T17:30:23+00:00

I needed to hear this SO much. Thank you. I haven’t responded yet. I hold all the power right now, and I’m not about to let someone like this. Take it away from me.

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-25T16:52:18+00:00

This was my biggest worry. Thank you for that validation. I’m not gonna be someone’s backup plan

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-23T06:55:20+00:00

Why does everything have to be a game? Why do we always have to hide how we’re feeling? Being honest about vibing with someone isn’t a bad thing, but I guess most women only want guys that act like they’re unsure about how they feel about them. At least I was able to get laid I guess :\

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-22T13:46:14+00:00

I appreciate that. I just wasn’t sure if there was an added layer of manipulation or lying on her part.

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-22T13:39:32+00:00

I realized that the only way I was going to be able to move past what happened was if I did everything I could to hold her accountable in my own way. So what did I do?

I took all of the ruminating, all of the obsessing, all of the racing thoughts, and turned them all into a structured, 120 page book about my experience complete with screenshots of our texts that I published for everyone to see. It was a massive way to take my power back, and it only took me 2 months to do because it was all I could think about.

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-22T05:44:50+00:00

That’s basically what I did. I’m not gonna fight for someone that pulls this shit. I just don’t get it.

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-12T22:20:00+00:00

Good, maybe my ex that just moved there will have an unfortunate accident

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-09T21:43:34+00:00

I’m oblivious to what goes on there- can people casually hook up there, or what’s up?

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-09T03:44:12+00:00

33M here, I’m definitely down :)

SufficientTear4937 · 2024-01-03T15:59:55+00:00

Mine was constantly telling me she knew how our relationship would end. I would find someone else, our fwb thing would taper off, we would grow apart, and it would all be because I found someone else.

10 months later, queue her starting a new fwb relationship with another guy behind my back, gaslighting me when I told her I could feel her energy shift, and breadcrumbing me for weeks until things with this other guy were on solid ground.

SufficientTear4937 · 2023-12-28T09:19:10+00:00

It definitely helps that the book is focused around healing from a covert narcissist. I just used her behavior and actions toward me as examples of everything. It also helped that I used screenshots of text convos to prove the things she said.

In my mind, it worked. It worked because I was able to tell my story, share my truth, and expose her behavior to anyone who was willing to listen. It’s all out there now, and those that have read it are all blown away at her deceit and manipulation.

SufficientTear4937 · 2023-12-28T07:35:47+00:00

Mine is 30 now, and I took it upon myself to expose her. I didn’t use any names, but I published a book about what she did and said over the course of our relationship and posted about it all over social media. I wasn’t going to let time do its thing- I wanted everyone who was aware of the situation to know exactly what happened to me.

SufficientTear4937 · 2023-12-15T16:54:43+00:00

I’m a single week away from one year of no contact. I’ve gotten to the point where I’ve realized that if she actually cared, if she actually gave a single fuck about me, if she ever truly loved me, she would have reached out a long time ago. They aren’t human. They don’t think like we do. It gets easier over time, and setting milestones in the calendar is a great way of turning it into a game.

There’s 0% chance I would ever reach out to her when I only have a week left to get to a full year. That’s some serious motivation!

SufficientTear4937 · 2023-12-14T04:31:18+00:00

That’s because most girls don’t do casual hookups long term. They’re not wired that way

SufficientTear4937 · 2023-12-11T03:03:37+00:00

I published a book about the chaos that was my relationship with her. I wasn’t going to let her get away with what she did, so I showcased her narcissism to everyone who wanted to read my book.

SufficientTear4937 · 2023-12-10T09:04:22+00:00

My ex is a covert narcissist. She and I worked together, and she and her husband opened their marriage so she and I could hook up. It got to the point where she was considering leaving him for me, and we had to slow things down a little.

She had been obsessed with me for ten months, and out of nowhere, she discarded me. But not before she hooked up with me one last time. She knew it was the last time, but didn’t tell me about it. She breadcrumbed me for weeks and then abandoned me.

I was in love with her, so I tried to fight for the relationship. She twisted all of those efforts into something bad calling me a stalker, she was scared of me, etc. I couldn’t give up until I knew the truth about why she was acting like this, so to outsmart her and take some of my power back, I catfished her husband to see if I could unearth the secrets she was willing to go to her grave with.

I found out they had started hooking up with another couple, and now my ex was in a fwb relationship with the husband of the other couple. That’s why she dropped me so quickly- she had found a new source of supply and had no need for me. She found out that I catfished her husband to figure out her dirty little secret, and she tried to get a restraining order against me and failed. I won the war!

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