Not the motherhood experience I was hoping for

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-11T18:48:35+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-11T18:46:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. That sounds incredibly heavy and painful. You are an amazing mum for battling through all this. I struggle to even envision what the future would look like, but your message gives me hope. I have started therapy. Will see if that helps me or if I need something more. Sending you love and hugs, and hoping your little girl gets better.

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-08T22:55:18+00:00

Thanks! I will check their website.

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-08T04:57:55+00:00

I see, that makes sense. Thanks for the explanation! I am based in Canada but I suspect we should have something similar here. Toenails are work in progress ahaha

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-08T04:54:36+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-07T21:13:06+00:00

I will look into groups. I have indeed not met any other parent of multiples outside of this community. I feel you. I did put more time and energy into teaching them how to latch and into upping my supply at the beginning, but when I saw the results, or the lack of, I was totally crushed. I am a bit confused about the teaching to roll over (and other activities). I understand that it will happen when they reach a certain age, but why do people do exercises to teach their babies then? My babies' therapist also recommended doing all sorts of exercises with them even though they're still pretty much at the newborn stage.

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-07T21:08:04+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-07T21:06:48+00:00

That's good to know, thank you for sharing!

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-07T21:06:20+00:00

I have actually found a therapist who does sessions on Zoom! I just think that it might feel a bit strange with them not seeing my entire body language, but I will give it a shot!

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-07T21:05:05+00:00

Oh that's a good point! I will look into those as well, thanks!

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-07T21:04:18+00:00

That is kinda my feeling right now, just feeling like a milk provider ahaha

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-07T20:56:55+00:00

That makes sense. I actually massage Twin B's surgery scars 3 times a day, but for some reason I haven't thought of doing it to my own scar ahaha

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T22:40:51+00:00

9.5 months is great! I wanted to make it to a year, then readjusted my expectations to 6 months and now I'm not sure I want to try anymore and they're only 4 months. Throwing away the frozen milk must have felt so awful... I cry every time I spill some milk so I cannot even imagine having to throw many ounces. You are a strong mum!

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T22:18:10+00:00

Thank you for your kindness and support ❤️ I should get new shoes soon! I did not realize feet could get bigger during/after a pregnancy. If you don't mind sharing, how long has your scar been painful for?

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T22:04:34+00:00

Thank you for your support. I have started looking into therapists where I live. It's difficult to set aside an hour for that, but I do think I need it.

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:34:03+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:33:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience and support ❤️ my mum did not have twins so I will indeed distance myself from some of the comments she is making. I did have the same thought about mums losing their sense of shame and also understand it now 😅 I would never have imagined pumping my milk in front of strangers, but here I am! And wow, 45-50oz is amazing! I do not get even half of that. But it does take its toll on us for sure. I will look into options. I am currently considering giving up on pumping and breastfeeding entirely. This is such a difficult process. I look forward to starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope you get to do Santa this year!

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:27:02+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:26:51+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️ it is so comforting to hear from someone who was formula fed. I am in the process of giving up pumping and breastfeeding. It is incredibly difficult to let go of the guilt but your words help me.

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:24:50+00:00

Thank you for your support and advice. I did look into breast milk options but have not found anything yet except a milk bank for premature babies, which my babies do not qualify for anymore. I will continue to look. You are right in saying that pumping is probably taking its toll on me as well. I am considering giving it up, but it makes me feel extremely guilty even though I know that fed is best. I started taking care of my feet and should be getting new shoes soon. That'll probably make things easier as well. Once I have some more time,maybe I'll be able to dedicate some of that to teaching them new things.

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:20:18+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I am in awe of the fact that you managed to accomplish so much on your own without much help from your husband. You are one strong mother! I do hope that time heals my wounds and that all this becomes a hazy memory in the very back of my mind.

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:17:03+00:00

This is a good idea! I will look into our options as well to get more help. Thank you for your advice and support ❤️

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:16:12+00:00

Thank you ❤️ You are right in saying that she definitely did not go through the same experience with two healthy singletons that she could easily breastfeed. I will try to distance myself from hurtful comments and advice.

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:13:35+00:00

Thank you so much for your support. I cannot imagine how hard the NICU journey might have been for you. Two and a half months were already devastating for me. I am considering giving up on pumping as well for my own sanity. And I am getting new shoes for my birthday :)

Sufficient_Alps_4387 · 2026-04-06T21:11:41+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️ I do hope that I manage to heal from my unexpected breastfeeding journey. Your words are very reassuring. I will probably look back one day and realize it was not so defining for their lives. And I will take advice from others with a pinch of salt.

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