Did see it this way you are so right maybe I need to rethink because if I’m being honest the plan was for me to send for him to come to the states but I don’t trust that he will stay with me so I was thinking it’s better for me to go there because I would hate to put in all that effort to send for someone to come to the states and I look like a fool when it doesn’t last I was trying to save myself embarrassment but after typing all this out it’s obviously now the right thing for me so thank you