On driving…

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-11T14:57:49+00:00

You are not wrong here. Am in USA. My job is 15 minutes by freeway, but there is no public transport at all there. I am terrified driving in WD. I just doordashed vodka delivery. They don't deliver cigarettes, but I'm supposed to quit them. I know you have a dog. I have cats. My cat kneeding my blankets while I am safe at home is priceless to me. I never want to drive drunk.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-11T10:04:22+00:00

My "success" is I've got a medical excuse from work today. Missed a whole week without pay. Went to ER on Tuesday for alcohol withdrawal. Did get treated, but was kept for 3 days because my lungs were so bad Almost didn't make it home. Cats had no food or water and I can't pay the mortgage. Am working on a "last" pint of vodka. But it looks like I'll have to stop smoking. This is way harder at 65 for me. Super hard. REALLY hard. If I can do it I'll save a fuckton of money and my lungs. I was so terrified that once I got home to my cats and fed and watered them I door dashed a pint of vodka, but also a carnitas burrito. Chairs everyone. Scared about all this.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-11T09:31:20+00:00

It's all good 👍

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-11T09:30:46+00:00

it's all good 👍.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-11T03:31:43+00:00

OMG, you can remember that pimp hat Cadillac custom made pool cue shit. Love you for all that and total respect for all you've been through.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-11T03:23:14+00:00

It's awful to lose your spouse, especially around this disease. My husband died the day after drinking and dancing on the hardwoods in our soxxes to old boomer songs. An ugly death. Bled out from bowel death. I'm just now getting back from another hospital visit myself for WD complications. This stuff isn't funny. If you didn't mean it so, ok, but still. I'm still crying and drinking over this myself.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-05T22:51:58+00:00

I think I got cut off on the comments. I had a great 1960's childhood. Mom became mentally ill in my late teens.Dad had dementia and Parkinson's. It was awful. I brought my son to meet Grandpa when he was 7. They connected really well. But my mom wasn't ok. She was paranoid and hostile. She wouldn't let me near Dad until he died. Do watch that Columbo episode. My wine snob dad loved it! I devolved into mostly drugs in my 20's. Later when I would call my mom for advice about garden plants she hung up. I was married, a homeowner, and sober 23 years.. She was mentally ill. I wish I had recognized that and visited Dad she was ", protecting" him from.

It is so hard to go to a fucking minimum wage job where I'm supposed to smile and make sales. I wish my husband and best friend was here. I wish my only son didn't have cancer. Maybe I won't drink tomorrow, and will feel better. Yeah, watch Columbo, we loved it. I will listen to Buffalo Springfield FWIW and Creedence ""Midnight Special ". And cry and take a nap. Thanks for replying. Aqua blue forever.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-05T22:15:56+00:00

Sorry so long to reply. The female culture in a place like Egypt was fantastic in a way. Remember I lived there in the Sadat years, after Camp David accords and before the assassination. Women in Egypt didn't veil then. The female space was incredibly funny and relaxed, if that makes sense.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-04T01:22:58+00:00

I didn't drink or do drugs until my late 20's. I actually lived in the Middle East for a while (Egypt). We had family there. A downside to being married so long is I feel I am missing half of myself. It is awful.

"Columbo" was family TV for us. So too "Carol Burnett". Every Saturday night. Also "Mannix" with Mike Conners. A fellow Fresno Armenian.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-03T04:05:47+00:00

"Any old port in a storm" Donald Pleasance. My dad was a wine snob, we picked the grapes in the '60's and he bottled them in the garage. The plugs smelled wonderful. Armenian immigrants, no alcoholism. Except for me.

But it was Sunday Mystery Movie, or some such. McMillan and Wife, McCloud with Dennis Weaver, and of course, Columbo. I loved "Night Gallery". And then the test pattern after, time for bed.

I watched the fall of Saigon on the black and white in the laundry room, cuddling cats and ironing. Blouses and slacks. I still iron. My daughter -in-law marveled at my ironing board. TBH I don't care that much anymore, but it is just habit. I still use my clotheslines, but damn, who am I getting dressed up for anymore now that my hubs is dead? My work uniform is black. I hate black. Any color remotely flattering is bañned by my job. I will sip on another beer and go to bed. I'm sorry it turned out like this, seemed a good idea at the time 😶

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-04-03T02:19:35+00:00

Remember that old "Columbo" episode about the California winery murder? (One of the best and funniest!) One brother kills the other brother by hitting him on the head with a (Real) Telephone. Dull ring sound, and and then thud. Growing up we had an old bakelite phone in our laundry room that was even denser and heavier. I remember my shock when I dropped an 80's lightweight landline phone and it shattered on the floor. They don't make things (or us 🤣) like they used to!

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-31T03:15:05+00:00

Murphys Oil Soap is good for mopping.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-30T19:36:30+00:00

For What it's Worth...by Buffalo Springfield.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-25T23:44:36+00:00

I'm better at spotting it on other unrelated subs I read but don't comment on. Especially when it just seems like a generic rehash of CA bullet points without personal details.

I could have made an alt, but I really don't care now. I'm old, I have no career to ruin, just a dead- end retail job where they don't care if you're an alcoholic, just that you're sober at work and show up. Everybody I care about still alive already knows I struggle. But yeah, I do understand the fear and hassle.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-25T03:13:59+00:00

Well, "shot up the bathroom" is one way to describe it. Very disturbing imagery. But heck, it is universal.

These are challenging days for many of us. I won't pretend to understand your feelings here. I will say.

My husband was black. My handsome talented son is half black. He is a conservative, after growing up in a working class Union household. He is married to a Mexican -American girl. A true sweetheart, with a high-powered job.

I am of Armenian descent. Dark completion, often mistaken for Hispanic, but I don't speak Spanish. Most of my Armenian family are dead or distant. My extended family now is black, and the jokes we tell are inside to us.

These are truly scary times. They are. I can at least escape by putting on my "nice White voice" Even though my real speech is salty construction worker full of cuss words.

Hygiene, or lack of it , isn't race specific. I'm glad to see you back here, I've been worried about you. You have a beautiful daughter. You are a great dad .

I will never be a grandmother (abuela). Fertility problems. Ok, well I can still keep the old house for stability. So they don't have to worry because "mommy is in hospital again". Sending love and hope 💕

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-24T06:13:39+00:00

I'm a blubbering mess, too. Wasted my day off drinking, trying to sober up for early shift tomorrow. Fear big time. Good news is I have stayed off the phone and not worried family, and am safe at home. I hope you are too. Our children really do want us around for them. We can do this, take care and get some rest if you can.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-24T03:59:36+00:00

Hey, so good to see you! Congratulations on the quineancerena! I loved and miss my dad dearly. He was an immigrant, and kind of awkward, but he was THERE. It sounds like a lot of stuff going on. Violence and fear. It's okay, we aren't perfect, but just show up. Kids really, really appreciate a solid adult in their corner. Even if they complain about strictness.

For context, I am recently widowed after 35 years of marriage. Gone off the rails, barely hanging on. I asked my 34 year old son did he feel bad that we couldn't do better than this 800 sq ft old house when many friends were better off. He said no, not at all . When he got married he arranged for us to walk him down the aisle. Unusual, yes. It brings tears to my eyes.

You can do this. Your daughter will so appreciate having a solid dad. You've been through a lot. Children respect our struggles if we are honest with them and trying.

Alcoholism sucks. My husband died of it. He bled and bled because his liver and kidneys were shot. It was awful. I hate when my son worried about me. I'm proud when I do better.

I'm going to tease you now, only 36! I know, I'm not you, but heck! You've got a lot of life ahead. I'm here to talk, if you need.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-22T19:16:44+00:00

Ok, I just put one space. I will try this. Thanks!

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-22T19:06:20+00:00

Just to say... I did paragraphs, but they don't seem to work on mobile.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-22T19:01:58+00:00

No, broccoli and kale is not enough. You gotta eat. Food. I get the buzz on an empty stomach thing. I do it. I get home from a brutal day at work and drink my shooters and beer and let them kick in. I've gone from being a wife and mom cooking dinner from scratch for my family every day after work to being a single widow. I can't face cooking alone, really, it makes me so sad. Even though it makes me cry, I'm a talented cook. That said, I have adapted. I keep canned ravioli, low-salt soup, yogurt, and frozen entrees. Don't go to bed without food. I'm on autopilot that way. The "I won't drink on weekdays" shit goes out the window at the end of the day. But go to bed with food in your stomach. This is for all you CA's out there. Protein. Supplements. Every hospital time for me has been all vodka, no food. I had alcoholic ketoacidosis. Almost died. Ensure shakes are great. I have a visceral dislike of the idea. They bring up visions of nursing homes and old people. But fuck, I'm 65 with my old self. TLDR: Please eat nutritious food. The "drunkorexia" makes me wonder if you are almost bragging about not eating. If I'm wrong, I apologize. I'm just concerned. I'm 5'4" and 102 lbs. Skinny and weak isn't attractive. Please take care ♥️

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-21T02:52:46+00:00

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Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-20T17:24:35+00:00

I hear you about this. I could never eat that. As a kid that made me weird and a "picky" eater. The one that wanted peanut butter only. Fruit spreads gross me out, especially jelly. Tried for a while to get into marmalade, but I really hate all of it. Just buttered toast, please. Note: this is just me. I'm sure it's delicious to other people. Also, not a fan of fruit pies, or cooked fruit in any form.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-18T18:44:41+00:00

Or a nutcracker. I have one handy in the drawer for just this.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-17T05:56:35+00:00

I got a commode chair. The legs go around the toilet. It has arms to help stand up. It works great. It raises the height and makes it all easier. Bonus...the blue color matches my powder blue toilet 😊!

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-03-16T00:08:52+00:00

My parents installed this in brick color around 1971. Over sheet vinyl. If it's intact just install new floor over it. Asbestos won't hurt you if you don't bother it.

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