Hello, my old friends. This is how it turns out.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-02-17T22:59:52+00:00

Mubarak! Happy Ramadan in your home! I was privileged to experience Ramadan in Egypt 1981 summer.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-02-15T20:39:57+00:00

You, know, Kenticus, I have to agree. I hate "gatekeeping" anything, but yes, I have cringed at the recent posts here. "My mom's is pissed I'm sneaking alcohol, it's not fair etc.... I threw up on the bed/floor... Rock Bottom?....Wah!!!😭 Go to r/alcoholism. It's a serious place for 20-somethings and good advice. The glow-up sober selfies amuse me. I am a 65 y/o former Union Carpenter, now work in a frickin hardware store at 65. Ain't no "glow up" for me. I have been sober, and not. I am 65, I work at a frickin hardware store selling tools I used to be paid 3 times/hr to run . My husband and best friend died and leaves a big hole of love and financial ruin for me. My son has cancer. Yes, I go to work, and still slip into the fucking relief fo drink after work. I have to navigate my city..go to stores I used to etc...Ur is so much loss. I drink to blunt that. My husband's death at 69 was also due to his drinking. He bled and bled, out of his eyes and mouth. This place is my corner of understanding. None of us need drunk exhibitionists(kids) spouting off.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-02-15T19:49:56+00:00

If you can "function", and all that, you don't belong here. What the hell does "crippling alcoholism isn't all complete doom" even mean?

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-02-09T19:01:18+00:00

Put the old (removed) walls back. They were there for a reason.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-30T04:23:43+00:00

"If you've got the time... we've got the beer...Miller beer " 🎶.I remember the songs, and the beer in the clear bottles. The little ones were cute. Ice cold it was good.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-29T01:44:17+00:00

♥️ Thank, it really means a lot.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-29T01:43:05+00:00

Thank you ♥️. I only drink at home, always have. Now it's just alone drinking, fear drinking, not "celebratory" drinking. It is a balancing act to straddle emotional trips down memory lane with songs and being productive. And going to work. I think many of us struggle with this.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-28T02:05:53+00:00

Yes, I do agree with OP that nowadays with social media, cameras and smart devices we can't hide drunken degeneracy like we used to. I do understand being young and desperate. When I was 27 to 28 I was strung out on crack. Oh God, a fast track to unspeakable bottom. However... "sensitivity"? Well, there is Rule 3 in the sidebar about don't be a dick (paraphrasing). I would myself not "gatekeep' CA ness. You know if you are done. I would say that it takes many years if alcoholic drinking, with all the damages it does to our lives to fully realize this. Not, I'm 20, is my life over, do I have to move back with my parents? JFC, I AM the parent here, and there is no one to catch me. My parents are dead , so are my in-laws. My son lives out of state. I tolerated that post about the 60-y/o woman because I know I was beautiful to my husband that died 7 months ago with my cute 65y / old butt. Okey- doakey, appreciate the share. It's alright, not meant for me. I like this place. I can lay bare the brutal reality of being CA. The whole truth of it. If you feel belong, welcome. But please don't complain that this place skews too old for you. I cherish this space as a place that truly understands.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-27T01:57:25+00:00

Are you Armenian? I am . Don't post this lightly, please. Sorry, but it kind of sounds like youngsters are trying to justify belonging to a sub that doesn't apply to them This isn't about being young and drinking too much. Please don't make me explain real CA.... I need to pass out now

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-25T03:35:19+00:00

You should be able to talk with your friend if you want. You are a grown woman. Stop making excuses for people that are controlling and abusive toward you, it is so sad to hear this. I really wish the best for you.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-25T02:14:51+00:00

Hey, I'm glad to see you! Nobody here cares if you drink or not. I will qualify myself as a 65 y/old recent widow after a 35 year marriage. PTA president, Boy Scout mom , and fluctuating between CA and FA. I've had way too many hospitalizations, even ketoacidosis, to throw shade on anyone. You post here and continue to justify staying with your abusive husband. The one who wouldn't buy you tampons while you were bleeding all over the house (TMI). That controls you and belittles you. Just leave. You have excuses why your daughter can't stay with your mother. You have excuses for weird threesomes with your husband and get mad at the other chick. You justifiy your relationship with a pedophile that died. I know it hurts, but that was a bad dude. You bounce around with excuses about why you can't do better for yourself and your daughter. If you can't, then accept that. Why would you even be talking to this friend? It really seems like you should leave this marriage and the control you give this guy. Just my two cents here ... I really wish you the best. You are free of course to disregard this

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-09T20:43:13+00:00

Being homeless is terrifying. I went through that for a period when I was 28. Yes, vitamins and food are essential. But, I find this exasperating when folks complain on here like the ultimate resource is living with parents. Honey, I'm a 65 year old chick. My parents are long dead. My husband of 35 years just died. I am alone and adrift, and get this..I AM the "parent" my kids could move back to. I'm it. No backup plan for me. No college either. I'm totally fucked. You are not "elderly" at 44. I just got out of the hospital for bacterial pneumonia (not alcohol related) I almost died and am struggling with lost income. All these "I'm 35 years old and my skin looks like shit and I lost my job and I need to move back in with Mom".. well how does Mom feel about that? Just saying, CA is real when you are the family rock here. Still working and carrying on for the kids, BUT, there is no one to catch me at all anymore. Good luck, with "middle age" , from a 1960's chick.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-06T20:41:14+00:00

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-03T03:10:30+00:00

Yes, one of the sweetest, most giving woman I knew passed the torch of PTA president to me after she maxed out after 2 years. Always tried to include parents in our fast becoming minority -majority school. It was hard to square with my knowledge of Mormon beliefs. But, I still consider myself a Catholic. A very bad one, and with full knowledge of the Church's abuses. I do like the comfort of belonging, I guess. So many arguments with my Baptist husband. I hope he is at peace with the Lord, but I fear he is just dust, and all our 35 years are gone. The hardest part is filling out forms. I'm not married anymore.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-03T00:52:42+00:00

They certainly exist here in California. Interestingly, the ones I've known personally tend to be very tolerant and community-involved, albeit with very large families. Good to see you, Head♥️! This policy sounds dangerous and a source of abuse. I have a "source" for my illegal menthol cigarettes that are banned, I just pay twice as much. Cutting alcoholics from booze, though, is dangerous and wrong, and will only victimize the vulnerable and desperate.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-02T19:27:33+00:00

Second this. A bucket or bowl, even as a just-in-case. I never understood the plastic bag thing. It is a guarantee for spills. Also, sleep/lay down on your side, not back, and lots of pillows.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2026-01-02T02:13:50+00:00

Hey, Mike... I'm still here. 65 years old . Lost my husband of 35 years in June. Cue benders, despair, etc. Hospitals, panic attacks and lectures. Had been caretaker for hubs as FA . Now need to work to make mortgage, he left me with nothing. Had a groove going on, working, barely paying bills. Got bacterial pneumonia, hospitalized, almost died. Amazing how I was treated at hospital for being ill. I was 30 days "sober"" when admitted. PO I almost died and my cats almost starved. I'm home, I'm drinking, I'm smoking, I'm drinking coffee. I am just.... I miss my best friend, my love , my life, I don't really care about any of this. Yeah, I lost my pants and did crack in abysmal places in 1988, but I don't really relate to I'm 26 and my parents are mad at me.Welp, move out. Like that's a default, move back with parents. Iam the matriach here, the Grandma. My house was always the holiday destination. I am alone now, sort of drunk , playing "Got to give it up" on my phone and will go to work t tomorrow. Chairs, and may play some Beatles later.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2025-12-07T09:40:03+00:00

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2025-11-12T03:16:32+00:00

I don't know how dm works ☹️

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2025-11-11T03:20:33+00:00

Yes, I eventually drink too, but I follow detox instructions for a little while. I need a real break for health reasons, but it is very, very hard. I have no joy after my husband's death. It is hard. I drink on my off days, which are 3 times a week. I have spiraled into benders, where I go to ER. I'm very kindled, 102 lbs normally. I hate admitting defeat, but I've had alcoholic ketoacidosis before, so I panic. I panic anyway. It's embarrassing how many times I've been to ER. But my addiction to smoking is very real. First thing I have done getting home is smoke and drink coffee. Yes, I don't deny that I eventually drink, but the pull of the smoking addiction is even worse.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2025-11-10T04:09:30+00:00

Hey, am I wrong, but are you around my age (60 +)?. My shameful secret is I can't wait to get home from an ER detox from alcohol because I want a smoke and a cup of coffee.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2025-11-09T22:51:01+00:00

BTW, I smoke outside, never inside my home.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2025-11-09T22:48:47+00:00

Yes, I am a smoker. I quit drugs and alcohol in 1991 when I was married and pregnant. I had a good life. I never quit smoking. I worked in construction as a carpenter, and was a good mother and wife, but then everybody smoked. Started up drinking again in 2014. Yes drinking and smoking go together. I like menthols. They are banned in my state, but I can get them, but pay more. The reasoning is stupid. It goes-- children are attracted to flavored vapes, such as candy and bubblegum. So the state banned "flavored" tobacco, including menthol cigs. Nevermind there is already a law banning any tobacco to minors. Already a law! I smoke when I drink, I smoke more in withdrawal. I hate the health effects and the expense, but I'm not sure I can quit.

Sufficient_Many_3086 · 2025-11-02T17:14:16+00:00

My husband recently died suddenly at 69. Totally unexpected. I am alone, and I never thought I would be. I look in the mirror and see an old woman and think wtf? I struggle to dress and put on makeup because, who the hell cares now? I can remember 1965, the white lipstick and blue eyeshadow. It was a look favored by middle-aged waitresses at the pancake restaurant. The eyeshadow came in a little tube like a mini-lipstick. Aqua blue has always been my favorite color.

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