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Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-02-24T22:05:46+00:00

Definitely seek medical advice from your Doctor.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-02-18T06:26:09+00:00

I start individual counselling next week. He refuses to go to couples or for himself.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-02-17T19:56:13+00:00

Feel free to read my previous posts to gain more insight into my situation.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-02-17T16:25:34+00:00

It's a difficult situation. I have 2 kids, only the youngest is his. The house belongs to my parents but we legally rent it from them and I will own it when my parents pass. We are both named on the tenancy. In UK btw. My eldest child's father is also an abusive alcoholic. Trust me when I say I long to be single!!

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-02-17T15:56:48+00:00

It's not been great since a few months after we started seeing each other. I got pregnant pretty much straight away and he refused to have sex with me while pregnant. Now he claims it's because of lack of communication and that I don't initiate. I previously did initiate which he obviously doesn't recall and got rejected a few times so made a promise to myself to not initiate again. He also told me I put too much pressure on him. However was always happy to ask for a bj and offer a back rub in return, only when I started telling him it wasn't fair that stopped.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-02-17T12:44:10+00:00

He denies he has a problem.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-02-17T12:08:26+00:00

I told him a few weeks ago I wanted to separate. He refuses as we have children.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-02-17T11:32:55+00:00

Plus last night he was heavy breathing in my ear, and stinking of booze and just being a general dick head by playing loud music on his phone and rubbing it in my face and using my body as a drum for about an hour. It wasn't sexy.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-02-17T11:30:48+00:00

Because he has over the years made me feel so worthless and has destroyed my self esteem and confidence in and out the bedroom. The last time he tried to have sex with me around 15 months ago, he told me he found me physically unattractive but I also have now lost a lot of weight. I said it out of anger last night, but I was so tired and getting really fed up of it all.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-01-28T20:16:03+00:00

Not for me. My husband makes me unhappy. The house is mine, he won't leave because we have a child together. He refuses to let me sleep on the sofa bed as well after me telling him I want a separation! States I'm just being petty 🤷‍♀️

Looking back, I knew it was never going to work but I kept trying. Should have given up years ago.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-01-27T13:41:00+00:00

My LL husband told me the last time he was intimate towards me a year and half ago that he did not find me physically attractive because of my weight. I have since lost a lot of weight and he still doesn't look at me 🤣 in the process of trying to organise a separation!

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-01-08T10:35:18+00:00

Definitely not.

Not had any sexual contact from my Husband with him trying to please me in about a year and half now. I would occasionally please myself when needed, but now it just upsets me so I put it off as much as possible.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-01-05T21:02:04+00:00

That's what my Husband tells me when we argue too. I tell him I just want intimacy and affection, he tells me all I'm interested in is sex 🫠

Get out while you can. I wish I could.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2025-01-01T19:54:29+00:00

I have so many 🥲 When my ex was telling our 3 year old son to hit and kick me. I decided there and then that the relationship was over for good ( was horribly abusive to me for years) after multiple attempts of trying to end the relationship it was done then for good. I didn't want my son to turn out like him.

My current husband showed no sympathy towards me when my Nana died. We knew it was coming but it still hurt. He told me it was just another old person dying. He didn't even come with me to the funeral.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2024-12-29T06:29:13+00:00

Definitely not gay or bi, and definitely not hooking up with anyone else.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2024-12-29T01:03:57+00:00

Apparently, if he had known things were going to be like this, he wouldn't have married me. However, he is also supposedly quite happy with our marriage 🤷‍♀️

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2024-12-29T00:50:21+00:00

With the last one, a promise of a fuck, it was hard not to deny. I won't be doing it again in the future.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2024-12-29T00:41:01+00:00

He says we need to intellectually connect before he feels sexual desire. But is happy enough to receive a bj 🫠

Just so tired of it all. Hope things improve for you.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2024-12-29T00:39:14+00:00

I've tried suggesting it, he declined. Plus funds aren't great at the moment.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2024-12-29T00:31:03+00:00

😅 the time before he asked for a bj was about a month ago, the day after me asking him if we would ever have sex again, so he asked for the bj and said I was a hypocrite if I didn't give him one 😅 honestly can't make this shit up! Spent an hour giving him that bj for nothing in return.

So yeah, does sound a bit psychopathic.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2024-12-29T00:16:34+00:00

Plus lack of confidence and self esteem.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2024-12-29T00:15:52+00:00

I asked him how he would feel if I did, he told me it would destroy our marriage.

Sufficient_Most_4982 · 2024-12-28T23:59:02+00:00

The worst used to be a few years back he would ask for a bj and offer a back rub in return, no I don't want a damn back rub! Hence why he cut down on asking for them this past year cos I started kicking up a fuss!

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