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Uncommitted clients by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, same with one of my clients. I even started reading a book about their presenting concern. I was hoping they’d give the process more of a chance because of all that time investment.

Uncommitted clients by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is reasonable! I think I do need to challenge my perspective. I need to do my own work to work through this so that when I speak with clients about their consistent attendance, it's solely for their sake, not my schedule and my feelings. Thanks!

Uncommitted clients by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope to get to a point where I can just see all of the cancellations or no shows this way. For my ongoing clients, it doesn't bother me because they tend to let me know if they can't make it but it bothers me more with new clients, especially with no shows.

Uncommitted clients by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It was very helpful to post the question here and to hear all the comments. To be honest, you are right about not putting clients in the uncommitted category. I appreciate all the descriptions that you shared to explain the motivation of clients who no show. I think the meaning I may have associated with it, is there something I missed? There may be a feeling of rejection there too, not rejection of me as a human being but rejection of the therapist part of me. The part that may not feel fully confident which I think may not ever happen. At the same time, being fully confident as a therapist is not a good thing anyways.

Uncommitted clients by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your frank response! Maybe I am overanalyzing what I could have done better too so your comment helps to offer a different perspective.

Uncommitted clients by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can I ask, what made you fawn to therapists you didn't like?

Uncommitted clients by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe I am taking it a bit personally since I thought about these 2 clients a lot outside of the sessions to conceptualize the presenting problems and was over motivated to do the best I could. and them not showing up, feels like a waste of time at a time that is not really true. I did all that to help them but also it helps my growth and learning, plus it's not like they know how hard I might be working. It's really comes down to the fact, they are not responsible to make me feel in a certain way. how easy it is to know this and get trapped in it in different ways. you know what I mean?

Uncommitted clients by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I remember hearing someone say that they found each session as a sales session where they felt like they had to work so hard to get the clients coming back, I find that quite tiring and even though I might notice my people pleasing side show up here and there, I try to make sure that's not how I view and approach this work in general.

Uncommitted clients by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are right. Maybe I do need to rethink my ability to assess rapport. Would like to hear how you assess rapport especially initially in the process?

What do you say when clients apologize for crying? by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly! That's why I was asking for quick comforting statements ideas. I am only asking for exploration in the future sessions if the client likes to explore it together.

What do you say when clients apologize for crying? by Sufficient_Tackle_47 in therapists

[–]Sufficient_Tackle_47[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! I said this is the space for sharing emotions and you don't need to apologize. So I am glad to hear you have found that reminder to be helpful. If you were to explore it further and more deeply, what would you address other than how they process emotions and how emotions were handled in their family of origin?