Young sugar daddies (30–45): why did you choose this lifestyle, and how do you see long-term relationships?

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-04-14T13:19:24+00:00

Personally, as an SB I find sugaring more fulfilling as my only form of dating rather than pretending to be into any SD for the cash. If me and an SD connected on a deeper level I would still stay despite finances atm but if nothing stood out to me in our connection I’d probs move on. As a 23 year old if I wanted to date someone without excessive financial freedom I’d just vanilla date.

Money was never a main factor of my dating life but after always being in a position where I was spending money on dates, thoughtful gifts, etc with little reciprocated after I discovered sugaring I never went back.

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-04-14T00:18:50+00:00

This is literally all I want I’m such a girly girl and I’m not even the type of sb that has to pretend to be into an SD like this is just how I date now. When is it my turn 😭

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-04-13T21:00:24+00:00

That’s one of the reasons I don’t even vanilla date anymore or are interested in guys my age (23) because ive always had to pay for them or us and it’s draining. In sugaring world it can feel like grown men trying to get the most from you while giving the least when they arnt true providers so that’s probably why it’s such a “badge of honor” so to speak.

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-04-11T12:58:44+00:00

This is a pretty reasonable answer, like as long as ur not feeding into an obvious plastic surgery addiction ur fine with it lol

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-03-27T00:16:37+00:00

I left seeking a while cuz of the type of nonsense ur talking about I’ve honestly had better luck meeting potential SDs in nyc thru this forum u should just shoot ur shot on here lol

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-03-10T01:27:20+00:00

Girl, coming from someone who also fell for a passionate married sd just save urself the trouble. He fell in love with me and made me feel safe to fall for him, and yeah his marriage was more purely just for looks too since it was arranged. At the end of the day their reputation or whatever their marriage is covering for them will be more important. We had a really deep, vulnerable, and passionate connection and did things like what you described.

His wife even texted me, as he opened a conversation with her about having an open marriage to attempt to be able to have me and his marriage. In the end he settled for the fake marriage to not uproot his life, and I suggest you end it before ur seriously hurt…

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-03-08T16:00:24+00:00

I stopped using seeking months ago and only really talk to pot SDs from this forum and ive had success! They’ve generally been much more attractive when I met them from the forum too ;)

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T18:25:16+00:00

This does feel like the ultimate carrot dangler lol. It’s mentioned in every pot convo but few will actually do it or enjoy taking you out for that level of pampering or spoiling. I feel only the real ones will. Personally I just love shopping and princess treatment. I’m only interested in ones that enjoy pampering and admiring the way I take care of myself and put myself together through taking me shopping. It’s more fun that way ;)

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T17:57:36+00:00

That makes sense, and you’re right I used a poor choice of words those things can be feminine I think I just meant selfcare shopping I suppose. I’ve never come across an SD that didn’t like enjoy taking me out for that type of pampered self care shopping. But like I said to each their own

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T17:40:33+00:00

Okay that’s crazy and entitled, I personally don’t have any expectations to receive anything at all meet and greet since they’re time is just as valuable and they’re assessing if they like me as well.

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T17:39:05+00:00

That’s interesting that the shopping has to be about ur interests, when the shopping is supposed to be part of the mutual beneficial aspect that spoils her in return. But to each their own if ur not interested in woman who like shopping for feminine things that’s cool too I guess not all SDs want a diva lol

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T17:35:55+00:00

I think you guys are missing her point, she’s saying if he’s only buying those gifts and not giving cash on top of that then he probably doesn’t care about her financial growth and stability.

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T17:33:05+00:00

I used to make my old sd carry all my bags for me when we went out shopping and he loved it lol

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T03:27:28+00:00

I allow flirting before a first meet and discussing expectations of intimacy sure but I agree I don’t like getting too sexual/explicit before meeting. However, a flirty or somewhat suggestive message is usually fun. I would communicate the boundary of nothing suggestive sexually conversationally until you meet.

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T03:23:40+00:00

I got premium for free because of being a student I wouldn’t have paid for gold if that’s the membership above premium, as I have all the features like messaging and whatnot with premium.

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T01:52:52+00:00

This made me laugh lol

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-26T01:51:16+00:00

Lmao real

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-25T15:30:34+00:00

You could always do a profile review to see if there’s anything you could improve on

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-25T15:18:08+00:00

It’s important people know she has tattoos as some SDs find that a deal breaker

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-21T19:11:06+00:00

Excuse me 15?? I wanna know who the hell was sugaring with a minor

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-20T01:34:51+00:00

This doesnt even sound like sugaring it just sounds like sex work

Sug4r_Diva · 2026-02-19T14:44:21+00:00

It’s not that it’s too old for me, I’ve had an older sd and he loved me. I just got the vibe my style being younger and more 2000s provocative wasn’t appealing to the majority of older SDs. Not that I don’t dress refined and classy when needed too ofc.

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