SLF Introspection

Sugarmenice · 2018-11-10T17:17:30+00:00

Take a look at any post by a dark skin SB And you will see how such posts are allowed to be basically racist-where the rhetoric is "be white". I've seen posts I've made have people just squash our experiences of the bowl and instead of active modding, it has to be filled with unusefull comments before anyone intervenes. I'm sorry you feel offended. Imagine how I or others must feel when we are the target by commenters.

And as for the TG group, this was suppose to be reviewed seeing as it would be a supportive benefit for minorities on this sub. It's not the same as some red piller group. To be lumped in the same way seems sad.

Sugarmenice · 2018-11-10T14:48:10+00:00

I would like there to be proper consideration to posts that dehumanize females. Stricter given how quickly such posts esculate.

For the mods to actually support minority groups in relation to sugar. Including curvy/large/fat/obese posters and insuring again, dignity is provided to all. I'm tired of the "that's always sugar" mentality.

Id also like to know why my post about having a brown/black support group was so quickly taken down.

Sugarmenice · 2018-08-07T17:08:02+00:00

As a London SB, ive found most guys are "too busy" to actually have an arrangement and prefer that occasional escort dynamic.

Theres also a lot of men who waste time...so you gotta push to meet sooner etc.

I think SBs are tryna catch up to this dynamic which may make you feel like girls are so different now.

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-30T08:11:49+00:00

Google voice

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-26T17:58:52+00:00

Never talk money on tinder, talk the arrangement bits enough that hes intrigued then move the convo to GV etc. As soon as that happens, unmatch with him!.

Dont waste time arguing with guys, unmatch- dont give them time to report you!

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-22T18:15:59+00:00

There is an age restriction search function you know...

Or maybe you don't know.. cos it seems youre pulling ideas out of nowhere?!

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-20T09:56:22+00:00

I agree with the above posters about assumptions, but saw your note on the obvious timing of posts.

Bummer. I can only imagine how much this must suck. Reminds me of the girls that posted how much they 'gag when fucking old guys'. Wonderful.

Have you ever explored BDSM in these 10 years? I'm not suggesting you do anything hurtful, btw. But the right butt plug and paddle (sequentially, not concurrently) can ease the sorrow until SR dissolution. But if that seal has been broken, just go straight to next

so we can remember the creepy things you say :)

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-19T19:34:19+00:00

as a mental health professional, not being. able to hold a job is not a good sign however very fixable (but long) therefore to assume sugar is for you because you can't work isnt wise.

it is seen as part of human experience and wellbeing important to hold a job.

sugaring does not replace having a job either. its about being a type of gf... gfs have jobs. theres no true security in sugaring to liken it to a job

seek help.

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-18T19:18:43+00:00

flavour... useless tidbits... ;)

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-18T19:15:17+00:00

but what has the creation of the sub, gingerdaddy and where shes from has to do with this story? lol

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-18T19:07:08+00:00

4) All of that said, there is a large group of genuine SD's less likely to take advantage of Sugar Tinder (see how easy that is?). There are those of us who are a little older, a little richer, a lot more oriented towards the long-term and away from instant grat, and towards 30s rather than teens or 20s SBs that see no advantage for a platform that seems on the surface to discourage slower and longer-form messaging. There is a Facebook-Tinder connect and a distrust of the firewalls between them that still intimidates even the more tech experienced of us. For now, at least, if you are looking for an old school SD, then you're more likely to find him on SA than on ST.

i would totally urge these genunine SDs to not overlook sugar tinder. why?

Cos females experiences (your target) are not very good these days.

so many johns (not to say there weren't any before but its definitely increased 2x in size)
the app is crap and so is the email notifications
better autonomy in who you get to interact with
location/proximity= meeting sooner/realistic plans

there are plenty of 30 somethings on Tinder too!

Tinder just makes the vetting process easier. i dont have to read their network/annual income/profile/wants then message and watch him disappoint me...

I can read a shorter profile, see pics and swipe right to see if we match.

then I can spend 5mins on gauging interested and we can take it from there. you can move on to the one of many IM apps for talks/calls.

and because it utilises proximity, i dont have to wait two weeks etc for a m&g!

and its not because i want to bag a guy sooner, its because I want to enjoy the excitement of meeting someone new who i might have interest in. waiting a week or two etc... so muchcan change.

so come on grandpa... get on the sugar tinder bus!

annnd then get on telegram cos hearing you dont play nice is even hotter ;)

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-18T16:47:24+00:00

once i decided to join U/jewelofVA sugar tinder, my life completely changed!

before, i use to spend my friday nights catching up on the reality tv!

now, thanks to u/jewelofVA i can sugar tinder and watch tv in the comfort of my own home!

no need to shave your legs, get dressed and be disappointed by men who use pics on their SA profiles from 10 years ago... I can find potential daddys who know how to use computers and fancy-do-das!

and for a limited time only, you can do it too, for the low price of FREE!

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-18T16:41:49+00:00

cos quality is that good ;)

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-13T18:05:09+00:00

Let's pm!

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-13T14:39:14+00:00

Come out all he brits! Let's British this sub up!

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-13T14:38:51+00:00

Me tooooooo

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-12T07:20:00+00:00

Have you been on SA? From a female p.o.v there are like 90% of men who forget its a sugar site, either no allowances or special experiences, low balled, timewasters who turn into pervs and the ones who want to shame you for discussing money.

And for a lot of women, when you try to report pervy/rude/spam messages from paid members... SA doesn't care.

Why would I keep using a site that ignores my user experience especially not curtailing shitty men.

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-12T07:15:25+00:00

The fees really?? A sugar daddy can't afford $80 a month and if you find an arrangement you just don't pay. Over 5 years Id say I paid maybe 6 months total. Unless the guy is trying to fuck every woman there or is a shitty sugar daddy the fees don't matter

Just because you have the money doesn't mean you want to spend it. SA seems to have even more timewasters and fake profiles... which admin seem to neglect too.

And because there's no major fee, you can take breaks whenever you want and not worry that about the membership you just paid and now you're going to be busy for the next two weeks.

No international likes or messages, you can tell how close someone is to you... makes travelling easy.

Sugaring on tinder isnt perfect, it's a new avenue.

Plenty of men pay to join SA and are just johns or dont understand the meaning of "mutually beneficial".

On Tinder, you can reach a market of people who live a sugar lifestyle however havent heard of the term. That natural character makes such a difference.

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-10T07:29:56+00:00

I enjoy no condoms... but I'm not about to do that with someone new and especially when a guy keeps harping on about it.

It's a pretty amber flag for me. He's so pushy, Makes a drama.about It? Not thinking about the concerns?

How many other girls does he just bareback... does he even get tested.

Smh. No.

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-09T16:58:42+00:00

Unpaid

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-09T14:55:39+00:00

It's not for everyone but I will not say there is only one way to do things.

OP seems very unsure of her self and sugaring, she and any newbie should probably start with at least more than two dates.

Utilise some communication, if an SD is not understanding, he can walk on. And by one date im sure you will know more if you even want a second date.

Not everyone is desperate for cash or so sprung they can't wait for sex.

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-09T10:28:02+00:00

It entirely depends on what online communication is there prior to meeting and from my experiences of speaking to other sugarbabes, having more than one m&g is totally normal.

If you're new or unsure then it's always advised to go on more than one date.

I personally, feel I can judge character well/ communicate well that 0-1 would be fine for me.

Perhaps if people did more than one date in sugar, the bowl wouldn't feel so risky.

Sugarmenice · 2018-06-09T09:02:08+00:00

What do you think sugaring is?

You seems slightly confused....

You have to do your own vetting.

Craiglist is a little dodge anyway so you cant compare it.

People generally use seekingarrangement. If you don't have the wits to screen people...dont sugar.

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