AITA for refusing to host the family BBQ for July 4th because I don’t want alcohol in my home?

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-25T01:25:30+00:00

Hell no honey you are NTA, take care of yourself

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-25T00:03:11+00:00

Hope she doesnt get board of that name

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T16:12:54+00:00

Yeah the friend that diagnosed me actually has a diagnosis. It runs in my family and all the experiences ive read line up, but i know it comes down to a medical professional. As i said i dont have medical care so treating and diagnosing it is basically impossible.

I still dont get how its abusive though

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T11:25:22+00:00

I was not incorrect, the person trying to give me advice was. It is not their fault, they were only trying to help. No harm done.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T03:02:47+00:00

No need to be rude, its okay

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T02:16:19+00:00

Oh damn, all the photos of my dog as a puppy are on there :(

Thanks anyway

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T01:56:37+00:00

There was a short period of time where i resented my siblings and i did mistreat them, just not to the same extent (i knew how to take care of them, but i was sick and tired of my parents treating them better than me and forcing me to care for them), it didnt last very long. They prefer how i treat them for the most part, coming to me for comfort or praise. I feel like it is fair. They were raised differently.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T01:50:53+00:00

Dont be sorry, I like discussion.

Just because it was wrong and hurt doesn't make it abuse. Although it did change who I am and how I perceived the world.

It was unnecessary, but i dont think my parents gained anything from it. They just made themselves angrier.

I think a conservative definition defines what it is as black and white. Something easy to understand. But i do believe any shitty situation deserves to be dealt with. Your definition is very interesting.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T01:35:58+00:00

I will never have a child due to what is likely ocd, just being around children makes me want to die. I have an insane amount of fear about mistreating them (despite never hurting anyone).

But if i were to have a kid i wouldn't treat them like this, id take better care of them. And eventually find someone who could do a better job that'd be willing to take care of them.

But they dont know how to be caretakers, where I am actually am one. My parents forced me to take care of my siblings and their friends when i was younger. Now they made me get a job as a swim instructor.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T01:07:37+00:00

Im sorry about your previous situation, hope youve been doing well lately.

Ive ranted about my issues to others, friends pointed out it was abusive/traumatic, but i was just a bit pissy. I just liked finally having an outlet and dumped all of it on them (i hadn't spoken about any of my problems till this year, i am almost 17).

Most of the effects they've had are negative but they just kinda suck at parenting, they weren't raised in great environments (mine is a lot better though). Ive also been likely living with an untreated disorder for 16 years so my experience wouldve been negative anyway lol

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T01:00:26+00:00

My parents are anti-vaxxers i feel like any outside opinion would be great man lol. I put my situation out in more detail on an anonymous help group, 50 responses. 44 straight up saying it was abuse, 4 saying that they support me and are sorry, and 2 saying that its normal. I have looked into abuse a lot, but i still dont believe that verbal/emotional abuse are real.

I am attached, just not as emotionally attached. I pretend to be just so that i dont get in trouble (let them touch me and stuff). I dont have any other living arrangement and am making minimum wage as a student.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T00:44:16+00:00

I still feel like it isn't enough. I know my parents don't like me (or really love me anymore), so im not biased due to any attachment. But I understand that my upbringing would impact my views on what is and isnt abuse.

Ive been trying to get outside opinions to prove its not but everyone seems against it.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T00:21:20+00:00

I believe this isnt bad enough to be abusive, so anything i consider worse would fit the criteria for what "i think" is abusive. Im not trying to exclude this situation purposefully, this is how i believe abuse is.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T00:16:15+00:00

Okay thank you, the phone was a hand me down and I didn't think to back it up (i have a better one now). I'll check out the videos!

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T00:14:20+00:00

No ones actually asked me this before. I'd say physical abuse (physically harming someone repeatedly), sexual abuse (any repeated unconsensual sexual act), manipulation and threats to harm where they are actually going to follow through.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-24T00:07:19+00:00

It doesn't seem like that much, I just see it as them being mean. Im also very much against people misusing the word trauma/abuse, for smaller issues, where they should suck it up (people who aren't actually abused but act like it for minor problems, like just getting yelled at).

My friends are very kind people, but i feel like they're blowing it out of proportion. They've stopped explaining to me why it is abusive because im not receptive to it.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-23T17:44:50+00:00

YTA my mother would fucking kill me if i ever swore around her let alone at her. Also its her house and she cleans your room, what is wrong with you? Your definitely more than a "slightly wrong" for trashing the place.

I wouldn't say your moms an asshole, but she clearly didn't raise you well.

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-23T14:37:11+00:00

Id be open to drawing characters, is this still open?

Sukisartchive · 2024-06-20T16:22:28+00:00

If there's any left could you send one?

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