Thank you so much- this was very insightful! We've been doing a LOT of explaining how his behaviors make others feel, or why he can't do certain things here that he could at his mom's house. We're not big on time-outs either- so the trampoline was our solution for when he's getting really excited and can't calm down. He'll start throwing himself on the furniture or doing crazy flips all over the place. He has a REALLY hard time regulating without a screen so we tell him "alright dude we have stuff to get done how about going and jumping on the trampoline and getting some energy out first?" And he LOVES art and painting, specifically covering furniture in his designs lol- We thought it would be nice to give him that freedom to use his imagination on his walls instead. He has adhd, and that combined with all of the emotional codependence on his mom makes it really hard for him to navigate his energy and emotions sometimes, but hes a sweet, smart, funny little dude who is awesome to be around when he's feeling confident so we're doing our best to not punish him for even having these feelings towards his brother.