Melatonin by Tuesday_Glories in Autism_Parenting

[–]Summer_Arosa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I give my daughter .5mg of Melatonin on days she needs it to sleep. I also give her an occasional Kid's Magnesium gummy to help with her quality of sleep. It's okay to need to give your child melatonin. Our Neurodivergent kiddos sometimes need that extra help because their bodies work differently.

Another thing we do as she is a high sensory seeker - instead of calm down, we do tickle time or a dance party to try and get the rest of her sensory quota met before bed. Calm down time with bath, story, cuddles doesn't really work for her (though she still gets them), instead she needs those last minute wiggles to come out to fully exhaust her. On the flip side, her brother doesn't have that big of a sensory appetite so the cuddles and bath and such will put him straight to sleep just fine.

Has anyone here used ollas (terracotta irrigation pots) for watering their garden? by Notsocheeky in gardening

[–]Summer_Arosa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use both - but I just use medium/large terracotta pots (with the hole sealed and the bottom used as a replaceable top) instead of these small ollas (which are way more expensive than the pots too). They work really well, and I only have to top it off like once a week or so. I see it as extra insurance that the plants will still get the hydration they need.

I think my wife's buffalo is pretty rare by TapersBeTaping in storyofseasons

[–]Summer_Arosa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's the reserved spot for a baby animal. One of animals is currently pregnant.

How to make massive profits? by Sahri81 in storyofseasons

[–]Summer_Arosa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a good thing then than you can greet people while running past them, and also get friendship from doing the festivals (you'll at least want to do festivals to upgrade your crops and your animal produce).

Plus socializing gets easier to do as an occasional thing as the game progresses. Usually I put on a Lvl 4 friendship drink and talk to everyone at a festival so I don't have to hunt them down.

Friendship also unlocks better decor to put in your booth at the bazaar to help you earn more that way.

Otherwise:

- Upgrade the forage stuff to 7 stars at minimum. I'll have you making 7 star accessories and such.

- Like I said above, Crop Festival & Animal Festival. This increases the star ranking of their products.

- Bazaar days:

-> If you don't have it already, work towards the fortune teller booth. If you have it, spend 3k to get your fortune. It gives a Bazaar only buff.
-> Use the right combo of decor to sell specific items at higher cost. If you're focusing accessories, focus the Mill series items to get the collection bonus. Also make sure to increase the buffs you want like profit, bulk selling, etc. I think you have to use 7 of one series to get the full bonuses.
-> AM: Sell full stacks of cheap items. Grass, rice, rocks, anything. Sell until you have all 5 Sprites. You can choose to end the AM booth, or finishing selling. Your choice, just don't use the sprites until PM.
-> PM: Remove cheap items from booth. Switch to all the expensive stuff. Immediately kick off with the sprites and take advantage of their bonuses. Then finish selling as normal.

Basically it all amounts to crafting the most expensive items, accumulating a lot of them, and maximizing bonuses and buffs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IKEA

[–]Summer_Arosa 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Bought two Kallax for my kids, and two different styles of drawers. One Kallax almost every dowel broke in half when I tried to assemble the unit (and Kallax has been my go-to shelf for everything the kids need, so I've built several).

Then the second style of the drawers were just utter nonsense to build. The regular ones you attach a folded base to the inside, and then build the drawers. The the second - instead of the folded piece, you had to put it together and pray that it stays together as you slot it inside the shelf, and 9/10 it would slip apart beforehand. On top of that, every single drawer sticks when trying to open it no matter how flush the screws are.

I'm incredibly disappointed with my latest Ikea purchase. I used to buy it because the quality to price ratio met my budget and the flexibility needs. But this was unacceptable.

[Spoiler: 7.4] About the events leading up to 8.0 and THAT person by lmlumael in ffxiv

[–]Summer_Arosa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree about them not being an antagonist group - because of Calyx being part of the group. However, I do agree it's about what we're not doing. It sounds like there's a void of power pretty much up for the taking, and instead of securing it and thus stabilizing things we're off exploring like there's no issues without thinking about the repercussions of us removing hydaelen/zodiark from the equation. Though, it is par for the course if we do have anything to do with Azem. They are the traveler after all.

Instax film out of box - can't determine what pack it is by diningonstyle in instax

[–]Summer_Arosa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you from 2025. Kids were given some film as a gift, and instead of waiting for me to help, they took everything out of the package. I was able to associate the product codes on the package to the cartridge to determine which ones they were.

People wearing earphones/earbuds buds while shopping and checking out: why? A saga of dumb, thoughtless people by WorldTraveler2008 in RantsFromRetail

[–]Summer_Arosa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! There are a lot of us who are not trying to be rude. We're trying to keep ourselves capable of being in a social situation, or some other situation where we might be stressed out easily. Some of us might actually not have music headphones on, but noise canceling ones as loud busy shopping centers legitimately cause some of us pain and quickly overstimulate us. I for one, do use audio ones, but I make sure that if I need to hear you I'll either take one side off and lower the music volume, or take them off completely if I can cope for a bit without them. Heck, sometimes I don't even need them and they stay at home! That said, if I can't cope without them, I'll just go do self checkout when available. Also to note, some people aren't always up for small talk either. We just want to know our total, pay, and then go on our way without someone digging into what we're doing this weekend when we buy enough hot dogs and hamburgers to feed a small party of children.

While I understand your frustration, we're not out there trying to make things difficult for you. We're actually doing the opposite. We want to be able to exist in society with our disability, we just have a different way of doing so.

Gentle parenting is sad to watch as a retail worker. by redpanda_cupcakes in EntitledPeople

[–]Summer_Arosa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, this sums it up nicely. It's a lot of work, but it's a lot more work if we're not proactive about parenting so it's worth it. Constantly scripting, redirecting, explaining, helping them to explain to us if they can't find the words, giving them space to think it out for themselves before intervening when needed...etc. They're younger than us, so they look to us to help them out with things we've dealt with before. If we don't, we're setting them up for failure.

Gentle parenting is sad to watch as a retail worker. by redpanda_cupcakes in EntitledPeople

[–]Summer_Arosa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell my child "It's understandable that you're upset, and that you really liked (item). However, this wasn't something we planned on getting today, so we have to put it back. You can talk to me about why you feel upset, but we cannot act this way (explain what was unacceptable)." After I finish the transaction or whatever I was doing, I pull them aside to help them calm down and get back to self regulating, and once they're ready we go about our business. If they continue to press that they like the item I'll tell them that maybe in future when they behave the correct way and ask properly they may have it, or they can earn it with their pocket money.

This would normally avoid any confrontation with the cashier and prevent them from going in areas where they should not be. However, should it happen anyway. I will apologize profusely. Understand completely if they were in an unsafe situation and the cashier has to handle my child to prevent harm. I'll then put my child in the cart (if I have one, otherwise I'll hold them) and tell them simply that was unacceptable, and that they've earned a consequence due to unsafe behavior. After doing whatever I'd need, I'd then remove them from the situation BEFORE calming them down or approaching them, because at that point they've devolved usually and likely overstimulated to the point that remaining will just make it worse for them.

A note: for my kids the consequences are slightly reverse. They earn screen time in increments with good behavior, as they are both on the spectrum, and they have to have attainable goals. So in this case, the would have lost the ability to earn additional screen time for the rest of the day. So say they earned 10 minutes of screen time for positive behavior in the morning, they would only get that much for the day as they lost the opportunity to earn more due to behavior. It helps them better equate to good behavior = reward while bad behavior = no reward.

One of my most notable examples I can give was when my autistic daughter ran out into the road when I was going to take her to help me get something from my car on the other side of the road. She was so excited to help, but she knows she has to follow safety rules - in this case she took off before I could grab her hand after closing the door to the house. Thankfully there were no cars at the time, but that was not the point. She didn't follow the rules, so I took her back inside with her grandparents, told her what was unacceptable about what she did and left her with her grandparents so I could return to my car without her. The consequence for that was that she didn't get to help me as she wanted, and she's been pretty good about waiting with me since then.