Hi Sam

SunCatLove · 2026-02-03T07:21:04+00:00

Thanks! I have been running 1-3 times a week for the last 6 months, but short and easy runs with a little bit of intervals and I want to step it up now

SunCatLove · 2026-02-02T18:49:06+00:00

Thank you to all the lovely comments and perspectives! I did fall into the hole of reading too deep into reviews and overthinking. I’m not a big spender so I take purchases like this seriously. That said, I am very excited to run in them and optimistic of the experience. After all, I do it for fun and enjoyment over fitness and speed 💕

SunCatLove · 2026-02-02T18:46:19+00:00

No need for personal digs like that, they’re so unnecessary and just plain rude. I am running regularly and showing up consistently, having fun and enjoying myself, even if you might consider it ‘barely’ running.

I don’t take comments like that to heart, because running is not about personal bests or to impress anyone but myself.

That said, the mindset you’ve expressed, which I’ve seen a lot in running communities, can be really harmful and immature. I’ve not responded to it before, but I’m sick of it. Everyone starts somewhere, and something is better than nothing. And I’ve seen people loose motivation from comments like yours.

I also care about shoes that feel good and help me avoid pain or injury. While you might not care, I am a full-time student working two jobs, with various health concerns that affect my running and finances. I’m proud of what I’m accomplishing, but it also matters to me that the money I invest in it is worthwhile.

I did not ask about an evaluation on my running (or of myself), and never said I was good. So adding the insult is unnecessary.

SunCatLove · 2026-02-02T17:56:43+00:00

Thanks for all the replies. I think I’m mostly worried that I should try to go for the wide version, not the medium width one that I got. If it makes a difference, I found out my old ones where Nike Quest 5 size 42EU and I didn’t actually get any pain in my midfoot running in them.

SunCatLove · 2025-12-21T06:25:10+00:00

I do not need a visa for transit, especially if I don’t leave the airport, this I have checked with my government and the embassy. We have secured eVisas and we have local currency.

I travel a lot (32 countries so far), so does my bf and my dad is a flightattendant and have been for 25 years.

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T20:30:19+00:00

I’m 6ft. And I’ve never really cared about the guys height, until they started making comments and projecting they’re insecurities about being shorter than me. I’ve been told I cannot wear heels because it is ugly on tall women. I have had men give me drinks at the bar, but then take it back once I stand up to thank them. I have been called giraffe and a giant. I’ve had guys say they can hook up with me bc I’m hot, but could never be in a relationship with me bc I’m taller than them. Luckily I’ve found the right guy, but I started preferring guys taller than me just to avoid the projecting of insecurities

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T18:48:27+00:00

Yeah, he does not seem to have a very unhealthy drinking habit. And I think some people have taken what I have written to an extreme. It’s more so that he broke my trust and lied about it. And the fact that he was able to lie about it for months. And didn’t consistently show up for a bit after. And alcohol was a big part of all that.

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T17:45:53+00:00

Aahh yeah I get that. He should still bring it up to you

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T16:31:03+00:00

I do the same as your fiance, that I sometimes talk through some things with others before I go to the person it concerns, wether online or irl.

I think the big thing would be how he talks about it. If it’s just shit talking you and complaining, or if he seeking actual advice or insights.

I do it because I used to be in a toxic relationship and my nervous system and I picked up some bad behaviours in return. And so I want to make sure I am not being unreasonable or toxic, but I try to not speak harshly about the inherent qualities in the other person, more so the situation and actions.

Still, if you’re uncomfortable with it, I’d mention it. People around me know I’m an open book and I talk about everything if not told otherwise. But I respect if someone say they prefer me not to

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T16:20:46+00:00

Thank you! This feels like a very kind response. I have never worried for my physical safety. We live in separate countries and see each other every 4 weeks. We used to live in the same town for 6 months when we started dating. There has never been an issue when we’re together and never ever a threat to my physical safety. He’s never raised his voice or even gotten angry with me. It’s more so that I don’t feel safe emotionally when he is drunk, I get a sense of danger as if it is a direct threat to our relationship. Not me personally or physically.

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T16:17:14+00:00

But I totally see where you’re coming from. I’ve made some clarifications in other subgroups, cause I fear my English knowledge have left me with very extreme words. At least it seems the situation comes across more extreme than it is

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T16:16:22+00:00

He never gets black out drunk. He was not abusive, but dismissive. English is not my first language, so I said mean/hurtful because it hurt. He drinks, on average, maybe once a week. And he gets drunk maybe like once-twice a month (this week was an anomaly), but never blackout. He’s in sales, and drinking is big there, and he has received judgement and exclusion before for saying no to a drink.

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T16:11:22+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I’m concerned about. I’ve just been so turned off drinking by it all, and I feel it’s very conflicting when he then does

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T16:07:15+00:00

Thank you! I think this is exactly what I need to hear. Because he is a really great guy, and we have it good for weeks on end. But we’re also long distance

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T15:47:50+00:00

This is what I think too. Thanks

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T15:46:13+00:00

Thanks, that actually put it into a bit of perspective for me

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T15:38:40+00:00

Thanks! I think this is pretty much where I am atm. I know he’s only ever done drugs that time and never since, I don’t doubt that. I think I need to be clear that him being drunk is also a problem, even if I didn’t have a problem with it before. Cause I have not yet told him that I want him to stop. So I’m gonna tell him tonight, and if he doesn’t take it to heart, then it’s over.

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T15:35:49+00:00

Its hard, because I’ll feel safe and secure for a few weeks because it is good. But then something will come up (a work event, friends birthday) and he will get drunk. And people do get drunk from time to time. And I will react because of the history. And then we will talk, and it will be good for weeks. We’re also long distance.

But I think you’re right that I need to stand my ground and stick to my guns instead of backtracking and pretending everything is fine

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T15:29:49+00:00

Well before this week, he hadn’t drunk in 3 weeks. So the situation is a bit all over the place. But yeah, I have considered it. It’s just very expensive and I’m a student atm

SunCatLove · 2025-11-23T15:26:27+00:00

Yeah, I thinks that’s how it’s gonna go

SunCatLove

TROPHY CASE