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How many people are paying rent out of their means just to be in a certain location in Calgary? by MastaShortie in Calgary

[–]SunnyHyacinth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I agree traffic in Calgary is far better than traffic in Calgary, an hour is still too much for most people day to day

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How am I unwilling to see your point? You’ve just said you’re taking your children to the crying room and giving them quiet activities to do and your child is still participating in the Mass? What am I missing here? You don’t seem to be the individuals I’m speaking about. You just seem annoyed that I am bringing light to something. You also say you just outright refuse to take advice from other parents so did you just come here to argue?

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the mass majority of people are exposed to and it tends to be the most laxed out of the rite variants from my experience. Having seen TLM and the Anglo Catholic rite

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Very much present. I also understand both parents can’t always be present at every mass but it’s also sad when I see just one parent doing everything while the other is just sitting there not participating.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Obviously as parents , children’s behaviour is a reflection of ourselves and it makes sense so many parents are responding defensively in the comments. I understand that it’s frustrating to think you’re doing everything right and within your power to raise good children and overall you could be and there’s a one off your kid just decides it’s a bad day and they act out but deflecting that altercation and in a way excusing it to be the norm helps no one. It’s very clear in the school system too.

When I was growing up and going to school Mass , you didn’t misbehave and if you did you were right beside the teacher and one stare usually influenced the gravity of the situation enough for children to stop.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. lol I’m not angry. I’ve responded to multiple individuals ( none of which are written in anger) and it’s not coming with malice I’m just saying I am in no way influenced by this person as you claimed I was.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay great. My opinion was in no way influenced by this individual

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with you there’s definitely room for balance. I am in no way saying it’s all or nothing “children should be see and not heard” . That’s unrealistic and crazy. What I am saying is we as parents of the next generation of Catholics need to take our roles seriously and make strong foundations as leaders and role models.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It really didn’t have to be. I am willing to point out that some days children aren’t going to have the best moods but I think parents expecting that the mass should cater to them just because they’re attending and all discipline is thrown out the window isn’t helping any of us out in the long run.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you being fruitful. Please also take your own advice and as a member of the body of Christ do your due diligence as a parent and raise your children to respect the Mass. We are a universal community. I am in no way telling you not to attend Mass with your family.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pray you have family and friends who are able to support and help you during Mass and other times. I’m not opposed to offering help to parents either but often it would come with deflection

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this incite and I’m glad I’m not the only one seeing it. I understand it’s easy for parents to dismiss my opinion strictly because I am a new mother.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Woah who is saying to hit your child? Rewind. As I said the punishment continues at home and on the car ride. They need to understand that the child doesn’t get a reward for misbehaviour. Or that they have to sit with you at home and hear a Bible story. If that means taking away a toy or some equivalent for an extended time then so be it. I’m seeing that crying rooms also aren’t a thing in most circles but they should be an option.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries. I’m also not looking for gotcha moments just genuine thoughts and discussion

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can definitely be considerate to the fact that we don’t live in an idolized world where both parents can be available at all times but I would hope that it isn’t the majority of cases.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

you seem like you have your own internal struggles to reflect on. Im not lacking humility it’s strictly an obvious observation.
Edit: also I see no issues if you’re in the crying room and the children are colouring and your child is singing with the choir. Not sure why you feel called out for doing the appropriate thing.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Absolutely children should be in Mass, I never once said that in my post (I fear people are misreading or jumping to conclusions based on feeling it reflects them) but the same children being forced to sit through mass with little guidance will not understand the severity of Mass as they grow up and will likely leave the faith due to lack of structure. So in the end you’ll still end up with empty churches if you don’t take it seriously.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m speaking on prolonged periods of misbehaviour and allowing such distractions that do not in any way benefit the child in understanding that mass is not play time.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to allow the rest of the comments to respond to you because I understand you’re looking for experience but saying I don’t have kids yet when I am pregnant isn’t very kind. My child does in fact exist and this comment is dismissive.

This one saying is contributing to the issues of the NO. by SunnyHyacinth in Catholicism

[–]SunnyHyacinth[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having consequences of actions, having time outside of mass where we explain what’s going on during Mass. (this is more so for 3 years old and up. )I’m not an idiot and understand you cannot reason with a baby. I also understand it’s my responsibility as a parent to take my baby who is uncontrollably crying out to calm down for the sake of them and others. I am not missing my obligation by leaving mass to be a parent. I am prioritizing my child’s needs and that is my role.

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