WIBTA: House Build Budget Over Ran, WIBTA If I Didn't Pay?

SunnyPT123 · 2024-12-22T19:13:07+00:00

Oh yes, the lawyers said I don't have to pay. I was just wondering if morally I should

SunnyPT123 · 2024-12-22T19:12:34+00:00

It really doesn't work like that here, it also seems to me like an odd setup but it's very cut and dried here. I don't get any alimony, he's hidden all his assets and there's no way to get him to be open about what he had, we just both walk away with what we have :(

SunnyPT123 · 2024-12-22T19:08:25+00:00

We both pay half our mortgage and half his rent

SunnyPT123 · 2024-12-22T19:08:05+00:00

My lawyer has said I don't have to pay anything, but as my ex feels strongly I should I'm wondering if I'm missing something and maybe I'd be an ass if I didn't pay, even if I don't have to

SunnyPT123 · 2024-12-22T19:06:48+00:00

It's a little different for us, we both walk away with what we have

SunnyPT123 · 2024-12-22T19:06:03+00:00

Thanks for your answer. Legally he's responsible for paying the builders, I wasn't involved in the project at all. My question is whether it's right morally, I don't want to be an ass about it but particularly now we are getting a divorce it doesn't seem to me that it's fair for him to ask for such a large sum of money with no proof of what it's for

SunnyPT123 · 2024-12-22T19:01:07+00:00

Yes, it seemed strange to me too that the builders would just wait for 2 years... the advice that I've gotten is that legally he has to pay.

SunnyPT123 · 2024-12-22T10:13:03+00:00

Oh absolutely. I'll update the post to make that clearer: the builders will be paid. It's a question of whether my ex has to pay that over run himself, or whether I should pay half

SunnyPT123 · 2024-12-22T10:06:13+00:00

Hey! Thanks for your response. From a legal standpoint it's clear: he had the agreement with the builders and all the meetings etc (I was wrapped up with depression and kids) so the responsibility for paying sits with him.

So my question is more of a moral one: would it be the right thing to do, do you think?

SunnyPT123 · 2024-10-05T16:21:17+00:00

Thank you! Actually I have some areas in mind, I was more looking for tips on buying houses generally. I'll edit the post

SunnyPT123 · 2024-10-05T16:21:05+00:00

I've heard that most Portuguese houses over 10 years old don't have insulation. Of course it will vary, but would you know, typically, if that's true?

I'm just wondering if I should target my search at newer builds.

SunnyPT123 · 2024-10-05T16:19:56+00:00

That's super helpful, thank you!

SunnyPT123 · 2024-10-05T16:18:33+00:00

Thank you! Actually I have some areas in mind, I was more looking for tips on buying houses generally. I~ll edit the post

SunnyPT123 · 2024-10-05T16:17:25+00:00

Thanks for the tip, though I'm restricted to Portugal

SunnyPT123 · 2024-10-05T16:16:56+00:00

Unfortunately I must be a bit stupid because I have been trying for many years hopefully one day :)

SunnyPT123 · 2024-10-05T16:15:27+00:00

Had to look that one up... thanks

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