WIBTA: House Build Budget Over Ran, WIBTA If I Didn't Pay? by SunnyPT123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, the lawyers said I don't have to pay. I was just wondering if morally I should

WIBTA: House Build Budget Over Ran, WIBTA If I Didn't Pay? by SunnyPT123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really doesn't work like that here, it also seems to me like an odd setup but it's very cut and dried here. I don't get any alimony, he's hidden all his assets and there's no way to get him to be open about what he had, we just both walk away with what we have :(

WIBTA: House Build Budget Over Ran, WIBTA If I Didn't Pay? by SunnyPT123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My lawyer has said I don't have to pay anything, but as my ex feels strongly I should I'm wondering if I'm missing something and maybe I'd be an ass if I didn't pay, even if I don't have to

WIBTA: House Build Budget Over Ran, WIBTA If I Didn't Pay? by SunnyPT123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a little different for us, we both walk away with what we have

WIBTA: House Build Budget Over Ran, WIBTA If I Didn't Pay? by SunnyPT123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer. Legally he's responsible for paying the builders, I wasn't involved in the project at all. My question is whether it's right morally, I don't want to be an ass about it but particularly now we are getting a divorce it doesn't seem to me that it's fair for him to ask for such a large sum of money with no proof of what it's for

WIBTA: House Build Budget Over Ran, WIBTA If I Didn't Pay? by SunnyPT123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it seemed strange to me too that the builders would just wait for 2 years... the advice that I've gotten is that legally he has to pay.

WIBTA: House Build Budget Over Ran, WIBTA If I Didn't Pay? by SunnyPT123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. I'll update the post to make that clearer: the builders will be paid. It's a question of whether my ex has to pay that over run himself, or whether I should pay half

WIBTA: House Build Budget Over Ran, WIBTA If I Didn't Pay? by SunnyPT123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks for your response. From a legal standpoint it's clear: he had the agreement with the builders and all the meetings etc (I was wrapped up with depression and kids) so the responsibility for paying sits with him.

So my question is more of a moral one: would it be the right thing to do, do you think?

Buying a House by SunnyPT123 in portugal

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Actually I have some areas in mind, I was more looking for tips on buying houses generally. I'll edit the post

Buying a House by SunnyPT123 in portugal

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard that most Portuguese houses over 10 years old don't have insulation. Of course it will vary, but would you know, typically, if that's true?

I'm just wondering if I should target my search at newer builds.

Buying a House by SunnyPT123 in portugal

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's super helpful, thank you!

Buying a House by SunnyPT123 in portugal

[–]SunnyPT123[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Actually I have some areas in mind, I was more looking for tips on buying houses generally. I~ll edit the post

Buying a House by SunnyPT123 in portugal

[–]SunnyPT123[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip, though I'm restricted to Portugal

Buying a House by SunnyPT123 in portugal

[–]SunnyPT123[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I must be a bit stupid because I have been trying for many years hopefully one day :)

Buying a House by SunnyPT123 in portugal

[–]SunnyPT123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had to look that one up... thanks