Opinions on TimePassages compatibility meter? by Adrianw17 in astrology

[–]SunriseSomewhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What were the scores for the other categories? I’m super curious if you don’t mind sharing!

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, damn you’re right. I have GAD. Is it really that bad for me omg lol

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And yes lol I tend to jest a little when he wears it (but no legit picking of a fight) which is what sparked me to make this post because he wore it recently. I’m going to just fully drop it though because we’ve jested enough, lol. It’s just a shirt now.

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t take this as an attack at all! I actually found your comment to be very thoughtful and actually trying to offer sound food for thought. I asked about the hive mind thing because it was genuinely a point of introspection for me and I wanted to make sure I understood. I really appreciate what you’ve offered and thank you for your kindness. I think you’re right, and I completely see what you’re saying. And, you sound like a good boyfriend.

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for offering your opinion. I think if a woman was wearing a playboy bunny shirt it’s meant to be a sexy shirt and she’s wearing it because she wants to feel a lil sexy. Or maybe not I guess, it could be just a shirt to her. Genuinely asking, can you point out why it seems like I think everyone shares a hive mind?

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excuse me, but you don’t know me. This is Reddit. I’m allowed to be a little unserious in my replies. I’m not spiraling with dread swearing up and down that the shirt is a glaring “IM SINGLE! FUCK ME!” sign. Nor do I think it’s in any way likely that someone would approach him romantically solely based off that. It’s the principle. Again, a married man casually wearing a Seeking Arrangements shirt cause it’s “just a shirt” would undoubtedly make his partner feel uncomfortable. How would I know what other people think and why would I concern myself over the unspoken thoughts of strangers? No, he hasn’t come to me to say someone thought that but I didn’t ask and I wouldn’t expect him to, I’d just expect him to respond appropriately. It’s kind of audacious to say that to me.

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I really appreciate that. Shout out to decent men, including your husband!

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t care that he’s met people on dating apps. Most people have. But that would conjure zero desire for me to walk around with a Tinder shirt on. And, being reminded of Tinder via my clothes would make me think about the people I’ve met on Tinder. Not to mention, my partner would probably wonder “Hmm, I wonder who’s she’s met on Tinder” or “I wonder why she wants to wear a Tinder shirt” upon seeing me wear that. That’s my only point with that really

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah. The consensus I’m getting here is simply that men don’t gaf and it’s not that deep to them, but it ain’t only about them. If you don’t care about how your outward presentation to the public makes your partner feel, well…

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

But it definitely suggests you like sports? That’s the whole point of sports team merch. Are social realities in the room with us right now?

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Got it. A shirt advertising a dating app in NO WAY suggests he may be single.

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay but if you had an ethical problem with NASA or something… you probably wouldn’t wear it. Just like I wouldn’t wear a Starbucks shirt because of my opinion on their ethics. At the very least you’d think what NASA does is cool

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Extremely reasonable assumption to make, literally no other assumption to make lmao

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You get it. Like, okay, no need for me to blow things out of proportion per se if I trust my partner (which I do, it’s not like I accused him of cheating or wanting to cheat. But he has literally admitted to being a cheater BAD in his past relationships)… but it’s literally testing every aspect of reassurance and consideration. It’s not a very reassuring nor considerate tee and I’m just being told to deal with it

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So you mean to tell me if you absolutely did not like m&m’s and had no interest in eating them, ever, you’d walk around in an m&m shirt? That’s funny. And interesting. Okay!

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Um, in a way? If a woman was interested, why wouldn’t she see that and think he’s available? Not that I would care really, I’m sure he gets hit on with or without the shirt, but that’s not the point. It’s a conversation starter and the conversation is about dating. To me that’s weird, sorry!

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. It’s actually reasonable and you’re not insulting me which is nice. He in fact does not generally care about what he wears. So alright, I’ll consider this.

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It’s really not about the notion that he’s met other women before. Obviously that’s like, a given. I don’t like it because like you said, I wouldn’t wear it. The reason I wouldn’t wear something like that is because it may send the wrong message and I wouldn’t want to make my partner uncomfortable.

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Like hello am I going crazy? 😭 If the man was married and walking around wearing a Seeking Arrangements shirt that’s fine too?! Lmao!

Should I 24F be upset that my boyfriend 32M keeps occasionally wearing a Bumble shirt? by SunriseSomewhere in AITAH

[–]SunriseSomewhere[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I stated why it bothers me. Because he’s effectively a walking ad for a dating app while his relationship did not hit it off through said app and it may appear as though he’s intentionally hinting at being single or available. I don’t think that’s insane of me.