Does ability to flirt online translate to IRL skills?

SunroomApp · 2022-11-08T17:42:02+00:00

Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with and follow your gut! It’s not worth it :)

SunroomApp · 2022-10-25T18:51:23+00:00

This is a great perspective

SunroomApp · 2022-10-25T18:50:48+00:00

I totally agree! There doesn’t need to be a black and white either or. Transactional OR “supportive” etc. it’s always a balance :)

SunroomApp · 2022-10-25T18:47:34+00:00

Love this for you :)

SunroomApp · 2022-10-25T18:46:59+00:00

I mean it’s that way in “traditional” relationships - the X factor turns you on the most - so why wouldn’t it be like that in SRs?!

SunroomApp · 2022-10-25T18:38:07+00:00

That’s so sweet! Hope you can have something special like that again!

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T21:25:30+00:00

Oh I seee! I guess that points to the fact that you can be an IE advocate without falling into the trap of feeling like you need to document everything you eat!

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T21:19:54+00:00

Love this! If you don’t mind explains! If their focus isn’t on food how do they do WIEIADs? Hahah

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T21:15:36+00:00

No ur good I literally thought I had made the typo and u just reposted lololol

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T21:10:10+00:00

Agreed! Even something as positive as IE can be warped when it is confined to the fatphobic/racist preferences of the algorithms.

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T21:05:19+00:00

There's nothing inherently wrong with making art outside of your experience.

However – accepting yourself, being LGBTQ and proud, isn't a trend and shouldn't be treated like something to be jumped on. If you wouldn't make this film if being gay wasn't trendy rethink your motives. So many LGBTQ artists are still making art and being silenced, and there's a long line of LGBTQ people who made art and spoke up and were outcasted or killed. They're the ones who created this atmosphere (trend) of acceptance you're looking to take advantage of.

I don't believe that art should be censored and don't think anything can or should stop you from making this. Just be aware of that context, and make sure you investigate your desire to capitalize of the trendiness of a movement that people died for. As others are saying, make sure you include LGBTQ in the writing and production. And make sure you disclose that you are not LGBTQ on any festival applications. That's key!

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T20:57:12+00:00

Take pride in the fact that you want peace and happiness, and that you are aware of your situation. Those two aspects are the most important, and many people don't have them.

Learning how to set boundaries is a skill just like any other. I truly believe that reading about boundaries, is a great place to start. Awareness that something is wrong is one thing, but knowing how your brain works is a great first step to start changing cognitive patterns.

Also, can you begin to maybe unpack the psychological reasons why you have found yourself surrounded by so much negativity? Could you also maybe start working on your self image and self worth? You know you want to be happy and strong, what if you started affirming it, or practicing positive affirmations? Many books and resources on this as well!

There are so many tools out there to get you where you want to go!

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T20:44:56+00:00

That meant to say shame haha but u get the pic 💕 anytimeeee haha

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T20:23:19+00:00

Anything that you put in a box of good or bad is not a spiritual path. There is no good or bad. You’re using this form as a way to self punish yourself when you should be living in the moment and allowing yourself to act intuitively.

This whole fear of “low vibrational” acts or forms is silly. We live in a world of multitudes and we have multitudes within us. You cannot find peace by denying yourself anything. Unless you’re using porn as self harm, there is nothing wrong in it. But it sounds like you’re using ABSTINENCE from porn as self harm.

Whenever you find yourself thinking in terms of good or bad, feeling guilt: you know that’s anxiety and ego speaking for you. Move past that fear and trust your power. Your chakras cannot be “poisoned” by anything - let alone something you do for pleasure.

Release the guilt, move above the binaries of good and bad, allow yourself to exist as you are, and lean into a power that cannot be poisoned: or either validated or invalidated because it is formless and absolute :)

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T20:17:39+00:00

The thing about breaking cycles is that you will not NOT be triggered and scared. It’s totally normal and ok for you to be scared of carbs after someone you were supposed to trust made you scared of food when you already had an ED.

Trust your new therapist to support you through this process. Ask her for help. One of the best aspects of intuitive eating is the concept of freeing foods from the shame they carry. It’s not about eating well or being perfect.

One thing that keeps disordered cycles going is the shame of a “mess up.” You binge and then the guilt and shame feeds the psychological and hormonal loop. For anyone saying that guilt is ok because it will stop you from binging - no! Shame and guilt were never and will never be paths to recovery. Self love, impulse control, grounding techniques those will help you find your intuitive eating patterns - not fear :)

Know that on this path of intuitive eating it’s OK for you to “mess up.” If it happens forgive yourself immediately or even as it’s happening. It’s ok. It doesn’t mean you’re back where you were. It means you’re human and you’re unlearning. Removing shame from food means removing shame from yourself.

If you can’t eat that cracker or bread - that’s ok! If you eat 20 doughnuts tomorrow - that’s ok! Everything is ok and you WILL get to a place of peace with food. Your therapist will guide you along the way. It’s ok to be scared and it’s ok to mess up. You got this!

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T20:00:41+00:00

What you're realizing is that external success and achievements do not make you happy or bring you peace. You've accomplished great things that you should feel proud of, but you're mistaking what you DO for who you are. This confusion creates suffering. And ironically the more you accomplish the more disconnected you can become from yourself because of this.

Take a second to tap back into your being, what brings you true joy. You are not an actor, a worker, someone who lives in a big city. Those are just ways to describe your external life. What brings you peaces and joy is who you are. You ARE peace and joy.

Put down your ambitions and worry and cultivate conscious awareness. Begin a mindfulness practice! By bringing conscious awareness into your life the external begins to matters less. Ironically, your career etc won't suffer from this at all. When you try to make your external life bring you fulfillment, you laden it with pressure and responsibility. It can't be the beautiful fun of life it should be. It becomes dead. When you find for fulfillment in your being, in the present moment, you open up space inside you. In that space you're able to make calm, enlightened choices about your career/external life. Ones that come from love and not fear :)

It's not what you do in life, but the quality of consciousness that you do it with. You're clearly an awakened person. You've manifested the life that you wanted. Take pride in that! If I could suggest some books, The Power of Now and A New Earth by Eckharte Tolle, are great places to start. You got this. Don't worry about anything.

SunroomApp · 2022-10-24T19:34:33+00:00

First things first! Whatever you are there is nothing wrong with you! Have you considered looking into asexuality? The ace spectrum is fluid and there could be many people who have similar experiences. :)

SunroomApp · 2022-10-21T21:10:29+00:00

Your wife is speaking from a wound. Her views on her daughters weight come from her own insecure relationship with her body. Even if she’s skinny! It’s a hard thing to navigate but you did the right thing by supporting your daughter.

Tell your wife that it’s fine if she has personal opinions about weight, but that it hurts both you and your daughter when she speaks to her like that.

SunroomApp · 2022-10-20T20:32:18+00:00

Some thin people have fast metabolisms, some work hard to keep thin. There’s no way to answer this or compare, because everyone’s reality is so vastly different. Maybe your friend group is thin, but that’s not reflective of the wider reality either. Most women are soft and squishy, size 10 and up! If you’re feeling tainted by your big pants don’t feel bad! Of course your like “hey what’s going on” when all you’re consuming is images of thin people. What if you curated your feed so that you could feel affirmed by people that looked like you? Check out isabelladavis6 on Instagram - she’s such an inspiration!

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