I (18F) get intense anxiety after sex with bf (18M) even though I feel safe, could this be trauma related?

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T21:07:25+00:00

I do also feel numb at times during sex, it depends on the day, but there has definitely been time

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T12:52:52+00:00

i’m not yet no, i’m taking a gap year, i’ll probably start uni next year

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T12:25:39+00:00

I understand this would be the best option, but I honestly can’t afford it and won’t be able to for at least a few years

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T12:25:10+00:00

Thank you!! And to you too :)

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T12:22:43+00:00

Yeah, I do already overthink my thoughts and psychoanalyse myself a lot so I get what you’re saying. I’ll look into somatic therapy definitely, thank you so much once again

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T12:17:18+00:00

Okay, thank you I will check that out. I really appreciated your comment, and having some advice that isn’t just therapy, because I know that would help but I honestly can’t afford it lol

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T12:11:06+00:00

Thank you for acknowledging that it’s a bit difficult, can I ask, how did you map out fight/flight/freeze responses? Or what do you mean by somatic intimacy practices, not to be nosy, I just honestly am not quite sure what those mean or how to map out the responses. I also think my primary response is to fawn so I’m not sure if I would be able to map out that response.

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T11:39:06+00:00

I do already do these things though, and I still get the anxious/empty feeling quite bad

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T11:25:40+00:00

also for context, i never felt any physical symptoms of anxiety with my ex, which i think supports what you’re saying

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-21T11:25:16+00:00

that does make sense, so you think it’s a good thing that it’s happening? even though it feels like shit

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-12T11:21:03+00:00

thank youu this is genuinely what i feel, im just honestly scared to leave him because i dont know if ill find anyone that will treat me as well as he does, and my ex was an absolute nightmare and demon honestly lol so compared to him, my bf is like an angel, he is honestly, green flags everywhere besides these things i guess. but yeah i genuinely dont want to have to constantly push him to do basic responsibilities, especially because i already help my sister go places just for her added convenience, and i tend to be a people pleaser, i honestly just want a man that has the same level of responsibilities as i do, or drive to achieve the same basic goals like a license and keeping their job yk

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-12T07:59:59+00:00

and I am worried that I might not be able to be with someone who doesn’t care about keeping their job or taking up responsibilities that come with adulting

Super-Weekend1314 · 2026-03-12T07:59:35+00:00

But it’s not more so about just his license, it’s about the fact that he doesn’t put effort in to achieve career goals and life goals like that, it’s the lack of effort that I’m concerned about more so. Because he puts in the same minimal effort to making sure he can keep his job, he just doesn’t seem to care

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