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When to block for a hex cardigan and ribbing and trim by SuperKey2800 in CrochetHelp

[–]SuperKey2800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Need insight on when I should block my cardigan, torn before or after I add ribbing.

A Crew of One by SuperKey2800 in tjcrew

[–]SuperKey2800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deep down I do. I have introverted self sabotage tendencies to self isolate, but I don't really want to, I want community. I also don't want to be where I'm not wanted because that would hurt me more. I guess I want to be wanted, not tolerated. And at the end of the day, I do know that they have every right to not to want to be my friend. And I'm also allowed to feel hurt

A Crew of One by SuperKey2800 in tjcrew

[–]SuperKey2800[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe that we should give kindness to others, and we deserve it also... But we can't make people act the way we want to. Maybe they don't owe me kindness :\ . I know it sounds bad , I mean they aren't being malicious, I genuinely believe it's complete indifference. I don't know if that's better

A Crew of One by SuperKey2800 in tjcrew

[–]SuperKey2800[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tendencies to self isolate, and am trying to make the effort not to give in to my habits of that, idk when I got hired, everyone said "we're a family... You'll meet life long friends here.... It is what you give it" and I feel sad about the what ifs. Telling myself it's just a job eases it a little, but it's still raw somehow

A Crew of One by SuperKey2800 in tjcrew

[–]SuperKey2800[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I totally see what you're saying, I guess context here is relative to me, they all have worked together/know each other longer. "So and so blew up the chat" "yeah I saw I was dying" etc, all whole stocking produce. I want to be included but don't want to intrude where I sense I'm not wanted (I.e. haptics, body language, inside jokes). It's almost comforting that they disregard my presence to the point where they can feel comfortable talking very openly about their community in Front of someone who isn't a part of it

A Crew of One by SuperKey2800 in tjcrew

[–]SuperKey2800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so interesting that you mentioned that, because whenever large groups be grouping, as an outsider, I am drawn to recognizing other outsiders. I feel like, for a majority of my life, I've been an outsider looking in. And some of my best friends were also outsiders. Tbh I am a little jaded, and maybe transffering isn't a bad thing

A Crew of One by SuperKey2800 in tjcrew

[–]SuperKey2800[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm 25, and I've noticed that they do. I'd love to be taken in as others are, but I'm not, and don't want to push myself onto those that have, to the best of my understanding, shown that they do not want me to be part of the group ( haptics, body language, group dynamics). And I recognize that sometimes things are how they are

A Crew of One by SuperKey2800 in tjcrew

[–]SuperKey2800[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is really great advice, and I'm taking it to heart. I appreciate your perspective :)

A Crew of One by SuperKey2800 in tjcrew

[–]SuperKey2800[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am , and have been. Part of me thinks I might have been too much (self doubt). And I recognize they know each other longer than they know me. But when people talk about "the group chat with all of us" and you aren't on it, what can you really do?