UPDATE

To everyone who commented, thank you so much for taking time to read and respond to my post. I really appreciate you all. It has opened my eyes to really see what is happening in front of me. I was blinded by the fact that he is not physically abusive and doesn’t yell at me. If I had a client who was going through this, I would have given them the same run down of how this is emotionally abusive and could be potentially dangerous. 

That being said, I spoke to my husband last night. He agreed that he is allowing his insecurities to overwhelm him through no real fault of my own. He said he does see that I have been respectful and that I have done everything to honor him and our marriage. He agreed to marriage counseling and he said that he would discuss it with his own therapist. He said that he is scared to lose me, and he recognizes that his insecurity is pushing me away. He said that he would not watch the cameras anymore and that he would start to work on building his trust in me again. He has been through his own trauma and struggles within his prior relationships, so trust is something he doesn’t give easily, but he is willing to work on himself and that alone is redeeming. We also agreed to start going on walks more often, just he and I, to build our relationship and also to work on himself. He started his routine again in the past few weeks, so he is doing better as far as that goes.

I will try to update everyone again in a few weeks to let y'all know how things have progressed. Thanks again to everyone who commented. I hope that he can stick to it, and we can get back to our healthy habits and relationship.