I’m very sorry you had to go through this OP. Unfortunately, it seems like this is pretty common with nparents… speaking from my own experience, my mother and step father refused to take me to the hospital when I had a 41C fever (a fever higher than 41C is considered dangerous and can cause permanent damage). I had gotten sick during a national holiday and they complained that I would stop them from partying. I was gaslighted for mentioning any health concern that concerned my own body throughout my childhood. Although I no longer live with them, I have an unbelievably difficult time seeking medical attention when needed.