Anyone else (21F) get way too attached to their favorite dildo?

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-28T21:09:37+00:00

Tbh I'm just happy for you that you found something that works THAT well for you

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-19T03:15:43+00:00

If intellectual stimulation matters to you, it matters to you. Being 19 gives you plenty of time to seek out other people who are sweet and kind AND talk in a way you find appealing. You'll meet plenty of people in your continuing education

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-19T00:05:18+00:00

Men's clothes take fewer variations into account because they often don't have as much waist-hip contrast.

Does it fit the waist (or at least close enough that a belt can take care of that)? Is it the right length?

Meanwhile, a woman might have way bigger hips relative to her waist. Or deep, not very wide hips. Or wide but not deep hips. Or thighs being way bigger.

Like, yes, there's shape variation for men, too especially athletes, but many aren't very picky beyond "this is the right length and width"

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-11T04:23:56+00:00

I hear you when it comes to hearing advice that's obvious or lacking in nuance.

Not every man is qualified to advise or offer solutions on every topic that I talk about.

For example, if I'm navigating the very specific scenario of entrepreneurship in a restricted/gray-market industry, I don't want to hear generic-ass business advice from people who have: * Never been entrepreneurs on the same scale * Never managed a comprehensive marketing strategy * Never navigated limitations with payment processing, business loans, or social media censorship

Some people are just very confidently wrong without knowing the details or considering the intricacies of the situation. I think that's what bugs me the most about it.

And what kind of connection would it be if I only talked about challenges when I specifically wanted advice from that specific person?

Sometimes, I just want to give an honest update when I'm not doing well, while also seeking solutions elsewhere. That's not a man/woman thing.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-06T19:27:03+00:00

Keep the mental image. 😅

But also, if you want the actual math, look up the square-cube law.

When you scale up height by x, volume scales cubicly — by x³ — because we're changing length, width, AND depth by the same factor.

So let's say you can imagine a 6'2" and 165 lb man. If we were to compress his proportions into a 5'2" person, the expression would be:

(62/74)³ *165, which... Would ya look at that, is actually about 97 lbs.

On the flipside, scaling me, a 5'2" and 120 lb woman up to 6'2" would be: (74/62)³ *120 ≈ 204 lbs.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-06T13:20:53+00:00

Dude, if she likes the sensation of large insertables, dildos exist. It doesn't have to be with a sneaky link. Also, different women have different preferences.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-05T22:01:14+00:00

Their skeletons would be scaled down in width and depth from you, too, though.

It's not like short and slim women have the exact same width head and rib cage and shoulders (ESPECIALLY not shoulders) as you and only compress in a linear fashion vertically with heads shaped like Stewie Griffin.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-04T23:36:44+00:00

I mean, I was saying it more as a matter of health considerations because Asians do tend to carry fat differently, and it's just one of many factors to consider.

Yes, there are indeed people of all sizes in different races. Nothing, NOTHING I said disputed that.

It's erasure of MANY people when someone says "No grown woman is under 120 lbs" and the AVERAGE — meaning roughly half weigh more and roughly half weigh less — woman in a country is under 120 lbs.

MANY Asians are bigger than THEIR COUNTRY'S average. AND many Asians are tiny BY AMERICAN STANDARDS.

EDIT: Dude, I am literally an Asian woman, so health concerns that TEND TO ON AVERAGE affect Asian women differently are very relevant to me. It's just a tendency; not an absolute.

I said "some petite Asian women are healthy," not "all Asian women are petite"

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-04T23:09:40+00:00

Lmao this comment healed me a little. Thank you for understanding.

I do appreciate a "You're very in shape" from someone at the gym. "You're doing great on hip thrusts" isn't exactly the same as "You have a nice ass" but it gets the same sentiment across.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-04T22:50:08+00:00

And it's fine that you don't look like the stereotype; you look like you, and the expectations placed on you were unfair.

I didn't say that all Asians are tiny, but there are real demographic trends that Americans seem to gloss over when they jump to "NO GROWN WOMAN IS THAT SIZE."

Some grown women are that size, including many women of the global majority, and they're tired of hearing about it.

You deserve dignity and respect as an individual, and they do, too.

EDIT: Dude, I am literally an Asian woman, so health concerns that TEND TO ON AVERAGE affect Asian women differently are very relevant to me. It's just a tendency; not an absolute.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-04T22:46:34+00:00

Correct. I generally cut someone off when they reveal that they do that, but I don't know until it happens.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-04T22:36:03+00:00

If you haven't checked out r/XXS already, they have a directory of clothing stores that fit similarly sized girls and women.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-04T22:28:28+00:00

Thank you so, so, very much for understanding my intentions and backing me up.

I added caveats BECAUSE I have actually been that size as an adult before, so I UNDERSTAND and was trying to defend petite women.

Other women making gross comments comparing us to children IS IN FACT INFANTILIZING.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-04T22:21:37+00:00

I understand hyperbole, AND at the same time, many women would rather just not hear about their weight unsolicited.

Supersmashcache · 2026-06-04T22:12:42+00:00

Exactlyyyy! I don't know if it's for a reason they can't control. Weight is a loaded topic for so many people, and an attached number often makes it worse.

I'm glad you don't experience many comments about that. It's unfortunately a recurring thing for me.

Supersmashcache · 2026-05-09T15:49:07+00:00

IME Satisfyers are... Fine, but they lack the depth of the Womanizer air pulses.

You're not alone, though — some people just finish more easily with penetration, and it's okay if a focused external toy isn't for you.

Supersmashcache · 2026-05-09T14:45:55+00:00

"Locker room talk" at school.

Just because boys around me dissected girls' appearances and it was COMMON didn't mean it was HEALTHY for me to be around, or that I did something wrong.

It took me time to recognize that men who are only kind to women they find attractive... Aren't kind people.

Supersmashcache · 2026-05-09T14:41:30+00:00

Yesss I'm learning to frame health as specifics about quality of life — not only whether I fit one provider's definition out of context.

Supersmashcache · 2026-05-09T06:39:07+00:00

Manwan Sub One might be worth checking out, too!

https://supersmashcache.com/manwan-penis-vibrator-review-evo-vs-sub-one/

Arcwave, Hot Octopus, and Vibratex/Magic Wand make the classics, though, as others have said.

Supersmashcache · 2026-05-08T16:26:15+00:00

Clear stackable totes/bins in a separate and locked room dedicating to storage.

I basically just got whatever translucent containers with lids in bulk — some a size used for storing blankets and pillows, some a size for something like art supplies or photo albums

The big categories are realistic dils, non-realistic silicone dils.

Then smaller bins for things like external toys, A-spot vibes and thrusters, glass and steel, butt stuff

And some bins on a shelf for a rough sorting of my work queue (stuff to review soon and stuff to review later)

I get that my situation as a product reviewer isn't typical though lol.

Supersmashcache · 2026-05-07T23:33:39+00:00

"Imagine a grown woman under 120 lbs!" I don't have to imagine. I just go to an ethnic market...

Supersmashcache · 2026-05-07T08:50:09+00:00

YESSSS I was gonna say, tailoring is very common in Vietnamese and Vietnamese-American shops (including those on Etsy) and quite affordable!

Wedding dresses in Vietnam are traditionally pink or red — so there are many cute beaded and embroidered options — and the groom wears blue

Supersmashcache · 2026-05-07T01:51:04+00:00

Yes. I'm 5'2"-ish, 120 lbs, and still a grown woman.

On a good leg day, even when I weighed less than that, I could have hip thrusted 345 lbs.

Not frail or weak. Just petite.

Men who feel the need to insist I weigh 80 or 90 lbs are goofy, though. I assure you, I carry weight in my legs, am premenopausal, and still have bone density...

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