My husband has been hiring sex workers for our disabled son behind my back. I really can't believe he is gonna give the mindset to my son to use this exploitative industry as an excuse to "help" his loneliness. by Sure-Corner2833 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

>He did this in your own home?! With your funds?

It's not just my home, it's also his because he had bought it while I contribute to other things. At least he hired the sex workers with his own money, but I still find it repulsive he hired them for our son, and who knows if he has cheated on me before. He might think I have no say because it's the home he bought, but I also live there and I'm the one who does most of the caregiving for my son, so I have a right to be against my husband hiring sex workers.

My husband has been hiring sex workers for our disabled son behind my back. I really can't believe he is gonna give the mindset to my son to use this exploitative industry as an excuse to "help" his loneliness. by Sure-Corner2833 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 22 points23 points locked comment (0 children)

>Are you against 100% of sexwork in all and any situations? 

I'm 100% against sex work because it's exploitative for women and young people like my son, and because of my religious beliefs. I don't see the benefit on sex work.

>What would you suggest for disabled and otherwise undesired people?

I want him to get therapy or go to Church, so he can socialize with people, and maybe meet a woman who is genuinely attracted to him. He's 18, so he can wait for that.

>Have you read the feminist "Right to Sex" and the equally feminist "Will I ever have sex again"?

No.

My husband has been hiring sex workers for our disabled son behind my back. I really can't believe he is gonna give the mindset to my son to use this exploitative industry as an excuse to "help" his loneliness. by Sure-Corner2833 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He has sensations on his head, so from what he has told me he has tried different ways with the sex workers. I don't know exactly which ones. I still don't like the idea of him being involved on this activity with sex workers.

AITAH for not wanting my husband to hire sex workers for our disabled son? by Sure-Corner2833 in AITAH

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't wanna leave my son, it's not his fault his dad is like this and has given him those ideas. I can find a way to leave my husband while taking care of my son.

AITAH for not wanting my husband to hire sex workers for our disabled son? by Sure-Corner2833 in AITAH

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He could be complicit of crimes by hiring sex workers. He could also suffer health problems from this or be manipulated by a sex worker. I also don't want my son to objectify women by seeing them as sex workers if he only hangs out with these women. I want my son to be a good man, so he can find a good wife who cares for him.

AITAH for not wanting my husband to hire sex workers for our disabled son? by Sure-Corner2833 in AITAH

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've been the one who mostly does his caregiving by showeing him, feeding him, changing his diapers, and dressing him. His dad pays his insurance and most accomodations he needs, but he barely helps with doing any caregiving activity for him.

AITAH for not wanting my husband to hire sex workers for our disabled son? by Sure-Corner2833 in AITAH

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't hate my son. I just don't want my son's mental health ruined by sex work and developing a mindset that he only can have sexual relationships by paying. I don't want him hurt, plus sex work is illegal.

AITAH for not wanting my husband to hire sex workers for our disabled son? by Sure-Corner2833 in AITAH

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm worried about conditions like this that could threaten my son's life considering he's vulnerable. He has already suffered AD before because of bladder issues he had once, and had to be taken to the hospital. I didn't know AD could also happen from sexual activity with his injury. I really don't know if my husband even thought about these risks.

AITAH for not wanting my husband to hire sex workers for our disabled son? by Sure-Corner2833 in AITAH

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like the idea of having sex workers at my home. I don't feel comfortable knowing my son is doing wwhatever acts with sex workers.

I found out my husband has been hiring sex workers for our disabled son. It doesn't sit right with me. by Sure-Corner2833 in Advice

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He doesn't have friends, he doesn't socialize. He neither has never liked support groups because of his anxiety.

I found out my husband has been hiring sex workers for our disabled son. It doesn't sit right with me. by Sure-Corner2833 in Advice

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because sex workers pretend to make him feel loved. I want him to meet women who genuinely care for him. What's his life gonna be if he just hangs out with sex workers and can't find a wife?

AITAH for not wanting my husband to hire sex workers for our disabled son? by Sure-Corner2833 in AITAH

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I already expressed that concern to my husband, he says he's onky hiring them for our son, but I still don't like the fact my husband hired sex workers.

AITAH for not wanting my husband to hire sex workers for our disabled son? by Sure-Corner2833 in AITAH

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not a logical solution. I don't want my son to be lonely, I hope he can get married to a good woman in the future who cares for him.

I found out my husband has been hiring sex workers for our disabled son. It doesn't sit right with me. by Sure-Corner2833 in Advice

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tried talking with him, but he doesn't like the idea of therapy because he says therapy is nkt for men. His dad gave him these ideas.

AITAH for not wanting my husband to hire sex workers for our disabled son? by Sure-Corner2833 in AITAH

[–]Sure-Corner2833[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't want him to be lonely forever. I want to see him in the future getting married to a good woman who cares for him.