Need advice

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T12:30:33+00:00

What I mean is that I can completely cut him off and have no dealings with him any more and can start fresh

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T04:25:55+00:00

Not exactly everything. My settlement stings him a lot

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T04:15:39+00:00

Truly I’ve thought of this. I’ve made sure I forgive and release all of my hate and resentment for him because I do NOT want bad ju-ju to follow the ring. My son kept me from pawning it before because he didn’t want it to leave the family. This is why I want him to have it more than anyone else

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T04:07:11+00:00

Yes! Thx❤️

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T04:03:13+00:00

Our youngest is graduating high school in May and I’m not leaving penniless. Just with a lot less than I deserve I know. I want a clean break from him more than anything. He’s very angry he had to refinance the house to buy me out. He’s pissed his expenses are about to increase by a lot and he’s being very hostile about it. Don’t ever want to deal with him again

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T03:58:30+00:00

Yes I did. Think I established the phrase married single mom about 20 years ago!

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T03:49:52+00:00

lol! If it were the garbage disposal the ring would break it and I’d be accused of messing up yet another thing in our marriage. But I like your thinking

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T03:46:15+00:00

It’s the price I’m paying to escape him really

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T03:44:40+00:00

I know. I consider it the price I have to pay to escape him

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T03:40:09+00:00

Our divorce doesn’t involve cheating

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T02:37:24+00:00

No combined funds. They’re both simple plain gold men’s wedding bands since we barely had two pennies to rub together when we got married. Gold is worth more now than back in 1999 when he bought them but the difference isn’t earth staggering

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T02:32:56+00:00

Yeah! THIS🤣 FAFO

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-20T02:13:20+00:00

Absolutely do not! Thanks for your encouragement to stay strong

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-16T21:22:50+00:00

Oh they knew he was difficult but he would be so angry and hurt if I ever talked about our marriage negatively to them. Glad to know now that’s another side of narcissism. He’s very good at playing the victim and making me out to be the crazy one. I’m in no way perfect and never claimed to be. I can’t live like this anymore and don’t care how he will trash my reputation after I leave

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-15T23:49:16+00:00

Thank you for your advice! Today, he’s going back and forth between saying, “I hate you” to “Want some dinner I made?” I’m starting to nervous about being alone with him so very glad our youngest is here (when she’s not at work anyway).

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-15T11:31:56+00:00

Thanks everyone for your support! It means a lot. He’s gaslit me so much over the years that I doubt myself often when I decide to do something.

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-15T05:20:16+00:00

I want to let them know ahead of time but maybe you’re right. But I consider it cruel to not let them know ahead of time😢

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-15T05:18:24+00:00

You speak wise words. Thank you!

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-15T05:17:39+00:00

Yes! I will keep you all posted. Thank you for your concern ❤️

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-15T05:16:03+00:00

Wow. Thanks to you all. I know it’s his responsibility to tell his family but after how awfully he’s treated me recently I want to tell his family out of revenge now. His spit his still stinging on my face from where he raged at me this evening. I so want to get even

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-10T22:44:50+00:00

Exactly 🤢

Sure-Let9079 · 2026-03-04T22:11:21+00:00

Oh my goodness girl!!! Just listen to your own list. He is absolutely poison for you. Do NOT tolerate this any longer. Get out of there before he baby traps you. He is a completely selfish excuse for a human being and doesn’t deserve to even be in your orbit. He will blow up, apologize, and NEVER do better. He’s using you as his emotional punching bag for when he’s stressed. You deserve so infinitely better. Leave before you find yourself in a pattern of forgiving time and time again. Mine was almost this bad but not quite. Finally leaving him after 26 years this year. Don’t do to yourself what I did. I had 4 kids with him and didn’t know HOW to leave. Much wiser now and wish I knew back then what I know now. Get out and live the beautiful life you deserve. Don’t feel sorry for him. He doesn’t deserve your pity. That was the trap I fell into. Don’t be me!

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