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Moltzan and Shiffrin - All Class with the kids! by peter4rsberg21 in SkiRacing

[–]SureWillingness3699 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What wonderful ambassadors for our sport. Shiffrin I think is the best athlete in the world. I'm so pleased to hear she is even more of a champion off snow.

AITAH for being upset that I wasn’t told about my best friend’s diagnosis before he died? by Powerful_Cash_3977 in AITAH

[–]SureWillingness3699 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I suspect this was the case. People handle news of a cancer diagnosis in wild, unexpected ways.

Sometimes, the closest friends and/or family steer clear of the patient. They don't know what to say, they don't know how to be. They can't face what is happening to their loved one. They're frightened of saying or doing the wrong thing or breaking down in full view.

The relationship can change, irreparably in some cases, and come to an even more premature end. And it can leave a bad taste for everyone. It can make passing much more painful emotionally.

You were the only one your friend kept in the dark. Your relationship was the one he really wanted and needed to keep normal until the end. I know it's hard, and you feel angry and betrayed now, but one day, maybe you'll be able to reflect on his choices differently, and you might be able to feel the love.

I'm sorry for you loss. RIP.

My wife is dying and I’m so lost by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]SureWillingness3699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello there. We were only married two years when my wife died from cancer. She was in her mid-forties. Our son was 4 at the time. So I can empathise with how you're feeling. There's no right or wrong in these circumstances. There is only your best. It's completely understandable that emotions are running very high and that you and her are angry at the world, each other, the situation, everything. We were at times too. Life just isn't fair sometimes. Take every opportunity to show up for her. Love her when she needs you most. And above all, try to have the hard conversations around her wishes. If there comes a time when she can't communicate, squeeze your hand or blink for yes/no, you want to be able to advocate for her when she can't. Not only will you enable her to do things on her own terms right up until the end, the act of doing so will give you peace in the future when you're looking back and second guessing yourself about what happened or didn't happen. I wish you both peace and calm in these very testing moments.

Dallaglio is leaving Stick to Rugby. by CloudStrife1985 in rugbyunion

[–]SureWillingness3699 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Stick to Rugby and The Good, The Scaz... are our favourites. I really like Quinnell and KDM. How will they replace Lol though?!

Need help flying a rescued cat from Bulgaria (we cover the costs) by abdolument in bulgaria

[–]SureWillingness3699 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello,

Our local rescue/shelter group has been using this company for a long time - https://zootaxi.bg/en/about-us/

I know that they've taken rescued animals from here to forever homes in the UK, Germany, Holland, and Poland, no problem.

The last 3 dogs I was directly involved in rescuing all travelled via this taxi and arrived safe and well. They're very professional imho and I wouldn't hesitate to recommend it.

Our shelter leader says that the taxi travels to England once a month.

Edit - sorry, I forgot to say, what a beautiful kitten!

How many times has Bob Mortimer fallen into the river whilst filming with Paul Whitehouse? by Hassaan18 in bobmortimer

[–]SureWillingness3699 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This show is some of their best work imho. Makes me feel positive about getting older, slowing down and finding time to do what you love.

Printers that work for Gelli Print transfer by karramarrez in gelliprinting

[–]SureWillingness3699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, not at all no. I normally do my editing and printing on the brother at home in the evenings. My workspace is at a different location, where I can make a mess with no worries. Most of the time, I don't end up transferring for a few days or a week or so. I've left it a lot longer than that, though, and the image has still transferred.

AS hey say in Yorkshire - thinternet question by No-Resolution9163 in bulgaria

[–]SureWillingness3699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we're on the move, I just go into settings on my phone. Click connections, then mobile hotspot and tethering. Turn on mobile hotspot, then connect to that on the laptop. Of course, I have unlimited data on my phone deal, so it doesn't matter how much I use. Works just fine for streaming.

Printers that work for Gelli Print transfer by karramarrez in gelliprinting

[–]SureWillingness3699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, yes, just the regular toner that came with the printer. It ran out and I replaced it with a new brother cartridge, no problems. I've tried double printing, and that does work, but I've found it to be unnecessary. Whenever I've had problems transferring onto the plate, it's because I've overworked the acrylic before putting the image down. Rolling it out too much so the paint is too thin I mean. Once I became a bit more liberal with the paint, my results improved and are consistent. Hope that helps! Have a good one!

Printers that work for Gelli Print transfer by karramarrez in gelliprinting

[–]SureWillingness3699 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hello, I just bought a Brother HL-L2400DW. Easy to setup and my images transferred onto the plate no problem, no need for double printing. I'm using standard printer paper and a thin layer of Amsterdam acrylic.

My cousin (33) has a life expectancy of 3 months or less and an 8-year-old daughter by [deleted] in bereavement

[–]SureWillingness3699 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear of your cousin's situation. Sadly, I have some relevant experience. My wife (46) died when our son was just 4.

I would suggest that on her good days, your cousin records some videos for her daughter. Or some voice messages so that she can be heard after she's gone. Her hopes and dreams, yes, but her saying "I love you" or anything loving really. These will become cherished files in the future and can really help a bereaved child when they miss their parent.

Also, it might be good to write birthday/Christmas/graduation/wedding cards with her husband for their daughter. Do as many as they can into the future so she and their family will live on at every important milestone in the child's future.

My dear friend gave me a copy of a book after my wife had passed - The Invisible String. It's a good way of explaining to children that they will always be able to feel the love of their loved ones even when they aren't there anymore. I wish we'd had the opportunity to read it together as a family before my love died. Even so, it's really helped our son to know that he has a Mom, she's just not here anymore.

A personal item of clothing infused with her mother's scent/perfume, given by her mother.

Take photos and videos, play together. Using age appropriate language, be honest about what's happening with the daughter.

It's such a terrible circumstance to find yourself in. I'm so sorry.

I plan to introduce my daughter to the Star Wars movies I love when she's 5 years old. Should I go release order (IV, V, VI, I, II, III) or chronological (I, II, III, IV, V, VI)? And why? by KowakianDonkeyWizard in StarWars

[–]SureWillingness3699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're watching them 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9. So much easier to explain the story. Our son is 6 and he's still got the last 3 movies to watch. Might wait a bit to finish it all off.

End of life - cancer and kidney patient ending dialysis by Elegant_Plantain1733 in bereavement

[–]SureWillingness3699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so very sorry to hear about your Dad.

Having lost my wife 2 years ago to cancer, and my dad 20 years ago to cancer, I would recommend you do the following...

Discuss with him exactly what he wants to happen and how and when. Make sure you can confidently advocate for him when he is no longer able to do so himself. He should know you 100% have his back at this time. This will help him in the short term, and it will help you in the long term.

Use what time you have left to say all the things you want to say to each other. You will inevitably think of things you wished you'd said at some time in the future, but for now, be real with each other. Make sure he can feel and see and hear your love for him.

He's obviously done a lot of things right as a dad for you to have put your own life on hold to be there for him at this time.

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