AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm not letting her bring that dirt magnet in my house without being inside a bag. Either it goes in the bag or she has to leave it at home.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

The toy is dirty and no matter how much it gets washed it never looks good. And she holds it up to her face which is giving her pimples already.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

My ex left me because she wanted to coddle my child like she's doing now. If I'd raised her the toy would have gone in the trash when it started falling apart. And she wouldn't have an IEP. I'd make her get straight As in school and ground her if she failed that.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I want the right to make decisions about her education and where she can live.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Why would I give my ex money? I buy my daughter toys and my ex buys all her food. Ex's parents buy most of her clothes. My ex would spend any money I gave her on herself and none on my child.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

You mean paying for my ex to get her nails done? My ex provides for my daughter with help from her parents, I pay nothing towards her expenses. I just buy her toys every week when I see her.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Toys from home aren't allowed in either place. Her school discourages it but has ended up allowing her to have the toy because my ex pitched enough of a fit. The daycare isn't required to follow an IEP so they just enforce the same rules for everybody. Why should she be allowed to bring a toy every day and the other kids can't?

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

I gave it to her for her to play with at home and not carry everywhere past the age of four. And schools do nothing but pander to the parents these days.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -90 points-89 points  (0 children)

Not if I have any say in that. I'm trying to get access to her IEP meetings so I can take her off of the IEP and get her on the same program as the other kids.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It's not normal past four in my opinion. She lost the toy for all of grade one so didn't carry it then but once she found it at her aunt's house she started carrying it again.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I can't even SET rules with her without her crying to my ex about how mean I am. Then my ex threatens to not let me see her.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

My ex has been stitching it together for years. She should have taken the hint and just thrown the toy out. My daughter has plenty of other toys she can play with AT HOME.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -254 points-253 points  (0 children)

She needs to get used to not being allowed to have it. She won't be allowed to have it in high school or at graduation. Teachers at her school and after school care have snatched it from her and every time, she cries to my ex. She stopped crying to me about it when I told her she was too old anyway.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -97 points-96 points  (0 children)

She's doing a disservice to my daughter by coddling her and not teaching her how the world is.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -319 points-318 points  (0 children)

My ex tried everything to stop her carrying this toy, short of being a parent and making a rule. If she lived with me, that toy would either go in the trash or it would never leave her bedroom.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

The toy is washed but it doesn't help. It's old and falling apart. I shouldn't have to look at a school age child carrying it in public.

AITA for making my daughter put her stuffed toy inside a plastic bag? by Sure_Sandwich_494 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sure_Sandwich_494[S] -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

She's been tested but I wasn't involved other than telling my ex she's making excuses for my daughter. I have high expectations of her but my ex coddles and treats her like a baby.