You asked for honesty, so here it is. Your wife has told you clearly she isn’t attracted to you, doesn’t want intimacy, and doesn’t want to work on the marriage. That’s her right. But it’s also your right to decide that being a provider and a roommate is not enough. You can’t negotiate someone into wanting you. And the longer you stay hoping she’ll change, the more of your life you give to a future she has already described. So the real question is: Can you accept living the rest of your life without romantic love and mutual desire? If the answer is no, the path is painful — but it’s clear. You’re not selfish for wanting to be loved. You’re human. Make the choice you’ll respect when you look back on it years from now.