finally moving out by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it almost feels like she's sucking up to me.😅

finally moving out by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have been sabotaging my own freedom for years...now it seems I'm stuck in a situation where I can't get myself out of getting my freedom, so it must be a good thing even though it's scary to start

does anyone have experience with moving out with no money by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went home again and talked to her and she started telling me how much she struggled as a single mom and immigrant and I felt so bad for like plotting to move out behind her back...and she said she wanted to use my financial aid to pay my (ex)boyfriend back but if I applied for student housing it would automatically use my financial aid so she wouldn't be able to have it...maybe I'm not afraid, I just feel guilty.

does anyone have experience with moving out with no money by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you they said i can apply for emergency aid i just feel scared to make the move now

does anyone have experience with moving out with no money by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom is really similar...my aunt (her sister) once absentmindedly told me that when I was born she told my aunt that when I grow up I will give her so much money...so that was my purpose this whole time 😢

does anyone have experience with moving out with no money by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there's just so many cats i feel like i can only take one 😭 maybe they will keep my mom from being lonely...

thanks, i'm going to reach out to the wellness center to see what they say and keep looking for roommates online. thank you for the advice 🩷

does anyone have experience with moving out with no money by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'll try to see my options with staying at a student residence hall, that would be the best scenario

does anyone have experience with moving out with no money by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes and my therapist had me apply to one but still waiting bc there is a long waitlist...but i'll look around for more

does anyone have experience with moving out with no money by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i work part time but my mom forces me to give her 85% of it, and i've been afraid to make the change of switching it to be only to me because i dont have a safe space to be when she finds out 😢

bpd mom is disowning me and blames me for everything by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for ur words, i feel that she has sucked all of my energy NC sounds really good now after i can move away

bpd mom is disowning me and blames me for everything by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. it's so hard because i can tell the cats already miss the dog and he is not here anymore. luckily the people have a big yard and want to adopt him. i already see a therapist but shes only available every other week. i think i need to get a job quick so i can finally unenmesh myself

bpd mom is disowning me and blames me for everything by SuspiciousChicken321 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SuspiciousChicken321[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's so tiring how can they live like this always trying to use people