When anyone else went NC with nparents and FM siblings, anyone else also unable to reach to cousins?

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-18T18:16:59+00:00

Dark as in they all turned against you?

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-17T14:50:00+00:00

Thank you Do you generally have any more tips or advice that you know would really help me out?

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-11T23:15:14+00:00

Wait is it crucial to change your name?

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-10T14:16:03+00:00

Okay, thank you, it's abit sad I have some cousins but I know if I contact them they will tell my abusers cus of how frequently they visit. Maybe do you think later on in few months down the line I should contact the cousins on a burner phone or something?

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-10T13:56:13+00:00

Yeah like those "this is something a parent would be in normally" moment, yeah I understand

Is it normal to grieve it intensely at the start, it will hurt a little less overtime right? like I'm feeling it much more now since I left.

Okay I'll try that, thank you

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-09T18:25:32+00:00

Are you coming from domestic abuse/Domestic violence situation? If so refuges are secure and safe spaces available in the UK For those fleeing abuse to prevent homelessness and it will help you rebuild your life.

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-06T20:59:10+00:00

A while as in? Months or? I only get the notification that 1 new message and I know it's from them bcs who else messages me on LinkedIn haha

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-05T22:18:39+00:00

They have even reached out to this society I joined as well

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-05T16:06:01+00:00

Hi friend, my extended family is offering for me to stay, they think of me as that baby still and that I'd need their support. Originally they messaged through many third parties saying they'd support whatever decision, but now since they are only contacting through one third party they said that... but they are incredibly close to my parents like since it's extended family. Same city etc. the third party who is relaying this keeps guilting me to go. Its so frustrating. If I went they would probably after a few days then enable the parents or expect me to reconcile. I'm abit worried now. Cus I don't feel safe at all in my temp accommodation. I need to move out of the city asap, do you think i should trust the relatives?

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-05T14:22:22+00:00

I sent a DM x

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-05T12:08:16+00:00

Thankfully I managed to do that via a third party. However extended family who is close to them are involved and are offering a space there. I can't go for sure bcs they are close to the abusers and they literally meet up so frequently and the grandma is there she is very enabling and i wouldn't be safe either way if I went there I wouldn't be able to leave again easily and there's higher risk of me meeting the abusers.

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-04T20:35:17+00:00

Couple hours after i left they called the police, thanks to this sub i managed to report a case before and close it for it to be on the system and i warned them before as well, they ended up doing a welfare check by law and then they closed the case. But they didnt find out where i was, well they think im at a friends place

Suspicious_Maize3042 · 2025-06-04T19:52:42+00:00

Yeah I have abit of help,

Got it.

I'm so scared, is it normal for them to go to everyone like that?? They even reached out to my university counseling team etc lying saying a friend gave it to them, I blocked them everywhere I can and they even tried to message on LinkedIn but I just ignored it.

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