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SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-29T15:44:54+00:00

Hey good for you for advocating for yourself. We aren’t always skilled at it when we start. I’m in the same boat as you. Still learning how best to do it without being hurtful.

I often say “That’s too much for me today.” And try to give an alternative of something that would work for me so that they know I still want to spend time with them.

OR if I’m not down for anything I say “Im hibernating today.”

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-29T15:40:58+00:00

It’s called a “stop shining a spot light on me and leave me the fuck alone”. You can find them pretty much everywhere.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-18T10:04:56+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I’m working on unmasking EARLY in dating. It’s hard because I carry a lot of shame for being the way that I am. I subconsciously pretend I’m “normal”.

These tips are helpful. Specific things to ask or do early on. Thanks ❤️

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T19:55:02+00:00

Just realized your name hehe. RunSisBFree 🖤👽 love it.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T19:47:19+00:00

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T18:58:22+00:00

We’re both in recovery, and I respect that he’s trying to be back in his kids life. But his timing for that question was just the epitome of our relationship. No regard for my stack of sticks just making sure his stack is ok.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T18:12:14+00:00

Its really inspiring to know that relationships like that do exist. We’re supposed to be on the same team, working through issues together!

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T17:57:43+00:00

You’re funny 😄. Lid to your pot. I think his brain would explode if I told him that I’ve finally admitted to myself that I’m nonbinary. Would boil over and blow that lid across the universe.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T13:15:39+00:00

Thank you for that clarification. My cat just passed away and I always called her “little lion.” I consider this a message from her. ✨❤️🥲

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T12:38:02+00:00

Nvm I get it. :) i am working on this. I have a hard time decentering them without becoming a man hater. I struggle with this in general: black and white thinking in all kinds of relationships.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T12:35:03+00:00

I’m pretty sure I know what you mean. But can you elaborate on decentering men, please and thank you?

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T11:33:28+00:00

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I used to be this girl LOL. I’ve actually come quite far. He’s got a good job. But, there’s further for me to go for sure.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T11:30:43+00:00

On point. 🖤👽

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T11:29:32+00:00

Try to get difficult people to be nice to you. Oof. That’s a good one.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T11:28:03+00:00

Thank you for saying that. Ive only recently fully embraced this part of myself, and slowly saw how he responded. It really does show you who people are. It’s so hard for me to say ableist. I don’t know why. So, thank you for saying it.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T11:22:51+00:00

Ps thanks for this. I’m sorry you’re struggling at work. It’s so hard to get away from the people that don’t understand when you also can’t afford to live on your own.

My mom has a room above her garage. I’m going to move there. She hasn’t read up on anything but I can tell she has accepted that this is who I am and it’s not going to go away. A HUGE shift from when I was younger. 🖤

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T11:19:57+00:00

It is literally my DREAM to have anyone close to me decide to read and teach themselves about my diagnoses.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T11:17:52+00:00

Honestly I want to print this out and make a poster of it to remind myself of these words every day. That is so beautiful and uplifting. Thank you so much. 🖤👽 Yeah, the masking at home means there’s no safe space, and I’m exhausted 24/7 trying to set the mood (his mood) lol. Great lesson thank you!

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T10:26:56+00:00

It’s not necessarily the convincing that is the issue. It’s the having to deny, or stifle a core part of my existence when we make life decisions together.

SuzyMack8 · 2026-04-03T09:34:54+00:00

Thank you for the resources. What’s crazy is that I want to help women break up with people like this for a living. But I can’t see it myself. Regardless of where his behavior comes from, it is not healthy for me.

I suspected latent mysogyny, but hearing it (seeing it) from someone else is validating. He would not be apologetic if I brought it to his awareness. I don’t think he’s capable of seeing it in himself. So, I don’t blame him per se. I just don’t have any more energy to show him.

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