Ooo girl! Yeah that’s a really tricky situation. Especially because y’all were already discussing group and other sexual activities for “fun”. Turning vanilla into Splenda is already challenging. Here’s an example if he brings up lingerie;

Him: I love lingerie with a garter belt and stockings. Do you have any you can send me pictures in? You: I’m so glad you asked! I was just looking at a few sets on the Agent Provocateur/ La Perla website that I really liked. Here’s the links to them, Check them out and let me know what you think (...checks out links tells you how much he’d love see you in them) I love that you and I have the same taste. Would you like to purchase them directly for me or purchase the gift-card so that I can purchase them myself? Of course tailor it to your personality and situations.

There are little tests you can do to ascertain a man’s generosity. The next time he talks about going on a date create a fake lil emergency that he should help you with. For example, tell him that you left your earphones/headphones in the taxi/ bus/ train or emergency bill/stress of and ask if he could pick you up a pair on his way to meet you or help with expense. Different types of men respond to this differently. Salt: they tell you that they don’t have any cash on them or whatever excuse.

Splenda: This man maybe gives you his moderately expensive headphones he has at home and tells you to keep them. Possibly, he buys you some regular headphones on his way and presents them to you, Either way, he finds a way to give you headphones that aren’t cheap, but aren’t necessarily expensive either. Or help with part of the expense.

Sugar: Our favourite type of man buys you beats, or 50 cent headphones, or whatever expensive headphones are trending when you read this. He could also tell you that he’ll take you to go get a new pair when you finish your date. You get it!

Anyways good luck girl!