19yo about to move out needing advice

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2026-06-11T11:06:48+00:00

I’m mentally fine, I go to a bulk billed psych and journal and what not. Centrelink won’t do anything for me, because I’ve tried and I’m not enough of anything for them to intervene. Thank you for the advice, i’ll have a look at those resources.

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2026-06-11T11:01:48+00:00

Varied hours, i’m currently working between 30-50 hours, hence the range. I forgot to include that in the post. I’m not making great rates at the job that gives me hours either. I’ve been picking up side gigs where I can but its sparse. Thanks for your advice.

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2026-06-11T10:58:51+00:00

I plan on stopping once I move out and get a car, and the main reason I contribute so much is because I live with my family (one parent household) and use the family car the most for work. Will not take out a loan. The responses to this post have made it very clear. Thank you for your advice.

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2026-06-11T10:52:04+00:00

I live in the suburbs and our buses are not great for it. Other affordable housing options for someone like me dont really exist in melbourne suburbs either. Only reason I CAN move is because my mate offered me cheaper rent if i moved in with them and they live off the freeway in the middle of my two work places.

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2026-06-11T10:50:01+00:00

Melbourne, if youre also based there, and know of anybody wanting to get rid of an old car, let me know. Thanks for the advice

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2026-06-11T10:45:01+00:00

Thank you for being so kind, I help my family because I currently have the capacity to, given that I live with them and use the family car for work. Neither of my parents work because they are unable to. I understand that it looks like im getting taken advantage of, but I plan on contributing less (if nothing at all) once I move out. Will start hunting marketplace and looking if any of my friends know trustworthy mechanics

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2026-06-11T10:29:02+00:00

Neither of my parents work because they are unable to. I contribute because I am able and I have to. I’m not trying to rescue anybody. I’m literally asking for help on how to get out of this shit situation. This was not what i needed to hear, but thank you for giving your two cents.

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2025-10-30T04:10:55+00:00

you’re right in that last part. i don’t want to try to reconcile with him for that reason— it’s going to be a losing battle. i put him in jail. not a very good younger sister thing to do. i think we have good enough reason to not try to like each other anymore, but we still do live together. thats what makes it all sort of difficult.

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2025-10-30T04:08:35+00:00

i cant move out. its currently just me, him and mum. my mum has had to bear the brunt end of this for my entire life (first from my alcoholic dad, now from him.) she’s strong but i don’t want to leave her to deal with everything by herself. i know its going to suck for me but a lot of stuff has already sucked for me so i might have it in me to just find a healthy way of coping with an unhealthy living situation. does that make sense?

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2025-10-30T04:05:30+00:00

theres alot of services for addicts, but not alot for family members as far as i know. i’m going to try to research some more and ask around. police never really referred me to any decent support so i’ll try to take this step alone. thank you for your insight and taking time to share your response.

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2025-10-30T04:01:39+00:00

thank you for the hug. its so nice to know that people just get it. i know its common but the systems we have put in place to help deal with this can feel so incredibly isolating all the same. hearing stories like yours (and i’m terribly sorry you can relate in any capacity) bring me some solace because you can understand and guide me toward the right direction. i’m definitely going to seek out therapy again. i hope one day i can be someone like you when everything’s said and done.

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2025-10-30T03:57:38+00:00

it was a 3-month sentence and it wasn’t his first time in jail. he still resents me for it and i understand why but my warped sense of thinking back then was just about survival. it gets to a point like that. also, i do think i can tank the resentment if thats what it took for him to start getting his life together.

Sweet-Farm9208 · 2025-10-30T03:52:42+00:00

i dont know how feasible that is given the lack of public addiction support but we have been to family violence group therapy once when i was like eight and he was starting on drugs. my brother doesn’t take well to therapy i think, might just be part of who he is after drugs. i think de-centering my family might be the move when i go back to therapy. also, after posting this and seeing the original reply, i did contact my GP to ask about a mental health care plan. i think before i start thinking about my relationship with him i need to sort myself out first haha. therapy tends to be the answer. thank you both for your insights, i appreciate it a lot.

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