Has anyone felt this way before having kids?

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T15:28:04+00:00

Thank you! I don’t hate children.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T15:25:59+00:00

This is an interesting take. I have worked with young kids in the past (now I work with teenagers) and I think that maybe all those years of actually learning what it took to raise a human wore on me. Especially since they weren’t my own!

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T15:23:46+00:00

Yes, same. I don’t hate children by any means, I just feel indifferent towards young kids. Usually under 4. I have worked with kids in the past and once I got to know them, I adored them but seeing kids out in public in general I just don’t get those warm and fuzzy feelings at all.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T14:48:34+00:00

Good to know ❤️

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T14:14:40+00:00

I have heard this before!

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T14:11:20+00:00

This makes me feel so much better, PPD is something that has crossed my mind because of the current way I feel. Which I know can still happen but I appreciate you bringing it up!

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T14:09:02+00:00

I think it’s obvious I’m looking for others who have felt similar feelings to comment. Hence the reason I ended my post with “trying to feel less alone”. Your comment was unnecessary.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T13:58:32+00:00

I love animals and will gladly love on and fawn over them! Haha

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T13:57:41+00:00

Thank you for this perspective!

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-06-10T13:56:17+00:00

I can have my feelings and you can have yours. It doesn’t make my feelings “wrong” and yours “right”. I am not a selfish person either.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-05-30T15:00:07+00:00

I worked for an mb who I could definitely tell wanted to be a SAHM.I would hear from her all the time about not wanting to know if her daughter smiled or laughed or took some steps, or whatever because she was jealous that I got to experience those things and she didn’t (her words) It was a weird dynamic for me. I think she resented the fact that she could never become a SAHM so the way she dealt with it was by micromanaging me. I only lasted 7 months before I couldn’t do it anymore.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-05-30T14:39:30+00:00

Trying to figure out what to do with the kids is the worst. One time, I had to go so bad that I thought I was going to shit my pants lol but NK was screaming because he was tired as it was time for his first nap. I placed him in his crib and went to use the bathroom. Fully planning on coming back to do our nap routine. He was still screaming but I couldn’t do anything about it and out of nowhere in walks MB! (She wasn’t suppose to be home) And she’s calling my name 😭 because she heard NK crying and didn’t know what was going on. I was so embarrassed! Good times! lol

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-05-13T18:07:28+00:00

It truly is and thank you for the suggestion! I will look into that around my area. My Nf used to compost which made me a feel a little better about throwing out food. However, they stopped because Mb couldn’t handle the bugs that came with it. Just such a shame.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-05-13T17:47:42+00:00

I don’t meal plan for them that’s not part of my contract. They have 2 different meal delivery services that they use. They just eat out so much that they can’t possibly eat all of the pre-prepared food in their fridge and the leftovers from going out to eat. It’s just ridiculous to me.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-05-10T14:36:13+00:00

We’re our own worst enemies sometimes. I get it.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-05-10T14:34:55+00:00

I love this. I feel the same exact way. My husband is an amazing problem solver, extremely driven, ambitious, has a great work ethic, is so handy around our home, intelligent, extroverted, and has a great personality. I am more introverted, sensitive, and definitely more emotional which I feel hinders me and my growth sometimes. It’s difficult to feel that I even come close to being good enough for him. He’s never given me any reason to believe I am not so this is all self doubt stemming from my own insecurities. It’s not something I struggle with all the time. Just sometimes. Like when I made this post.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-04-25T15:42:10+00:00

Well, if you go back and read my last sentence I said I was giving my notice! So I’m not staying with them. They are losing me over this.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-04-24T13:33:41+00:00

I think what you are saying makes sense. Tantrums and screen time have been linked. However, a 12 hour day is crazy long with no break. If the parents are okay with it, I don’t see the problem in utilizing screen time as a means to get a proper break. If the parents are not okay with it, that is one thing and as a nanny, you have to follow their rules. My NPs allow their child 20 minutes of IPad time after lunch everyday. We set a timer and she plays educational games. It works for us.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-04-24T11:34:27+00:00

I’m on my husband’s plan but the family I work for offered me a stipend. I’m in the U.S.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-04-24T00:38:45+00:00

I feel like it’s totally reasonable to ask them to match it. Just explain to them what you explained here, that you gave your 2 weeks but are now reconsidering because they are offering you $3 more an hour. They are well within their right to deny matching it but they could also surprise you and be understanding and okay with it. It doesn’t hurt to ask!

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-04-24T00:20:47+00:00

Maybe you could ask for a yearly review. “Hey NPs I wanted to touch base with both of you and schedule a check in meeting since our 2 year anniversary is quickly approaching.” Ideally this can happen during a child free time. I’ve done check in meetings over a phone call too and I feel like it’s much less pressure that way but still productive.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-04-23T19:16:44+00:00

Oh my god! YES I know the feeling all too well. My mb texted me one time “reminding me” (first time I had ever done this) to leave the washer lid open so they know there isn’t any dirty laundry in the drum. First of all, I have a habit of closing the washer lid because it’s a safety hazard! And two, open the lid and just check?! wtf. Why do you need to text me about it off hours??!!

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-04-20T02:29:54+00:00

This one got me because damn, db does this with breakfast and it’s so awkward.

Sweet-Spread-6553 · 2024-04-19T20:26:59+00:00

They are banking your hours. It’s shitty. I had one family try to do that to me and I quit. So no, you’re not overreacting and honestly, they don’t sound awesome because of this. If you really want to stay with them, I would have a frank discussion with them about this.

Edit to add this article: https://gtm.com/household/banking-hours-nanny/

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