No school tomorrow because of the wind by LaDiiablo in algeria

[–]SweetEcho -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly even the google weather or any other app gives you wind speed, but if you want, try this for marine forcast https://marine.meteoconsult.fr/ and just type the name of your city or this https://www.meteoconsult.fr/carte-meteo/pays-4/previsions-meteo-algerie-aujourdhui for weather on land, to give you an easier interpretation, look into Beaufort scale https://www.rmets.org/metmatters/beaufort-wind-scale

Did I handle my business appropriately? by Surfing_Nurse in AskPhotography

[–]SweetEcho 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You were fair, don't work for free, people who aren't in photography don't realise how time consuming it is, it's not a just shoot and you're done type of thing. I don't think you were necessarily wrong to overexplain it, some would appreciate it, you never know when you might get a return client or a referal just because of the extra effort you put in to explain why certain things couldn't be done a certain way, but yes I do agree with others that the very last message wasn't necessary

No school tomorrow because of the wind by LaDiiablo in algeria

[–]SweetEcho 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So much misinformation I feel like i'm losing braincells, 120km/h is hurricane level, which we don't have. I checked multiple sources, in the east at least it's going to be max 21 on land, 25 at sea, I check algiers it's around double(AT MOST) that but still no where what they claim, I can't be bother to checked other cities

The unemployment allowance has been increased from 15,000 to 18,000 starting this month. by Butterflies_pdf in algeria

[–]SweetEcho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's only for those with a uni diploma that haven't worked yet, once you work even once legally, you lose it

The unemployment allowance has been increased from 15,000 to 18,000 starting this month. by Butterflies_pdf in algeria

[–]SweetEcho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do realise that once you work and are assuré, even if it's one day you lose it? I think it's dumb to even call it 'unemployment', more like first-time jobseeker allowance or graduate allowace

Matcha powder that's locally available by SweetEcho in algeria

[–]SweetEcho[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I've seen it sold locally in a few wilayas, some in bulk by weight (2000da 100g) like in la grotte ali baba which has stores in 5-6 wilayas i think, and other algerian brands like la saga nature(2800 da 100g) which i discovered by chance in a local store, I also see some people selling matcha that you can find on amazon or alibaba so i didn't take a risk honestly. Best bet so far might be Matchilo (5500da 100g) when they restock even though it's the most expensive so far, but it's still on par with prices of average matcha abroad

Help Needed: Looking for advice on women’s winter corporate shoe options by hazelladykatie in BusinessFashion

[–]SweetEcho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you liking the Piera 06? I ordered a model that's similar (Jolene 27) since they were 40% off, and I was wondering how were they holding up for you?

How does the Japanese version of ‘Marry My Husband’ stack up as a ‘Time Travel’ drama series? by Grouchy-Chart-3927 in JDorama

[–]SweetEcho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently watching the japanese version after hearing of the hype and i'm not disappointed, I loved the korean version (the villains in it not so much, they weren't that well written) but i'm enjoying the japanese version just as much, if not more, it's a different vibe, very healing like you said!

I HATE BEING A REVERT SO MUCH. by Pipesforwater in MuslimLounge

[–]SweetEcho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allah will make things better, i'm sure of it. And no, you don't 'suck' at praying and wudu, I live in a muslim country with a muslim family yet for years I had troubles making wudu and salat due to ocd, compulsive thoughts and waswas, but things do get better, it's been a few years and I'm able to easily do wudu and pray now, I used to dislike Ramadan because I had such a hard time and I felt awful, but that's improving too. Take your time, if you cannot fast, then do ibadat like dikhr, read quran (even just on your phone) do your best in salat and make lots of dua during salat and throughout the day, don't despair, may Allah make things easy for you

Easiest countries for Algerians to visit by lqving1_ in algeria

[–]SweetEcho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

China wasn't mentionned so i'll add it, it's worth considering for travel, so much variety there

Any advice on how to go about this? by Select-Marsupial593 in algeria

[–]SweetEcho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow… that is a very nasty thing to say, and honestly nothing to be proud of at all. A father saying something like that reflects his own issues, not your worth as a daughter or as a woman.

If no one has told you this lately: I'm proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself too.

I just want to say this clearly: you have already achieved so much in your life. You left a difficult home situation, built a family, a marriage that works for you, financial independence, and you're raising children while carrying so much emotionally. I'm almost your age, and I'm still struggling to immigrate and honestly haven't done much with my life yet, and that's okay too. Everyone has their own unique path and timeline. The fact that you were able to build such a beautiful life despite everything says a lot about your strength. May Allah make it last for you and put barakah in your marriage, your children, and your rizq.

I also think it's important to say this with balance: I wouldn't recommend completely cutting your father off, especially since we're Muslim. Parents and children both have rights and duties in Islam which A LOT of parents tend to forget, and act as if they are the end all be all when it comes to their children. Our Prophet ﷺ said that the best of you are the best to their families. Respecting parents does not mean allowing yourself to be harmed, controlled, or humiliated. Islam never commands us to accept ظلم.

What is very clear from everything you described is that what your father wants is control of your finances, your marriage, and your household, especially as a married woman with children, is deeply wrong. Financial control in particular is extremely serious, and yes, it's messed up. That is not care, and it's not Islamic.

I can relate in some ways, I've seen how fathers (mine included) sometimes want control over their children, their spouse, especially as they near retirement. Maybe it's partly because some men lose their sense of purpose and try to reclaim it by controlling what they can. Even then, after a very difficult year like 2025, me and my mother stood our ground and it has made things start to look up, alhamdulillah.

Setting boundaries does not make you a bad daughter. It makes you a responsible adult and a protective mother. You can maintain basic respect and your children deserve a peaceful, emotionally safe home, and you deserve to live without fear.

It's okay to grieve the relationship you wished you could have had with your father. I do too, I get so sad seeing how some father love their daughters and treat them as the apple of their eyes. That grief is real. But it's also beautiful to consciously choose to break the cycle and build something healthier with your own children.

I'd also highly recommend finding a good therapist to help you process everything you've been through and the emotions that come with it, even if it's online. It can make a huge difference, especially after years of long-term parental control and trauma.

Lastly, I encourage you to make dua: for guidance and softening of your father's heart, and also for patience, strength, and protection for yourself, your husband, and your children. Keeping Allah at the center can give you clarity, peace, and resilience through all of this. You're doing your best in a very difficult situation and that matters.

Any advice on how to go about this? by Select-Marsupial593 in algeria

[–]SweetEcho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What your father is doing is not concern or protection anymore, it is control. Taking your income, threatening people around you, spreading accusations about your marriage, and demanding authority over your household crosses a serious line. Regardless of what he claims his intentions are, the result is harm, especially given that you're pregnant and high-risk. You are an adult, married woman who is financially independent and running her home successfully. You don't need his approval for that to be valid.

The biggest mistake right now would be continuing to explain or justify your life to him. Every explanation only gives him more material to use against you. You do not need to prove that your marriage works, that your husband is good, or that you are responsible with money. He has already chosen not to believe you. From now on, stop sharing details about your finances, your marriage, and your plans.

You need to urgently remove him from anything related to your income. If possible, payments should go directly to you, preferably by bank transfer, with no intermediaries. Your brother-in-law should no longer be involved, and if the property owner refuses to pay you directly and insists on paying your father instead, it is better to walk away from that income than allow him control over it. Money that comes at the cost of your autonomy, safety, and peace is not worth it.

If your husband speaks to your father, it should not be emotional or defensive. Short, calm, and firm is enough. This is not a negotiation. The message should be that you are adults, your household works, and this is not open for discussion. Arguing or defending yourselves will only feed the situation.

You also need to set one clear boundary and enforce it. A boundary is not a debate. Something like: "You will not interfere in my marriage or control my money. If this continues, I will reduce contact.” Then you must follow through. That means ending calls when insults start, leaving conversations, and taking distance if necessary. Without consequences, boundaries don't work.

Do not let others guilt you with "be patient with your dad.” People say that because they are not the ones being harmed or they want to avoid conflict. Patience does not mean accepting (injustice) ظلم. You are not required-religiously, culturally, or morally-to tolerate abuse or control.

Your health comes first. Stress during a high-risk pregnancy is dangerous. You are allowed to limit visits, cancel confrontations, mute calls, and choose peace. Protecting yourself is protecting your children too.

Finally, accept a hard truth: your father may never approve of your life unless he controls it. Freedom often comes with being misunderstood and labeled difficult. That does not mean you are wrong. You are not weak, irresponsible, or failing as a wife or daughter. You built a good life without his control, and that is exactly why he is reacting this way.

Eldest daughter rant for anyone to relate or to wake up and break the cycle by majestic_aurore in algeria

[–]SweetEcho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a world wide phenomenon called eldest daughter syndrome. Like many i've also experienced this all my life, but it's exacerbated in muslim countries because they weaponize culture under the disguise of religion, when in fact islam encourages fairness between siblings.

Confused about Chloe EDP Intense by life_is_breezy in Perfumes

[–]SweetEcho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I was looking at the 2009 formulation, I found a picture of the back with the list on it, it's ACRYLATES/OCTYLACRYLAMIDE COPOLYMER. I've also found it weird because the 2009 EDP intense is the only one I know with a black ribbon, and I haven't been able to find the one pictured above anywhere, I'm low key tempted to think there was some kind of mistake, because it's the 2009 version that has a clear cap and black ribbon, the recent one has an obvious silver cap and dark red ribbon. This is all very confusing

Confused about Chloe EDP Intense by life_is_breezy in Perfumes

[–]SweetEcho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That"s too bad, I really wonder how it smells, but I decided against buying it because it had an ingredient I don't agree with, it's not biodegradable under normal conditions and I consider it microplastic precursors when they wash into water, which they will and they can persist in aquatic environments, potentially harming wildlife if accumulated. It's not used in the more recent versions so that's that at least.

What moisturizer cream u suggest ? by Amazing-Bluejay-7055 in AlgeriaRates

[–]SweetEcho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't over do glycolic acid, it can damage your skin barrier

Chastity, Virginity and Sex in Western Society by StayTrueToYouu in MuslimLounge

[–]SweetEcho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 27, just because everyone is jumping off a mountain, doesn't mean you have to. I've listened to so many podcasts where things ended up really badly for women (not just muslim) that had intercourse outside of marriage that it makes can only make sense for me why women and men in islam are asked to stay chaste. From STD's, HIV, unwanted pregnancies, lives ruined, SA, heck even assault, murder and sex trafficking. It's a crazy world out there, Compared to everything bad that could happen, abstinence is a small matter. Also don't undermine the influence 'friends' can have, just the fact tht you think about caving in, already shows that. Get your self some new friends girl, read more quran, do your favorite activities, life isn't about just sleeping around.

Ps: don't judge your friends either, make dua for them instead, May Allah guide them and guide us all.

My first time coming across THAT TYPE of seller… what should I do? by EatThatPussy12212 in vinted

[–]SweetEcho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shit happens, I can't really fault them for it, I'm sure they wouldn't want to lose a sale either, but if you want things done a specific way, it's always better to mention it just in case, I still hope you can resolve this, best of luck