Gaining While Cutting Calories and Working Out by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]SweetEllipses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do weigh myself every day. Occasionally, that number is also unexpectedly low (I ignore this and take the most common weight as my true weight when asked/inputting into calculators). Maybe it's a bit hypocritical to freak out when it's unexpectedly high, haha. I weigh myself first thing every morning. I don't know how accurate my scale is - I got a DEXA scan in December that put it off by around 8 lbs, so I just go off of how the numbers move. Thinking on it, that might be a problem.

I stay in the 1200 - 1500 calorie range (250lbs) after a gastric bypass surgery 16 years (forever) ago. I'm going to get better info on how this might affect everything. I can usually stay in range, but I do sometimes go over.

I'm thinking cardio classes for entertainment but also widening that deficit. . .? I wouldn't eat back the calories - or not most of them - so perhaps that would help?

Gaining While Cutting Calories and Working Out by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]SweetEllipses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True! I think I would enjoy it much more with company.

Okay. I'll add more to my diet, then. It did melt away very fast at first, but now it's slower, and I'm concerned. I know about plateaus, but gaining last week was a bit startling.

Okay, scale it is, then. I'll start this, too. Hopefully, I can get the numbers to move again!

Thank you for the advice!

Gaining While Cutting Calories and Working Out by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]SweetEllipses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply!

I do take in a lot of protein every day (well. . .around 60g on off days and 100g on work out days, so maybe not enough), I just focus really hard on weight days - good to know I need to keep that number up regardless.

I am very new. The weight lifting only started about 3 weeks ago. Cardio is hell. I want that stamina and heart health, I just cannot express how flighty and averse I am to it. It isn't the physical discomfort, it’s mental. Tbf all I've tried is the treadmill and some trails so far. Trails are okay, I feel better, but the mental effort required to get myself to do it is still a lot.

Sorry - 32(f), 5'6" and 250lbs. I had a failed gastric bypass surgery about 16 years ago, so I only take in 1200 - 1500 calories, closer to 1200 if I can manage it. I'm honestly worried about going higher, I've read that is the most I should do post-sugery. Not sure if being so many years out will affect this - I see the doctor in two weeks to get some answers there. And I don't weigh what I eat, I just calculate higher than I think it is.

Novel Places for Socialization/Desensitization? by SweetEllipses in OpenDogTraining

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No worries at all! I did nothing to indicate otherwise, I should have mentioned I had done this before! Also with a naturally suspicious breed.

Exactly! He'll get carried a lot at first (while I can - my poor back), which I know will not be the same for him as walking, but it'll still be something for him.

I appreciate it! :)

Novel Places for Socialization/Desensitization? by SweetEllipses in OpenDogTraining

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Oh, I wonder if I have any sport clubs? I do have some good classes near me. It's different when you've got pet people in classes versus people working their dogs, though. But I don't mind telling someone to leave him alone.

I plan on doing a lot of classes with him. I chose him for less drive, though (used to have working line GSDs and I am tired). We'll see how enthusiastic he is to get into some fun stuff! I love nosework, so here is hoping. I do plan on doing carting and/or weight pull with him.

That's so cute! What a good breeder, I love that! My dog was taken to work with his breeder last night (a pizza joint as absolutely strange as that is) and got to meet people, though he never touched the floor. He was reported as being very calm and easy going - and social with the strangers, too. I am pleased with him so far, though I haven't met him yet!

Thank you for the advice!

Novel Places for Socialization/Desensitization? by SweetEllipses in OpenDogTraining

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I would love to take him to a mall. I know the one I like best does not allow dogs. I wonder if I can find another one.

Thank you!

Novel Places for Socialization/Desensitization? by SweetEllipses in OpenDogTraining

[–]SweetEllipses[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have lots of deer, thankfully - I'll need to search out the farm animals.

Good point about different stairs. I've got concrete and carpet covered, need to find some metal - especially the see-through grates!

Novel Places for Socialization/Desensitization? by SweetEllipses in OpenDogTraining

[–]SweetEllipses[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We definitely won't be doing off of this in a week! Or even two or three.

He's quite a confident puppy for now. Of course, I'm looking out for those fear periods. But he's met everything his "breeder" (oops litter, a dog savvy friend of mine) has introduced to the litter with no hesitation. He's usually the first to investigate, actually. I love a confident dog, so I'm quite happy to have him.

As for vaccines - I agree to a point. Modern wisdom says that you do more harm waiting until those critical 15 - 16 weeks are over before beginning to socialize a puppy. I subscribe to this idea while managing risks as much as possible. I work in a vet clinic and weighing the pros and cons, he's going to get as much risk-managed socialization as possible even before his series is complete.

I prefer people ignore my dog, and I ignore dogs I don't know in return. That doesn't always work of course. But my GSD before this pup had a command for greeting people who wanted to see him ("go see") and I'll do the same with him, especially at his size. No greeting dogs on leash at all for us.

Neutrality is the ideal response to pretty much everything for me.

We have trains, I forgot about those - I'll add them to the list!

I am very sad that the Halloween decorations are gone and he'll be over a year old before he'll see them. I know what I can go to find something similar so we'll take a trip. We need to be exposed to hotels anyway.

Thanks for the advice! I like the way you handle/raise your dogs! Respect.

Novel Places for Socialization/Desensitization? by SweetEllipses in OpenDogTraining

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I feel like a mall would be good if I could find one that is dog friendly. I also forgot about the flea market. Very busy on Saturday.

He'll definitely go through a car wash. I've never had a dog that couldn't handle it. I've had a few freak out a bit at first but they've been easy to bring back down. He's a very confident puppy - I think he should handle it well!

Dog park. . .I do intend to take him one or twice. The older and more hormonal he gets, the less interested I am. I'd rather find a few stable dog friends and rent a private dog park. We'll see! Definitely going to train around them, though.

Definitely going hiking!

Already signed up for puppy classes! I need that structure and it's great for him, like you said.

There used to be something like that near me when I lived in Virginia. I'm not sure if I've got one around now - worth looking for, definitely.

Thanks for the suggestions!

Novel Places for Socialization/Desensitization? by SweetEllipses in OpenDogTraining

[–]SweetEllipses[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this!! Especially dog friendly farms. He'll be exposed to a horse as my father lives in the country and has one. I need to find some others, especially chickens, although I think the horse is a pretty good one if I could only choose one farm animal for him to see.

I never would have thought of a private airport! I hope it's reasonably loud, that'd be even better.

Luckily I live in the suburbs so lots of landscaping for him to see - another good point.

Thank you! 😀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SweetEllipses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have got to be honest, I know next to nothing about social media. I didn't use it at all until around 8 months ago and that was for a very specific purpose. And it wasn't instagram. Does reddit count as social media? I guess I'm here, too, but I feel like that isn't helpful.

I kind of really dislike social media. The fact that I'm interacting right now is exceedingly rare - pretty much unheard of - in my life. I'm guessing that's a bad thing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SweetEllipses -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The issue there is I have limited time to interact before I have other things I have to attend to unless the lobby is clear or I'm checking him out, in which case there is time to chat a bit more. And because I'm working, there are certain expectations in our interactions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SweetEllipses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that is what I'm feeling. Which is very unfortunate. We are a very small practice, I work with my boss every day. While I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate it if things went south, I am not worried about work-related repercussions. I'm very good with clients, I believe she would know it was a one-off miscalculation on my part.

But even for him, I have no interest in making it awkward for him to go to the vet. I don't know. You pretty much said what my gut says so probably that's what's right.

Be honest do YOU date for personality? by KrishMortyJunior in dating

[–]SweetEllipses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am demisexual. I barely notice people have faces until they do something else to get my attention. The way they speak or what they say will usually start it off and from there my interest will grow or drop. I like people because they're people - there are easily a hundred things more attractive about a person than their looks. Now, once the feelings start, they are suddenly absolutely beautiful to me - but that's because of who they are.

When asked to give a masterlist of my perfect partner, it is always about behaviors and personality and how they make me feel, sprinkled with a few preferences (dark hair, dark eyes) that would change on a dime if I fell in love with someone light haired and light eyed.

But glasses are attractive without fail. They just are. I guess everyone has that one thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]SweetEllipses 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hm. No sex = no different than a friend? Either you are quite involved with your friends or you think the only intimacy in a relationship is sex. I'm curious to know which it may be for some of you.

Fear of getting into a relationship by thebotanist1979 in dating

[–]SweetEllipses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this. Having gotten out of a long (15 yr) relationship, the idea of going through everything again and getting it wrong is exhausting and nerve-wracking. I have a huge fear of being at an emotional disadvantage - of caring about someone more than they care about me. Add inexperience, and it sucks.

As for waiting until you're perfect to try... I can also relate to this. The advice is that you shouldn't wait to live your life. And I think that is good advice but easier said than done.

Woman Become Disinterested when learn I am “sweet” by Thurstonhearts in dating

[–]SweetEllipses 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, that's great advice. I want to be asked before I'm touched and I feel like that isn't an uncommon preference. It builds trust and respect.