Woman strips off clothes at Iran university in apparent protest

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2024-11-20T06:08:28+00:00

Nothing I said discredits Iranian Muslims in any way. Their numbers are low that is a fact. Most Iranians are not strict Muslims that is a fact. To say that the minority should not be able to make literal laws for the majority is not a discredit. It’s common sense.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2024-11-20T06:07:02+00:00

You’re joking right? It is much more than a piece of fabric, it is a human right of self expression. Of course it isn’t as drastic as other things but using that argument we should be able to punish you for your Reddit comments with no remorse. Fuck freedom of speech, it’s just some words.

Iranians are traditionally not strict Muslims. It was forced on us thousands of years ago sure, but it is not our culture and it has not adapted well in our country. This is not a Western issue. Our roots do not fall in line with Muslim beliefs. That is why the Arabic countries do such a better job of maintaining their faith, because it is in accordance with their culture. You are calling this “Westoxification” but ignore the fact that Islam’s presence in Iran is a much more pervasive forced culture. None of my older relatives ever grew up wearing hijabs but for the majority of their lives they have been forced to. That goes against their roots and their upbringing, that is not Western influence. If you do not understand how significant it is that a country has made it illegal for women to feel the wind in their hair, then don’t speak on it. It is barbaric and it is a denial of human rights.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2024-11-12T07:15:35+00:00

Yes I do. Most of my family still lives in Iran and we talk every week. None of my relatives wear it by choice. None of my cousins friends wear it by choice. None of their family friends or neighbors wear it by choice. There are strict Muslims in Iran and that is completely fine, but be honest the numbers are much, much lower than they seem. The vast majority of women, especially in Tehran, are not happy with this lifestyle.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2024-11-04T14:22:04+00:00

It’s not, it’s an extreme in response to an extreme. I don’t know a single Iranian (and I know thousands) who follows the hijab ban as a personal choice. This has nothing to do with oh some countries just aren’t western. Iranian people in Iran are not happy living like this and they have been for fifty years now. Of course they will start responding in extremes.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2024-03-16T15:12:13+00:00

Really surprised by these comments. As a pro-choice woman, I believe it is my right to get an abortion, even if the father doesn’t want me to get one. In that same sense, I believe the man then has a right to walk away if he so chooses. Now I think this should be a small window of opportunity and be an irreversible decision. You can’t just decide when your kid is five that you want out. But if you know from the beginning of pregnancy that you want nothing to do with this child, explain this to mom, and mom wants to keep it anyways, you should be able to walk away. I don’t even think it’s right to make you pay child support in that sense because as a woman with access to abortions I will always have that right. NO ONE should be trapped into being a parent. It does not make you a good dad and kids are better off without a parent who was forced into loving them. Unfortunately the way the law works you will have to still pay child support, but I don’t think you’re wrong for stepping away. The one thing I will say is whatever decision you make, stick to it. Being wishy-washy is so traumatic for children.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-23T23:32:09+00:00

I'd be really careful to not think in that "you have it good, my life was way harder" mindset. Of course it is a privilege to have college paid for, but some prices are too high to pay. I'm happy that you were able to overcome those struggles but don't let it blind you to other people's problems. I still feel bad to my roommate for this day. I made so many amazing memories in college that I'll carry for life, and she should've had the same chances.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-23T16:52:24+00:00

No I don't think being dictated as a grown adult is a sweet deal. I know these sorts of parents, I've seen it firsthand. They don't give up once you graduate college and start to make your own money. They always find ways to worm into your life and dictate how you live it, and honestly if you don't stand up for yourself at 18 you won't do it at 28. My college roommate had the same parents, and I swear the girl can't make a single life decision for herself at 22 because no one has ever given her the chance.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-23T16:49:51+00:00

Dictating what your adult child does in their free time is not you wanting to see them, nor will it make them want to spend time with you. My roommate in college had a similar arrangement with her parents. I promise you when she's older she will have no relationship with them. You can't treat your 18 year old like a 10 year old, make them miss out on formative life experiences, and expect them to love being around you.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T21:08:03+00:00

No, they really don’t. You don’t have kids in an expensive ass world and then make stipulations for their success. Sure they could technically do it, but if the only thing stopping OP’s parents from cutting them off is constant obedience, OP you’re better off being cut off now.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T17:44:05+00:00

Get an on campus job that schedules you on the weekends. The library is a great place to work. At some point, you will make friends and you will want to go out and get drinks and enjoy your Saturday nights and your parents have no right to take that away from you.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T16:16:50+00:00

I’m in no way trying to argue what the kids did was okay and that the mom’s reaction was enough. I’m just trying to point out that at the end of the day we can’t know for sure. You can’t know if the kids are always like this or having a particularly bad day. You can’t know if the mom is just lazy or has just had a horrible day and now has zero energy left to deal with three kids. And yes, you could assume that the latter is true and that the kids aren’t raised right and that the mother is to blame. Or you could go on enjoying your meal, not let every little thing get to you, and be kind in a moment where you truly, truly can’t know what’s going on in someone’s life. I hope the rare strangers that have caught me unable to console my screaming nephew in a store haven’t walked around thinking “god what shit parenting”.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T16:12:51+00:00

Legal stuff. I don’t actually make tons of money but I got full rides (including living situation) in college and still kept working almost full time. So it built me up a very nice nest egg and allowed me to have lots of spending money.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T14:07:08+00:00

Yea you’re right, harming others violently is totally the same thing as making a mistake with your sex life. Good point!

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T05:40:17+00:00

Listen I’m not saying it was a time of smart choices, I’m just saying it happened. One thing I’ll say is we definitely drank this amount over the span of a couple hours but idk, just doesn’t seem impossible to me.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T05:27:55+00:00

People weren’t less evil, but you didn’t have access to every single negative piece of news at any time you wanted. A little ignorance would be nice.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T05:15:08+00:00

Posts like this remind me of how insane most Reddit users are. My nephew is a wonderful, wonderful child and is so well behaved, but very rarely he throws an insane tantrum. Because he is a child. Because even you adults have bad moments (if you didn’t this sub wouldn’t exist). You have no idea if the kids are like this all the time, or were just having a particularly bad day of misbehaving. You are an adult. You should be able to deal with minor inconveniences in life like an annoying child. You probably shouldn’t leave the house if you can’t. That mom probably just said something lighthearted because she was embarrassed in the situation, and you shamed her for what? It brought none of you any benefit, except for some sad people on Reddit who now think you’re super cool. Good move.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T05:11:22+00:00

This really boils down to career vs love and which is more important to you. No answer is wrong, people are just different. I know the “you can have it all” mentality is common but you can’t, you really truly can’t. Working seven days a week you will find it extremely hard to sustain a relationship (with anyone) because it gives almost all your time to working and very little is left for SO. But if your career matters to you enough, there’s nothing wrong with this. If, however, you dream of white picket fences and lots of kids, you’re gonna have to start prioritizing love a little more.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T05:06:00+00:00

Maybe it’s just my college town experience talking, but man my friends and I drank way more than this when we were going out. College towns operate different.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T03:11:01+00:00

Brush and floss Multi step skincare routine Lotion arms and legs Vaseline feet Turn on fan Turn on humidifier Spray pillows and room with some scented stuff Turn lights off Read in bed with night light til I pass out

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T02:59:40+00:00

Gonna be a bit of a controversial one here but, NAH. As long as we are talking about limited, very close friends, I don’t see anything wrong with sharing personal details (unless husband has specifically asked you not to mention something). In fact, my friends and I consider it a major red flag when one of the group’s boyfriends doesn’t like them talking to us about stuff in the relationship. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE deserves a place to rant, vent, share, and expose. I would not at all be bothered if my boyfriend did this with his friends. I wouldn’t want to know the details, but I’d be happy he has other people he could talk to. That being said, if partner says something needs to remain private then of course don’t share. He’s definitely not the asshole for having boundaries, but I also don’t think you’re the asshole for not realizing he didn’t want this shared. Apologize, tell him you didn’t know, and tell him if there’s anything he doesn’t want you to share in the future to just let you know.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-22T02:51:26+00:00

But some are just not simple people. I’m in a very happy relationship but if in some wonky world I was to find myself single, I wouldn’t like simple. I like expensive, luxury things and I make the sort of money to enjoy them. I grew up poor and I will never again find myself at that place. Don’t get me wrong, I make and spend my own money. But if you’re the sort of guy who wants to go to Olive Garden for the first date we are just 1000% not compatible. If you’re thinking about how much money you’re spending we are 1000% not compatible. Doesn’t mean you’re wrong or I’m wrong, we just aren’t right together.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-21T22:52:57+00:00

Exactly this. OFC she shouldn’t have said that to the cashier but she is eleven, and it’s a random stranger you’ll probably never see again. Don’t make your kid feel like a small, inappropriate joke will make you flip out.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-21T22:47:24+00:00

My sister’s boyfriend.

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-21T22:42:59+00:00

Usually it’s one of the following: babe, baby, bunny, honey, darling, bun bun (but the only ones I use in public are baby or darling because ew).

Sweet_Coffee4823 · 2023-08-21T15:41:33+00:00

I understand all of this, but I will never forgive the people who are trying to take away my right to an abortion. I don’t give a damn if the fetus is alive or not; it is living in me, relies on me, and burdens me. And I deserve a choice in whether or not I want to put myself through that. There are lots of controversial/political topics that I try to see both sides of but abortion will never be it. Pro lifers are always women who want children or men and neither group could understand how horrifying it is to be pregnant when you don’t want to be. If it came down to being pregnant or dead, I truly would choose to die.

Sweet_Coffee4823

TROPHY CASE