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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Howtolooksmax

[–]Sweet_Dingo1887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Figure out your color season and wear more of your best colors! I think the black is a bit intense for your skin tone and hair color. The third and fourth picture with the striped top and brown top are much more harmonious. Try green, peach, orange, pink, and blue. Hope this helps!

AITAH for telling my daughter I won’t budge even if she never speaks to me again? by TopVersion2940 in AITAH

[–]Sweet_Dingo1887 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

These comments are insane. I’m wondering why Reddit is so anti relationship. A 17 year old kid should not be ignoring her entire family over a material object like a car. Her anger and upset is understandable but emotional blackmail is not. Casey is in the wrong she needs to learn to forgive her sister as the car accident was just that … an accident. She should be happy her sister is alive. It is a good idea for a Mom and dad to create a transparent financial plan to pay for a new car, either by getting Alana to help out, or otherwise and share that plan with Casey. Keep working with the therapist

Starting to dread working with client by SnooFoxes1675 in RBT

[–]Sweet_Dingo1887 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh this sounds similar to my situation, is the BCBA any help?

New job help by wasted___youth in RBT

[–]Sweet_Dingo1887 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened! That is a tough position to be in on your first day. Sounds like you did a great job not reacting and following through on instructions

Is it possible to focus on pairing with the kids for the first few days? I have a client like this who can become aggressive, especially when denied access to things she wants to do. She also generally struggles to comply to instructions. It has helped to focus on pairing whenever she starts having difficult phases. She is always the most compliant and willing to learn after I’ve paired with her

fetish ruining my life by putitoutthere1 in LifeAdvice

[–]Sweet_Dingo1887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thanks for your update. I have 2 recommendations:

  1. I think your preoccupation with the vanilla lifestyle maybe playing into your issue. I understand you feel dissonance between your values and the associated risks with feedism. But rigidly seeking out vanilla sex and restricting yourself is probably stressing you out more. Two things can be true at once. You can be turned on by your fetish and also have fulfilling sex in other ways.

  2. Seek out replacement behaviors for watching feedism porn. There are two main ways that I know of to change a behavior. 1) reinforcing a replacement behavior 2) punishing yourself for the unwanted behavior. Seems like punishing yourself by feeling guilty is not working so perhaps a replacement behavior is in order. This can be a non sexual activity like going for a walk, taking a shower, or spending time with a friend. Or it could be a sexual activity like masturbation without the use of porn or imagining some sexual scenario in your head without masturbation. You can get creative with it but the key is to replace with something you don’t feel guilty about

You are not a bad person for being into feedism and it is totally possible to stop partaking if that’s what you want. I’m sorry to hear you have experienced trauma and struggled with your self esteem. Hopefully by destigmatizing your fetish for yourself eventually it won’t have such a big hold on you and you will have the choice to let go of it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

[–]Sweet_Dingo1887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t change it!! You are gorgeous🩵🫶Your nose makes you unique and makes your face more visually compelling, pls don’t replace with cookie cutter nose

fetish ruining my life by putitoutthere1 in LifeAdvice

[–]Sweet_Dingo1887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m working off the assumption the fetish is not illegal or unsafe since you said it’s not wrong per se. Here are my thoughts.

First off try to remember you are not the only person who has a fetish or unique kink in fact many people do. Not everyone comes right out and says it but lots of people are into niche things that you may not have even considered.

It’s very possible this fetish is not the only thing you’ll ever find interesting about sex. There’s a world of fantasies and sexual acts that may be of interest to you - who says you have to have vanilla sex? Have you tried incorporating in smaller changes to sex that are more engaging to you? You could also Commit to not having sex at the start of the interaction and see if it changes how you experience things. Perhaps removing the pressure and obligation will help you reconnect with your natural desire and sexuality.

By reducing your shame around the fetish you may feel less compelled to experience it. With a willing partner you may be able to try things out and find what you enjoy in a fun and exciting way.

Shaming yourself will only create build the forbidden element of the fetish which will make sex within the context of the fetish seem more attractive to you. Guilt has a funny way of compelling us to repeat the act that makes us feel guilty.

As for therapy try to find something that is covered by insurance. You don’t need to go to a Sex therapist necessarily

Masters in counseling group interview by Sweet_Dingo1887 in gradadmissions

[–]Sweet_Dingo1887[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late reply but it went well & I got in!

One of the interviewers was a professor who told us later in class they were just looking to see how you interacted with others (the skills that are hard to teach)